How can I save my marriage and stop a divorce. Rejuvinate my relationship?
November 22nd, 2009 by admin | Filed in Save My Marriage
My husband has said he thinks he might have married me out of guilt. We had a child prior to marriage. He doesn’t know if he loves me or wants our marriage to work. How can we rejuviante our marriage and work through his feelings to save our marriage???
The marriage itself should be your last concern.
Your first concern is to talk to your husband and determine if he really loves you. If he doesn’t love you, then there is no reason to have a shell of a marriage just to keep up appearances for your child.
Per the bible, love hurts no one and love doesn’t seek selfish advantage. And further, your husband would love you AS MUCH AS he loves himself. If these statements are not holding true in your marriage, then you already have your answer.
Deb, you should spend some time with your husband alone, talk to him, communicate. I am sure you have shared good times together, but also know that if he doesn’t want to stay in it, you should not try to pursue him or he will only hurt you more. I am sorry
Divorces are ugly. I agree with the other two statements made here as well. The first and foremost thing is to talk to your husband. Find out the true reason behind not wanting to be married to you. That marriage out of guilt trip, doesn’t sound very convincing. Go back to the reasons why you guys had sex in the first place. If he married you for any other reason then love, then you’re both just setting up the relationship for failure. Your child should not have to suffer for the mistakes of the parents. Your child is the innocent in this. Listen to your conversation with him with your heart. Find his true concern. You both can make it work. No one should have to get a divorce for any reason except abuse and cheating.
God hates divorce. seek the Lord for understanding and guidance. Happy New year!
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