Comments on: Did I ruin us getting back together because hes mad at me?

By: sunshine07

sunshine07 — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:09:02 +0000

Part of being a married woman is knowing when to remain silent. I understand we need outlets..however, consider his feelings and embarrassment to his indiscretion. If he went around telling his friends, ex’s and parents about something horrible you did…you wouldn’t like it. Marriage is sacred and in most cases, it should be private. One of the things I regret most when I was married…was talking and telling too much. Learn from this sweetheart and move forward.

By: mrs g2's killer kitteh

mrs g2's killer kitteh — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:09:02 +0000

So he’s the one who did wrong, and he’s mad because you didn’t keep it a secret? Frankly, I’d be hoping he leaves for good. He’s not much of a man, is he?

By: Steel Chimera

Steel Chimera — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:09:02 +0000

depends on the guy… did he cheat when you were together or separated? Were the terms of your break clearly defined as to whether or not you would be faithful? There is no clear answer to this question but if he thinks that you’re gonna run your mouth about every screw up he has then it may effect the relationship… or he may just do the same to you to see how you like it.

And what do you mean by "another bf"? Were you seeing someone else too or do you mean a guy friend?

By: M. D

M. D — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:09:02 +0000

He is mad because he is ashamed of himself.

He cannot reasonably expect you to have shouldered the burden of this terrible revelation by yourself. If you can’t trust him to be faithful, and you aren’t even allowed to turn to those closest to you in your time of need when HE lets you down, does this man really deserve you?

HE is the one in the wrong here – not you. Do not let him weaken you by acting angry to make you back down and compromise. You have done noting wrong. All you have done is seek comfort in those closest to you when he let you down.

If he doesn’t want you confiding in others, then he needs to step up to the plate and become dependable. He needs to be everything you need him to be.

By: Dennis

Dennis — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:09:02 +0000

Don’t make his issue your issue. He cheated on you!!! It takes a lot of concerted effort to overcome that breach of trust. The reason he is mad is because he was found out by someone besides you. People don’t like it when their true character is exposed. I think you need counseling before you get back together because you are much more hurt than you think. He is going to have to prove to you that he can be trusted which doesn’t even appear even to be on his radar yet?!!