Is it hard to get over an ex without getting any closure?
February 2nd, 2010 by admin | Filed in Getting Over An Ex
Some peolpe tell me that i need to contact my ex and ask him to go foe a cofee so i can finally get closure.I haven’t talk since he broke up with me.This was 2 years ago.So do you think i need closure so i can get over him?
No. I think if you contact him, then you run the risk of starting back at square one trying to get over him. There is a chance that what you have gotten over so far will be resparked.
in some ways yes. try to contact him and atleast tell him you feel you two didn’t get any closure.
Nope do not contact him the best closure for you is to think about how quickley he’s gotten over you. Stop thinking about him because he’s not thinking about you anymore.
What is all this closure crap? Closure is what happens when you end it. There is no explanation needed. You either choose to move on or choose to continue to let it all hold you back and keep from moving forward. No amount of talking is going to change that or make it easier!
You just have to get up and keep living life, even if you don’t want to!
That won’t help you. You have closure, but you are choosing to keep focusing your attention on him. I actually think meeting him for coffee would be a step backwards as far as moving on. If you are still holding onto feelings for him, then seeing him is going to be difficult. He may not even have the answers you are looking for. The relationship didn’t work out, it’s time to let it go and move on. Do you think he’s still pining away for what might have been? Probably not. Closure is a myth anyway. You can have all the answers to all of your questions, but until you choose to let it go and start living life, you will always be stuck in this rut. You don’t need closure, you need to morn the loss. You need to force yourself to understand and face the fact that he is gone and is not coming back.
don’t listen to your friends – there is no such thing as closure – all asking questions will do is just create more questions.
It’s rediculous to contact someone after two years to rehash the downfall of your relationship. You want to know why it didn’t work? You two were not compatible. That is all you need to know. That is all there is, it is all there ever really is when a relationship fails. Why you weren’t compatible doesn’t matter – you aren’t working on it anymore.
The only thing holding you back from moving on is yourself – it has nothing to do with him anymore – you are afraid of being hurt, so you keep yourself out of situations where you might end up with a painful result.
You are over him, you were over him a long time ago – you aren’t over your emotions – and the only person who controls your emotions – is you.
If you need counseling to get over your fear of rejection, so be it – but a cup of coffee and an awkward conversation, won’t do it.
Hmmm I always want to know what may have happened or what went wrong but everyone is different. I think men close up and just want it to be left alone… us women dwell on it, don’t know why!
What is it that you need? If you need to know why he treated you the way he did forget it. He did it because he wanted to and did not care. If you want to know why he broke up with you forget it. He did it because he just was not that into you.
You don’t want closure. You want an excuse to talk to him again and try to get him back. The closure is that he has moved on with his life and you need to do the same. This is sad.