So why do people try at love again after being emotionally hurt/damaged?

They say they will never love again, nor trust again, yet they end up with a new situation. Does bitterness/hate really change. It’s funny how one minute they cry and whine than the next all happy in la la land again. If love has hurt you why even try at it again, and risk pain?

One minute cry over sappy heartbreak music than the next all giddy to some silly love song.

So love is bi-polar?

  1. jude, 06 December, 2009

    pain never leaves u where it finds u, life does go on and people do eventually decide they want to love again. u still may feel the bitterness for the person who hurt u, that doesn’t go away, but i think people eventually realize there is life out there after a breakup.

  2. primalclaws1974, 06 December, 2009


  3. crazy English chap, 06 December, 2009

    yeah its like burning your hand on an iron, and then once it heals, they go and do it again, knowing that the first time it really hurt,

    I guesss some people believe that if it is a different person that they are with it will be all better this time round?

    these are usually people that are not self reliant, but look to others to fullful them,

    very weak if you ask me !!

  4. Atton, 06 December, 2009

    They try to make the pain go away. when your hurt you try to find someway to make the pain go away wether its to try and be happy or its to be sad.

  5. Alyssa M, 06 December, 2009

    cause the dick is soooo damn good!!

  6. Kara-lynn, 06 December, 2009

    when you put it that way, yes i guess you could say that love is bi-polar. i think it is good that people try again after being hurt. just because one person left you hurt, does not mean the next person will. how can you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, if you give up after being hurt by some jack***?

  7. Tracey, 06 December, 2009

    Great question. You are right that love is bi-polar. great way of putting it by the way. The reason i feel we are that way down one minute then up the next is because of time. Time heals all wounds and we want the excitement of a new life and relationship. Just to go through the pain again. We also learn from that pain and makes us stronger.

  8. sparkwing_dimond, 06 December, 2009

    People say a lot of things when they are heartbroken. But with time they get over it. Love isn’t an easy thing. Its a gamble. To just shut down after the first time someone dumps you doesn’t make you strong it makes you a coward. Love is one of those nice things that its worth trying for.

  9. Kalixte, 06 December, 2009

    why? hope.

  10. Pretty Vacant, 06 December, 2009

    Because no one wants to be poisoned by their ex’s actions.

    It’s all a learning curve. Each experience teaches somebody something different. They are bitter about it at the time because they cannot understand the reasoning behind why something has happened – we were so happy – why did it end? And it goes on like that for a while. But then you see that the experience has taught you something that you can put to use in your next relationship. Bitterness shouldn’t last forever.

    In Memoriam by Tennyson "tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". You don’t see that at first… it’s only after the healing process that you appreciate it.

  11. Sophia, 06 December, 2009

    Sounds like you need to watch some Moulin Rouge. Love is all you need. It’s a crazy game but it’s better to have loved than to never have loved. Why give up? Pain is a hard part of the game but you have to pick the pieces up and get out there again. You’ll never find a significant other if you just say screw it. Who wants to be lonely?

  12. Blackstroke, 06 December, 2009

    Time heals heart ache, it doesn’t heal loneliness.

  13. myrika_05, 06 December, 2009

    Yes. Its because the best feeling in the world is to be inl0ve. Its just like negative and p0sitive. If u fall try to stand up.its really unexplainable.

  14. everyones_favorite2004, 06 December, 2009

    LOL bipolar

  15. Art M, 06 December, 2009

    Lol, yeah you nailed it. Love is bi-polar!

    So that manic period is what it’s all about. You seek it out, you nurture it, you cuddle it, you protect it with all your heart and soul, but then like a child it eventually matures and grows up and moves away, or dies tragically in a horrible cosmic traffic accident.

    Then after a period of mourning, you discover that you are ready to have another one, and that you won’t make the same mistakes, and this time it will be different.

    And it will be different. The next one will die in a fire, the next one in a train wreck, and so on.

    And each time you become more mature, less demanding, more realistic, less controlling.

    And, eventually when you are old and dying you finally have enough maturity to have a simple, loving relationship with another mature, loving person and you just accept it for what it is, and what it isn’t, and you take the good with the bad, and then you realize that even the bad is good because it is all part of the same grand symphony of emotions, and if you didn’t experience those lows then you would never understand the highs.

  16. do we have to go there?, 06 December, 2009

    It’s human nature

  17. relationcounseling, 06 December, 2009

    Love is only perfect in Christ. As we live we will love and because we are not perfect we will go through relationships that will fail. These fail relationships teaches us many things about ourselves. We will grow in these relationships. We will learn a lot about ourselves. We are humble in our pain and seek answers. But once we are lifted in our spirit we will try to love again and again. We can’t give up on love because Jesus is love so therefore we know love is good. Enjoy life and love. Love yourself and you will find love.

  18. Neicy30, 06 December, 2009

    What’s life worth living with out love? With out having some one to love or having some one loving you back? Life is a big chance we all take every day. Every decision we make in life are chances we take. You can’t be afraid of getting hurt or getting knocked down. You can’t live in fear of those things because then you won’t be living life to it’s fullest. Yea when your hurt you feel like your whole world is crashing down around you but it’s a feeling and eventually it goes away. You can’t stay down. You gotta get back up, dust yourself off and try at it again.

    That’s life. Finding love is such a blessing. Sometimes it isn’t forever but to have loved once is better than not loving at all. When you put your walls up and don’t let no one in, you find yourself in a very lonely place and very bitter. Love has it’s ups and downs just like life does but life with out love to me personally isn’t much of a life at all.

  19. kym o, 06 December, 2009

    Love is bi-polar and over-rated.
    Try to get a life without all this bullshit.

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