marriage is a full gift of yourself to another person; the two of you become one flesh. and sex is a huge part of that. you want to keep yourself pure, yes, but more than that, you want to give everything to the spouse you’ll be spending your entire life with. that’s what true love is. and wanting to keep that in mind throughout your whole life, especially when you’re under so much pressure from your peers and culture in general, is a wonderful gift to give your future husband.

it’s not impossible to find that guy! they’re still out there. in my opinion, holding a good, serious relationship with someone while also abstaining from sex requires two very important factors: openness and honesty. you should feel comfortable with the guy you’re dating – comfortable enough to talk about anything. and when things start to get serious, your opinions on chastity should be something you readily discuss. it’s important to be up-front about how you feel, especially when it comes to such an intense and meaningful subject. it may be hard, but it will only benefit you down the line – and it’ll save you a lot of stress, confusion, and possibly regret.

i highly recommend getting involved in either your church or any religious organizations on your school’s campus. if you get yourself involved in activities and clubs that reflect your faith, you’re very likely to meet people (and guys your age) who are looking for the same things you are. that would be the best place i think you could start.

also (sorry this is so long, but i swear this is the last thing!), you should look into learning about/studying the Theology of the Body. it was written by Pople John Paul II, but even if you’re not Catholic, it will provide you with tons of really good information and support that discusses exactly the virtues you’re describing here. it could help you find some extra confidence in your virtues, especially in the face of all the temptations and pressures you’re facing! you might find some useful information here: http://www.theologyofthebody.net/. there are also books and dvds out there with tons of info!

good for you, God bless, and stay strong!

"I want to wait."
"I have chosen the same thing."
"I am looking for the same thing."

Don’t believe them. Most guys are virgins because the opportunity for sex hasn’t been there and/or their own hormones haven’t kicked in yet.

That said. Go to church. Church is your best bet to find guys like you are describing.