How do i heal my broken heart?
I have a broken heart, and i need help to get over it from intellegent people, persons whos heart have been broken too. You see i grew up without a father’s love and not may persons in my family showed me love. So finding love and acceptance was one of my goals, i looked for it in many different places and got really hurt, right now i dont think i know what it is to really love somene i only know infactuation, and i am having a problem getting over the last messed up relationship i was in. I really want to improve my present state so it does not affect my future. i want to met a christian guy who will be patient and caring. Can you help me recover and heal prefectly "muffins_pooh@yahoo.com
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Forgetting him is the first step for you to get over the person you once loved.
Simple: get over it!
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talk to someone about your fellings and take time on finding a new boy friend
* Christian ? R u kidding ? Try Atheist now they r honest and sweet *
suck it up. life isn’t a PG movie. We all have our own problems but if we wallow in it, we’ll never succeed. I was born in a broken home with a major illness. Nothings perfect and Yahoo Answers won’t help. The answer is in the mirror.
i grew up without any love in my family. no one spoke to each other or showed affection. So I spent a lot of time dating guys and breaking up the moment they did something I didnt like. Finally I met my husband and its so hard to adjust. But I gave in to never giving up. Not only does he have to be patient and understanding with you, but you have to be patient with yourself.
Have Faith in yourself and let time heal your broken heart.
The Stewart family motto is: "Virescit vulnere virtus" which means "Courage grows strong at a wound".
I think as a believer you have to keep in mind The Lord allowed this to make you stronger, to help you grow and form in ways it is impossible for you to see just now. But it is happening and He is involved. Trust Him. (i know it’s easier to say it than do it) I can see myself now rolling my eyes when my kids or other believers were telling me the same not long ago)
u dnt, but if u want to im someone to talk to
firstly do not feel that u r all alone in this wrld. u have many frnds and they truly care for u. if u show love, u will get love. ur father has always loved u and will not like u to be unhappy. so dont feel as if u are all alone in this whole wide world. and if u want i can be ur friend.first feel free, and do meditation for at least 5 to 10 minutes daily with full concentration. it will surely heal ur problem.
it sounds like the first thing you have to do is realize no matter the past you are a great person and deserve to be loved and shown love. Love yourself and hold you head high and you can overcome anything. Maybe surround yourself in a church environment for their socials and things and you may find just what you are looking for. Good luck honey
You sound young to me…my advice to you, is to let time heal your heart…get busy with life, not focusing to much on the situation, what ifs and all…simply stay busy doing things. In grew up like you, and therefore was always looking for love in wrong places and getting hurt. I f you will be patient, true love will come to you….hold out for Mr. Right, and don’t throw yourself into a meaningless relationship only because someone seems to say all the right things. Good luck Sweetie!
All I can say…Is time will mend a broken heart…I had a father that was a drunk if he was not working he was out drinking and running with friends he was gone alot. and I had family members that really did not care about me.
I have had my heart stepped on…crushed….and slammed against the wall…it hurts bad…
But time will help, Ask God for help and he will…it may take a bit but…things will get better ok…
all u have to do is calm down and take the fact that u as human being in this world is same with the others, and as u are in this world too is not to find a real love because real love will come to you naturally. it might be among your friends, and in your neighbourhood. who knows. the important thing is your objective to be alive is not to find a real love but to success your target in your life like to be happy with your great job and great family. because u will never ever live forever. try to be alone and thinking what is your life’s goal. we all will end up with death. and love is not guarranty that will bring u into happiness after death. get to think of it.
Sweetheart.i was also like u……i grew up without my parents care, and i always desired to get some one’s love in extreem levels which will make me forget my all sadnesses and lacking of love in my past days. the man, who first proposed me, i married him to get rid off my lonely life….we were so happy for a year…after a year, he hurt me so badly and threw me from his life…i feel now, when i was alone that was better…now i have more pain, coz i love him a lot…still.
here are some policies, which may work…..(sorry to say, in my life,no policy worked or still working to forget him…)
1-try to remain so busy……so busy! business wont let u remeber hima lot(in my case, he always remain in mind even if i remain busy!)
2 – Believe, he wasnt for u…and, Allah is kind enough…he must keep a sweet and loving boy for u…..u will get him soon.
its my personal experience advice:
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dont even try to or think of to involve in any kind of relationship in next 2 years.I thought, if i involved in any relationship, i will able to forget him…but, it created another mental presure-when the new boy used to say me, "say, love u"…i used to cry holding the receiver of the phone…..i couldnt say him….and, after 7-8 days, i dumped him..i said sorry to him and said, i cant forget my ex.
but, time is the best hiller…..so, take time, after 2 years(may b within) u will find that u dont have any love left for ur ex..then u will feel to start life newly…..and, that will be the best time to start a new life.
dont start another love affair b4 all the love inside u for him totally went off…otherwise, u will be looser, coz, u really really cant continue ur relationship.
and.finally………….have faith on Allah.
take care.
Laura Schlessinger has a book ‘Bad Childhood, Good LIfe’ you might want to check out. Try to not go backwards and think about your past. I am very sorry for you about that. But you do have NOW and the future. Instead of thinking what you want( a christian guy who is patient and caring) think what HE wants, so that when you meet him you can be IT. In other words, if you are interested in the other persons needs and not your own, you will find the relationship more fulfilling. So try , inspite of your past, not to be a needy person but rather to do things for the other. Or for that matter for others in general since you can be happy doing things for others and it certainly takes your mind off of your own problems. YOU CAN DO IT
Muffins,
You can not blame you’re past in you’re present situation. If you let you’re past stop you from being the person you should be you are using it as an excuse and that is it.
You’re future is exactly what you make of it and exactly what you put into it. If you want to let you’re past keep you from being happy then it will. If you let the past be the past and move forward with you’re life it will be a much fuller life for you to live.
You have you’re own mind and it is totally up to you!
Wise Guy!
Hi there
First of all, Juss when you think that there is an end to your love life….remember one thing…theres always light at the end of the tunnel.
I know how you have felt, and dont think that you will always be in a situation like this. Many ppl have faced it, and been able to find loving relationships..so the first thing you need to learn is HOPE. If you dont start with that, you might never be able to find any kind of happiness, let alone love.
Second, it must be tough not to have had family love, and i think that it is easily the most toughest situation. Becoz we all look for happiness from our family. And if it doesnt come from there, the root is a prob. So this is what i can suggest.
TAKE SOME TIME OFF> This is what i did to revaluate what i was looking for in an relationship. Its not neccassary that u need to go on a hunt to find Mr right now. Since, you have had the time to think about things through and realised you have been in failing relationships.
Now write down what are you looking for in a guy. What are the top things that would be important for qualities/charecteristcs in a guy. Accordinly, ensure that they are there when u go out on a date next time.
DONT COMPROMISE. The moment you find that someone who has those attributes…trust me. Life will start again!!
Cheerzzzzz
I am sorry that love has been an issue in your life. I wish I had known you because our family would have loved you dearly. Some people just have issues that they never get over so those issues effect everything, even loving their own children. I commend you for recognizing that this is an issue for you. Your faith will help you a lot. God will put people in your life who will show love and look for nothing in return. Ask God to develop you so that when the right person comes into your life, you are not so needy that you burden that person. Continue to be a part of healthy friendly relationships with the opposite sex so that you can learn more about how they think, react, and feel. Know that God loves you and that that is the most important love you could ever need. In time, you will heal! I assure you. Take time to reflect about what mistakes you may have made in the last relationship. (Do not focus on the other person.) Just build on who you are. Don’t regret getting involved, just grow from that experience. Then get out and do some things you enjoy and try some new things. Take it from one who has been hurt and had many downs, it gets better! God promised it would and He has never broken a promise.