Can I feel love again for my Husband? I want to make my marriage work.?
I have been married for 3 years and together with my Husband for 7 years. I am 26 years old. Everything was going great until a month ago. I felt as though my whole world collapsed. I couldnt decide if i loved my husband anymore. this broke my heart. i kept looking at him and trying to decide. I am off sick from work with depression because of it and i just want things back to normal i keep telling myself.
I decided if i didnt want to be with my husband anymore i was going to end my own life. i am so scared of failing my marriage because i made my vows and told myself i would never stray from my hubby.
i had a turbulant childhood, always moving around and i went to 11 different schools. my dad was never known to me so it was always just my mum and siblings who had different fathers. I explain this as i am trying to put my problems down to my childhood. Perhaps i am just ready to move on as i have never been stable? i knew i loved my husband but i dont know now.
we bought a wonderful house and i learnt to drive and got a new car of my own and got a dog and a good job and eveything i have ever wanted but now i dont want any of it. I hate the way i am feeling. I know i have to stay and try and sort things out with my hubby but i cant even go home, i am staying with my in-laws as it upsets me to go home.
as i have said i wanted to die because of these feelings taking over me but i dont know what to do. He hasnt done anything wrong and is the sweetest guy in the world, i just dont feel that buzz any more and how do you know if you truley love someone?
My mum was married 5 times before she died when i was 16 and she had 7 children. I dont want to be like this and have worked really hard to avoid it but I am now at breaking point.
Please help, I need encouragement to stay and battle through. I dont want to run away again.
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Im sorry that you are having these feelings, it sounds like you are very depressed and that’s why your having doubts in your marriage that is the reason you are doubting your love for your husband you need to go see a dr. now they can help you sort out your doubts and maybe give medication that will help also i think you love your husband and your scared that you will turn into your mom listen your not your mom you had a rough life that is making you doubt your feelings talk to your hubby about what is going on he can help you, and your in laws love you their letting you stay with them you are loved know that and don’t ever consider suicide that doesn’t solve anything and it hurts the people that love you remember you are loved and important to alot of people please go get up now
I’m so sorry.
Have you considered, or are you seeking treatment by a therapist? Have you discussed this with your doctor? It’s probably a good idea to talk to a professional.
Your issues likely stem from your childhood. You had to move all the time and i’m sure you were uncertain of a lot of things. Now you seem to have abandonment issues, along with the depression and the struggling.
Please take care of you! I don’t want you to run away again, either.
You guys need time apart to miss each other.
Hi from France ♫
Only YOU can know that Miss …However it seems you try to repeat your past / childhood !.. Change that so !.. Now you know !
Have a great day,
Cat.
by the sounds of it you are nothing like your mother…….you are trying where she always gave up and moved on.
you should get help for your depression as it can make you do things you will later regret
if your hubby has done no wrong maybe you should hang in there
maybe you have fallen out of love with him but whose to say you wont falll back in love with him
the 7 year itch???
your parents didnt give you stability and so maybe you are bored………..understandable
but if he really is a nice guy i think you should go to the doctros and ask for help with depression xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hey Sophie… (if thatz you real name).. Do you know the reason that you are sticking on with your husband now.. "Its because You love him".. and "you want to make your marriage work".. hey pal.. you do not have to put any extra effort to make your marriage work. and you know why.. Its because of your love for each other.
I see that your childhood has been hell.. and that has put you to greatly depressed state and you have not been able to share this with any person…. until now.. even when you have the chance. You do not have to run anywhere. You said you need encouragement and help to battle through this.. Well my dear .. turn to the love of your life..
Both of you spend a FULL DAY alone .. share with him your heart break.. break down to tears.. break your heart and cry loud for sometime.. lay your head on your husband’s shoulders.. and … tell your husband how much and much you love him.. .. and you will see the one great relief you have been wanting all your life.. and that you have shared it with the most SWEETEST PERSON of your life.. What else could be great…!!!..
Good Luck.. and God bless you!
you probably love him but want some new adventure with a new onside man. If your husband agrees you can have a bf, as long as he gets a gf, then become open marriage. I know the feeling of being ‘trapped’ forever with same spouse. you need the newness of a new relationship.
You need to see a therapist to help you deal with everything, including your childhood and by doing so will help every aspect of your life i’d say. When you love someone, you just know if and wouldn’t have any questions or doubts about it, thats just something you no. My opinion from your question and what you’ve said is you need therapy cause you have emotional issues that need attention and need it right now so take this step in your life and i promise you, you won’t regret it and when all said and done you’ll be so glad that you did it. and will feel so much better about everything in life and will be able to feel happiness again.
I feel for you, I’m in the same boat. If you want to talk just e~mail me-heathers74@verizon.net.