Ex Boyfriend started talking to me after no word for a year! How do I make him want me back for good?
last i saw him or talked to him was last December. We have been broken up for 2 years now but still saw eachother even after i moved out of his place and 3 hours away. I moved back in to town last november. We still occasionally saw eachother, but only every few months… Just last week he text me out of the blue. Telling me he got a DUI back in january and had been sober for 6 months. He thought not talking to me would make me forget him but "how could i?" I love the guy! He wanted me to fill him in on my life, and what ive been up to… I played cool the best I could, but inside I was going crazy!!! 
Does he want to maybe start seeing eachother again? I know we have to take things slow. The diversion classes and AA meetings made him look at himself and figure out what he wants to be. He told me he wants to be a better person and have a better family relationship. This guy is a bullshitter and total guy…. doesnt express himself at all like he did that night he was texting me. I truely care for him ALOT! and have missed him terribly… I dont want to mess up this possible second chance to get him back. He invited me to a party he may be having in a couple weeks and im STOKED! but also nervious as HELL cuz its been so damn long! I need some feedback and ideas… Hes a Leo and Im a Cancer, if anyones in to the zodiac….. THANKS!
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Thanks for the responses so fast! I just started doing this site. I think its AWESOME! ~~~~ I wanted to add that him an I had never had a serious relationship AT ALL before we met and started dating. We took everything slow. I was 19 and he was 20. Both working an independent… but i was so ready to be serious and i think he got scared. ~~~~ I do not plan on staying the night at this lil party hes having and If i cant drive Im pitchin my own tent… NO SEX. we allready know its good. LOL OMG i juist cant wait to see him. But… IM COOL… im cool…. I have to be….
Oh…. after i asked him why he couldnt talk to me when he was sober, he answered that, he wanted to, but was worried about my emotions. He knows how much i care for him, cuz i never let him forget it. I had drunk dialed him plenty of times throughout the year and text him, yet nothing til now. I thought I may have just been digging the hole bigger by all the messeges…. but they were from my heart. My favorite qoute is: ~~" IF YOU CANT HANDLE ME AT MY WORST, YOU SURE AS HELL DONT DESERVE MY BEST!"~~ That i think goes for both of us in this situation. LOL
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Don’t get your hopes too high.
He may just be trying to fix his past and realizes that he cared about you, but only wants to clear the air and be friends with you.
Unless at the party you notice him spending more time with you don’t get too caught up in this and focus on thinking about what you could change from when you were originally dating.
Also be sure to support him and show that you care about him still with subtle things such as offering to drive him to his AA classes since he probably still has a suspended license. This may make him think twice about giving you up in his life.
Best of luck!
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i cant read all of that coz my heads sore sorry, but if he has basically ignored you for a year, then he must be horny and not getting any and wants to use you probably. or maybe it is just one of them romantic stories lol. good luck either way
u cant make someone want u back. either they want u back or not.
aww thats so lovely, just go to the party and slowly start to get to know him again, sounds like you are both different people to who you used to be so you may need to get to know each other a little but i say go for it
He’s using you.
You give Cancers a bad name.
Hey Sandy, I think the best thing you can do right now is wait for the party (if you decide to go that is). If you really really want him back that bad then no one can tell you to ignore those feelings.
I don’t like the fact that he couldn’t just communicate with you what was going on, it really isn’t up to him to make the decision for you to "forget him" he should have let you make that decision on your own… communication is the key to a lasting relationship (well, one of many others, like sobriety) but if you really think he could actually change (since he is making the effort) then just wait and see…
PS, I hope that there isn’t going to be any alcohol at this party… Maybe it would be best to meet in person somewhere during the day where there are other people around, but where you still have some privacy to talk like two adults… Parties can be distracting sometimes…
Best Wishes…
Well its sweet you wanna get back with him and you are getting all excited but just be careful he doesn’t just want a booty call from you. You are a romantic Cancer and he is a Leo. Leo boys tend to be self absorbed so just be on guard. Good luck