Does my ex boyfriend want to get back together?
Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months. We were extremely close to eachother and our familys and we both really loved eachother. The breakup was rough especially for me since I was the one who got dumped and it was totally unexpected. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week. We still kiss eachother and "hookup" and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public. I told him im starting to like him again and I have feelings for him, and he said he has feelings for me as well, but he doesnt want to hurt me again. I have already felt the pain and i know i could NEVER feel that bad again. So if he treats me like this why can’t I just be his girlfriend again? Maybe he doesn’t want to be tied down, but what’s the difference? Because right now we are "friends" but friends don’t "hookup" if you know what i mean. But i truly want to get back with him, whats going on here? :/ ohh & he calls me baby, and brought me in front of his family again like it was no big deal. It sucks because i get the urge to tell him i love him, but i can’t 
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To me, sounds like you are needy and he is taking advantage of that. Improve your low self esteem.
Right you have to have a talk with this guy. You have to ask him if he wants to be in a relationship with you because if he doesn’t then he is using you and he’s doing it in front of everyone.
Tell him that although you were hurt when he dumped you, you have forgiven him and want to give the relationship another go. You know there’s a risk of you getting hurt again but everyone takes that risk when you are in relationship and he would be the same.
Friends don’t hook up and that’s why you have to make sure he’s not using you. He’s got all the benefits of having a girlfriend right now without the commitment – technically he could hook up with other girls without it being cheating. This guy is having his cake and eating it too – he’s got the best of both worlds.
So have that discussion and see if he wants to be in a relationship. If not, as tough as it is, you have to walk away. You cant allow yourself to be used this way as you will only lose your self respect.