The best way to handle a breakup ?
December 22nd, 2009 by admin | Filed in Getting Over An Ex
I’m experiencing my first heart break and, I was wondering what I should do when I have thoughts of my ex. Is it best to just think about him and allow myself to get sad, or should I try to distract my thoughts away from him? Thanks for any help!
Tags: Heart Break
Keep busy. Run, clean, read a book, watch a non chick flick movie, hang out with your friends, etc. It only hurts for a little bit…this too, passes. Hang in there.
theres never a right time, a right time to say goodbye…
vent and see other people.
you need to think about it but dont spend lots of time on it
Find another dude, it distracts you in a good way.
Don’t break up is the easiest way to handle a break up.
just don’t dwell on the thoughts of him…
i think the fastest way to get over him would be to think about something else. thinking and dwelling on him will only make the healing process harder and longer
im sorry you are hurting.
good luck.
Eat Ice-Cream!
the best way is get back with them and be miserable that way. Better than being alone and miserable wihtout them. Im a big suck.
The best way to handle a breakup is to patch up.
You are wasting time in thinking.
Its good to think about what you had with him.
But not to the point where it effects your day-to-day life.
Take your mind off him and think of someone new and try to go for it.
If it doesnt work, dont give up =]
Take a day, and just be sad. Call up your best friends, pig out, cry hysterically, and be sad. You’ll feel the pain no matter what. You can put him out of your mind but eventually you’ll burst. Don’t try to numb it. Just let it all out, and you’ll feel better quicker, I promise!
delete him from your phone
get rid of anything that reminds you of him (or atleast put it away)
stay busy
take up a new hobby
stay in touch w/ family/friends
exercise
pamper yourself
go out w/ some new guys even if its light & just for fun
good luck!
Try to get over him and focus on something more important. Find someone new to like. I’ve had trouble with this too and when your ex starts liking you again, well, most of the time you don’t like him anymore. Eventually you’ll get over him. Hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck!
Think about the qualities your friends have that are better than his, eat chcoclate and watch your favourite dvd boxset, have a good cry if you have to, don’t keep it in.
Take all that experience take it for what it was and be happy. Its a hard thing but overall you will get over it. Its hard of course but continue on with your life. There is no reason to be sad when this world has a lot to offer. Just be happy with what you did and continue to do things you like and cheer up theres a lot of other fish in the see.You’ll have many more great experiences. Learn from what good and bad came from the relation take it and learn from it. Good Luck and cheer up be happy!
Breakups and heartbreak always suck. They will always hurt. But without feeling that hurt, you can’t move on. Don’t do anything that feels unnatural, like dating, just to distract yourself from the pain. It’s okay to be mopey. I usually bury myself in work for a while so I don’t have to dwell on it, but at some point, you’ll have to think about it again. Just hang in there for long enough and it’ll get better. Whatever you do, though, don’t hang out or chat with your ex, that just makes matters worse. Avoid them if you can.
i think u should have clean break.. no talkin to him
try not to talk about him.. unless its to vent bc u should
always get bad thoughts out in the open.. u should
spend time with friends or just to urself .. or if u have
somebody else in mind.. u should try spending time
with some1 knew.. that always helps..
I can’t tell you when you’ll get over it. But, I can tell you that you most definitely will. Sometime.
its normal to think about it. but don’t live in the past, keep your options open, and try to remember how great you are and how much better your gonna be without him. its problem the best thing that could of happened because now your free to date around and find the right guy for you.
First and foremost, remember why u broke up. You are human and You just cant turn off ur feelings for him, and your probably having second thoughts..The one thing that helps the most is time,sorry theres no way around it..but ur heart will calm down and eventually you will realize it was the best thing..or wouldn’t you still be with him?
geez, that’s tuff, ummm, i’d say try to keep busy, and be friends, if you can… maybe try something just for you? like learn how to cook a different type of food, or try to learn a new skill,… one thing that i know is that for better, or worse memories fade, if you let them….
Allow yourself to be sad, you do not want to keep this all inside. It will just come back later on in your life as unresolved issues.
But don’t wallow in it. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to talk to a friend, do. But not all the time, and only for a little while. Distract yourself the way you can. Complain about him (in the privacy of your room with your best friend and not really being serious) it does help a little.
It gets better everyday, little by little.
I am going through the same thing…If you believe in God pray….Time will help you heal from this pain. Things that are not meant to be don’t work…things that are will. Love yourself enough to know when it’s time to let go. Sometimes when you fall in love…you can love the other person more than you love yourself and then you feel like you can’t go on with out them….But you will…believe me…you will and this too shall pass.
I think the best ways are:
1. delete the bad memories from your mind. try to only think of the good times you had. When you remember bad memories it will only make you mad, or start you venting to people who dont want to hear it, and if it gets back to your ex, you will look desperate and spitefull.
2. remove the playlists on your ipod/itunes etc that have YOUR COUPLE songs on it. They will only remind you of him.
Music is a very intense thing, so find some new songs that you love and make some good single memories with them so when you find yourself alone – you dont relate every song you hear to a boy who hurt you.
3. treat yourself. now is the time to splurge a little. have that entire chocolate cake, and a drunken night out with your girls.
BUT
4. make sure you follow with a list of resolutions – now you have had your splurge make some promises to yourself that will result in a happier you. Often this can be losing weight for some people, but anything that will make you feel proud of yourself will do.
5. dont ignore him. Now you have had some time apart there is nothing wrong with the occasional ‘hi, how are you doing?’
this is especially important if you share friends or see eachother a lot.
and finally –
6. GOLDEN RULE dont sleep around.
some people like the whole rebound thing – but if you have just been dumped or gone through a hard break up theres nothing worse than feeling like you have no self respect. You are gorgeous, and therefore you can wait for a gorgeous guy to come along before you let someone be intimate with you again.
I know this was long but good luck hun!