Why do self-declared nice guys always whine of getting dumped for someone they think are jerks?
December 30th, 2009 by admin | Filed in Getting Back Together
But I never hear a nice girl whine about the same thing. There are many "nice" girls I see out there, single. The plain Janes as some people call them, but I never heard even one of them complain about being rejected for being so nice.
Tags: girls, Jerks, nice girl, Nice Girls, nice guys, plain janes, Whine
I think a lot of men are completely baffled by women. Women are walking contradictions, it takes sometime to work that out. Dads just tell sons women are ‘nuts’, which doesn’t really help.
Guys do whine about this a lot……… I think women find it easier to form friendships and socialise and attract men. Guys are more insular, often lonely and damn horny from 16.
When I was a teen I had a mom who made me feel like I was 7ft tall and all women should bow down to me. Now she taught to be respectful to women, but she built up my confidence so, that although I wasn’t Brad Pitt I never had the confidence issues my friends did.
I took rejection as part of the game, when most of my male friends would not approach women. They’d just moan that women liked bastards, so I agree with you.
Some guys are just TARDS!
Bitter losers always find ways to put blame on others except themselves.
That’s because guys usually have bigger egos than girls, so when they’re dumped for someone else, they have this panicky instinct to make up a good reason to explain being dumped other than the fact that they were in fact uglier, stupider, ruder, lamer, etc. than the other guy. This explains why they’re "self-declared" nice guys. Girls, on the other hand, can be conceited, but we’re usually perspective and know our place on the social ladder, etc., so we usually accept the truth. Also, the nice girls are too nice to say that they were dumped for jerks.
But there are really some nice guys out there getting dumped by jerks. =[ It’s sad.
I don’t see many "nice" girls being rejected. Nice guys get dumped a lot, for the exciting SOB’s Often by the nice "plain Jane’s.
I wonder what their definition of "nice" is?
To be cool and friendly is one thing…but to be a pushover…well yeah thats where your pathetic
Simple — Men don’t dump women for being ‘too boring’ or ‘too nice’. Although women do dump men for these reasons.
By claiming that stable, emotionally mature men are ‘boring’ these women show a damaged psyche that craves the kind of disorder and instability that only an equally immature male mind can bring.
LOL..
Those "nice guy’s" are not complaining about being dumped, they are complaining about not even having a chance.
The nice girl situation tends to defuse itself more times then not by the simple fact that women do not have to initiate a relationship. In most cases plain Jane ends up with an older male looking to settle down or normal relationships.
There just isn’t that many " single plain Jane’s" out there to justify a comparison because of how much larger the number of single shy guy’s there are.
we feminists have succeeded in feministing those menz.
Well, guys know when they snag a good one, to hold onto it unless they are stupid.
When girls meet a nice guy, they change their mind or panic or whatever, and decide to go for the not-nice guy.
This typically starts the cycle of the short-lived relationship with the not-nice guy, then the girl going back to the nice guy, or another nice guy who picks up the pieces and build her self confidence back up. Then once she feels better, she stabs the nice guy in the back, goes for another guy and the cycle continues.
It’s a classic senario.
Reminds me of the old complaint: "What has she got that I havent?"
I’m a nice girl – I got dumped. Unfortunately by my husband, leaving me with two small children, but that’s life.
I think the difference is that good looking nice girls can always get a boyfriend but good looking nice guys get rejected in favour of not so good looking jerks. A man will not drop a good looking nice girl for a less attractive bitch.
actually, go to the marriage and divorce section, there are plenty of women who b*tch about their man coming home from work, drinking beer, and not doing anything around the house.
I don’t whine, makes my life that much easier.
I agree. My boyfriend’s best friend has been single almost all his life, and to my knowledge, he’s never blamed it on his niceness. (And he is a genuinely nice guy.)