What if all my attempts to mend my broken heart and learn to love her again fail?
August 3rd, 2009 by admin | Filed in Ex Girlfriend Back
I loved her with all my heart for over 25 years, then she broke my heart. After months of pain and suffering as she prepared to move out, she changed her mind and wanted to work things out. I said ok lets try, but I don’t feel the love I did, and wonder if I ever will again. Is it possible to love someone again after having your heart ripped out and stomped on?
If you trust that she has the best of intentions then it is always worth working things out. It will be hard to trust in a heartbeat but over time you two can get things back to how you want your relationship to be.
I would start by working on the problems and talk everything through. Once you two get to the point of being partners again the trust should be gained again and although it takes a lot of time you won’t feel as broken as you do now.
I’m sure the love is still there but your heart is just very wounded from all the suffering you’ve gone through. Take your time to heal and everything should be good again.
yes but the trust wil be different! U have to forget the past to move forward if u can’t u won’t love the same period!
Yes, but you may need some time to heal first. When you are able to remember and appreciate the good things, that will be the time to think about trying again.
It may take a while to get there. It may even never happen.
That is life.
It takes total forgiveness, which is so hard to do, but that love never comes back, it’s like they numb that feeling in you, when they hurt you.
Then at least you can say that you tried. What you are feeling is normal; betrayal is so painful that many people rarely recover from it. If she means that much to you, go into counseling together if it applies in your situation. Your trust was violated; you were hurt and now she realizes what she has done. It’s entirely up to you to take her back and to work it out if you want to but, if you cannot handle living with someone you know you cannot trust, living separate lives may be the best thing in the long term.
Sorry for your troubles and good luck.
I think it is possible to love a person again if you don’t hold it back, if you can overcome your own fear of getting hurt again.
Depends on how deep the pain is! I would think after 25 years and the love of my life I would explore every possiblity before I gave up then and only then will you know! Time and a good frame of mind makes a difference on the outcome! Good Luck!
What a mess~!
I’ll leave it up to you…you said you love her.
Maybe But I would worry she would do it again. I have been here I know.
sure. you can love someone again after 25 years. it just takes a little bit (ok, a lot) of time to start all over. if you really really like her, i say stay with her and try to work it out together. but u say that u don’t feel the love. so i say move on. sooner or later, you’ll forget how gorgeous she was, then you’ll forget the exact shade of her amazing eyes that you used to love so much. . .and then bam, you wake up one morning to find that she’s not in your head anymore.
I think you need to talk to her and see why she came back? If it was just ease of what she’s used to and wasn’t "brave" enough to start a new life or if someone she left you for broke her heart, these reasons don’t mean she came back cause she loved you, she came back cause it was easy, I would find it very difficult to love someone who didn’t love me but stayed with me because of convenience. However if it was love, it would make me think that she is capable of returning back to what you had and although you were the hurt one, she is leaving what she might have had to go through this with you, and prove herself again.
My answer to this would have to be there will always be someone out there for somebody and she might have been your love but it would be best to let things go and leave the past as the past and look for better things and love for the future because you never know. It never hurts to love again and you will find someone that your were meant to be and love with again and don’t let one person make you doubt twice about loving again.