When the pain of the breakup comes back?
It’s been 3 months since my ex girlfriend and I were together. Before we got together we were close friends(we’re in our late 20′s). So after the breakup; she broke up with me. I feel I lost a close friend and girlfriend I guess. Everyone is telling me the more time that goes by the better it’ll be. Well she wanted to still be friends with me and contact and talk with me. But I felt it was worthless in some ways and wasn’t allowing me to move on. So almost 2 weeks ago I stopped talking with her and didn’t respond to the last email she sent. All of this hurts so much, but after the first week of not talking to her I felt good and proud of myself. But coming up on week 2, I feel horrible. Should I expect these back and forth feelings? This is my first breakup with a girl that has affected me like this. I had been dumped one other time and it didn’t make me feel like this at all. Any advice to cope with the pain? I feel like a crying baby but I still have this attachment.
Tags: close friends, crying baby, email, ex girlfriend, feelings
bro i know exactly how you feel cause i’m going through it right now!! Well i knwo its hard man but just try to keep your mind busy and off her.. maybe she wanted to stay friends because she needed some time. you never know. its not garanteed but nothing in life is garanteed.. just stop talking to her for like 4 weeks or so and try to keep busy and maybe start to look around for some other girls.. you neva know maybe you might find somebody else.. its the best remdy for a broken heart i’ve heard.. never tried it though.. and then maybe give her a call after about 4 weeks and say sup and ask her how is everything and stuff like that.. be honest with her.. and be you.. all girls are not the same and if the girl you like or should i say love (loved) is special then the average mind games might not work on her but then again nothign is garanteed.. well good luck with you man. hope it all goes good . peace..
that happens alot when u really care for someone..i don’t think u are in a place that u can just be friends with her..because u still love her..and then u will never get over her..try doing other things..the more u dwell on it..the more u are going to feel bad..one day u 2 will be friends again..stay strong
I understand. I recently saw a long list of the people you lose during a divorce or breakup, it is devastating:
Your friend
Your bedmate
Your breakfast/dinner partner
Your date
You’ll miss her for awhile, but get out and do you.
This is very normal that your feelings go back and forward. You need to go out and meet other people and try to stay busy. The more people you meet, the lesser the pain will get. Good luck.
Your gonna feel like that at times. Sometimes your gonna feel strong cause your not contacting her and other times your gonna feel miserable without her just wanting to call her or email her whatever the case may be, but you have to remain strong. Try to keep yourself occupied go out with some friends anything that will take your mind off of her. I know its not easy and I hope your strong enough to keep this going.
Well you are going through a rollercoaster of emotions… It is very normal. You must be strong & cut all ties with that person or you will never "get over it"… Who knows what time holds but for now you both need time to heal.
Good Luck
What you’re going through is normal. Deal with the pain, don’t run away from it. The quicker you deal with it the quicker you will get over her. Try to stay busy. You made the right decision by not being friends with her. Give yourself about a month to get over the terrible feeling. This will be roller coaster but it will only get better as time goes on.
STOP CRYING AND ACT LIKE A MAN!
It’s only been 3 months. Some people rebound faster and then some, like yourself obviously, take a bit longer. The only advice to cope with the pain I can give you is to go out with your friends, join a gym/health club, join an IRL social network (real live people you can interact with….no Myspace or whatever)…basically keep yourself busy and distracted. This way you won’t be dwelling on her so much and the hurt and pain will fade. It takes time Man….ain’t going to happen overnight.
Your going to be feelings like this for a while because you truely loved her,you will have good strong days and you will have your low days were all you do is feel sorry for yaself.A breakup is hard,its like greiving,you could be fine 1 minute hear a song and it will all come back,you could be out shopping see something and that lump in ya throat re-appears,i dont believe you can remain friends with a ex not when 1 of you didnt want the split up,shes either playing with your heart strings or feeling guilty for ending the relationship for wanting to remain friends,you done the right thing by not talking to her,just busy yaself as much as you can,some people say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone,dont do that it would just be a rebound job,be yaself and find sometime for you,i know exactly what your going through as it is 3 months since me and my ex split,i still cry,laugh,get angry its all normallike someone else pointed out,you didnt just loose ur girlfriend,you lost your bedmate,dinnermate,soulmate,playmate,aint a nice stage to be in but you will come out of this stronger.good luck to you
the more u loved that person the worse the pain. u will have good and bad days, and sometimes feel as if your not going forward at all, just cut all ties with her, and know that it takes time, its a grief process u go through and still after years and years some people still hurt. no one wants to give up someone they loved, and were close to, it does hurt, join a self help therapy group where u will find others who are also hurting, they will help u through this.