He is afraid to love again but he keeps coming back?
I’m seeing this guy but we are not involved in a relationship. After a year and almost a half, I finally told him about my feelings and he said he loved me too. The thing is when we see each other it’s so passionate, we talk a lot, watch movies, lay down in bed all day, kissing, confiding thigs, snuggling, I met his parents a couple times.. but that nite, when he tols me he loved me, he also said that he is so afraid to love again, he feels like if he couldn’t invest himself bcuz of his last one. But he says, baby, you know I’d love to, I just can’t for now I don’t know… I love you I love being w u, u know I luv you.. I’m confusing myself. FUuckckk Don’t tell me this babe.. And we fell asleep, and 3 hours later he woke up and said Babe, I love you..
THen I tried to call him back after that and he never replied to me, he also asked me to call him when I get home, and etc.. but.. its like if he was afraid or I dunno.. it’s always like that, we have intense and passionate moments as if we were a couple, but then after, I never know when we are going to see each other.
Sometimes do think I’m just a booty call but the way he is sumtimes tells me it’s not… realy confusing bcuz he didnt have to tell me that to keep me around or to have sex..
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It’s not love that he’s afraid of – it’s the heart wrenching break up that he’s Terrified of.
He must be the type to throw his whole body and soul into the relationship.
His last break up must have nearly killed him emotionally and he doesn’t want to experience that again.
So you love each other passionately. Are you willing to go the distance with him? Are you willing to stop the physical part of your relationship for 3 months?
You might suggest to him to just be friends for a while and let your love grow deeper. I suggested it to one of my past bf and he readily agreed, but our passion got the better of us and we only lasted 3 weeks before we bonded together again. We didn’t have the will power keep our hands to ourselves. However, after 4 months of dating we found we were mostly attracted to the physical part of our relationship, not each other, and broke up.
He told you straight out that he couldn’t have a relationship with you at this time.
Now you never know when you’ll see him.
If you want this guy in your life, you have to give him time. You might want to set up weekly or bi-monthly appointments/dates with him.
Tell him you realize that he needs time before he commits your long term relationship, but you need to see him. Next time you see him, ask him what he’s willing to do to let your relationship grow.
i have the exact same situation with me and this guy. he doesnt wanna go out with me because his last girlfriend cheating on him and he doesnt want that to happen again. it bothers me so much, so i know how you feel.
whenever i try talking about it to him he just apoligizes and doesnt say anything more.
…i geuss i dont really have any answers for you…sorry but good luck
Sounds like you are his bootie call. Of course he is going to tell you whatever you want to hear when you are with him (some guy’s are so very good at that, it always sounds so sincere at the time)
Take it for what it is or move on.