My Wife left me . I am so lonley. Will I ever find love again ?
February 23rd, 2010 by admin | Filed in Save My Marriage
She left me. What can I do? I am so lonley. I gave up all my mates for this woman, we married at 19, ( now 42) lived together, mostly for each other and Kids, have few married freinds, no singles. I am so lonley at the moment, just want to be loved and to take care of someone. How can I get out of this rut ?. Would love for wife to come back but looks very unlikley at this stage.
I don’t know were I went wrong in the marriage, still have to work that one out. But she left me for another married man, who also left his wife and kids. Hope they don’t last together.
Tags: marriage, married at 19, married man, mates, Singles, Will I Ever Find Love
I know how you are feeling. There is a mourning period after a relationship ends that is much like the mourning of death. You get out of the rut by seeking counseling for your depression. You keep in mind that these feelings will pass and that if someone loved you for 23 years then someone will love you again. You may want your wife to come back, but it is good that you realize that isn’t realistic. Look in your area for any divorce support groups. Divorce is VERY common now and there are a lot of groups developing to help ease the transition. For the time being do all you can do not feel sorry for yourself. It does you no good and will only prolong your agony. Focus on what is positive in your life. Even if you don’t think there is anything positive there is. If your health is good-you are lucky. If your children are healthy-you are lucky. If you have a job-you are lucky. I could go on and on, but you see what I mean. My current husband came out of a 30 year marriage and thought he would never find love again. However, we have been married now for 4 years and he says he is happier then he has ever been. So there is PLENTY of hope, just hang on to it and believe in yourself!
Join some singles groups. Even try online personals. That is how my husband and i met. We have been together for 5 years now and going strong! Good luck!
Been there man. You will make it. look at this as an opportunity to do all the things you never could when you were married. Think of the things you like to do and go do them. You will be shocked at the results. You may find it hard to settle down again.
You suffer the consequences, you put yourself in this situation. Maybe you need some alone time to learn your lesson.
Mine left me to, dude. She decided a younger guy is better for her. I got the kids and She is hooked on drugs. Now, I do not wish for my kids to see me with another woman right now, so I just have them for a play toy. nothing else.
It sounds as if the break up was recent and so the pain is fresh. It is understandable that you would be feeling lonely as you do now. In time you will begin to feel better, then you will meet other people and make new relationships. You sound like a nice man, don’t worry, there are alot of women out there who are lonely too, looking for a nice guy like you.
First ask yourself, Why did she leave me? Was it you or her? Or was it the both of you? Learn from your mistakes, before you go out there and make the same mistakes. So you are lonely? A lot of people are lonely, find a hobby!
Get out of the house, get some friends, get your mind of the woman that left you.
Get a hobby. Join meetup.com and find some groups to do stuff with. Word of advise don’t be creepy. As much as you want to love someone, you have to love yourself first.
Until you’re comfortable being alone, you really shouldn’t try to be with someone else, or you end up in the same cycles.
This is a time for you to work on yourself. To do stuff you couldn’t do while you were married. Embrace it, have fun with it. Look at it as freedom versus misery.
I will say this move on move up think of what you did to make her leave you and think of what you were not doing to make her leave you and don’t do those things the that person again.
I am married but not happily by no means. My husband and I aren’t communicating and the sex has gone to hell in a handbasket. I have been a loyal faithful wife to him. He had a heart attack back last July and I was the one standing by him and noone else was. I have devoted my life to him but I get talked to like a dog and I’m tired of it. I really don’t know what to do. I’m thinking about just getting a divorce and doing what makes me happy. As far as finding happiness I think there is someone for everyone and I’m not giving up. I don’t know if I would remarry again but I would date guys. Good Luck and don’t give up. Also don’t jump into the first relationship you find too quickly. Give it time. I know I am if I divorce this man.
I am sorry to hear that. That is a big hurt and the rejection is probably the worst. You will get out of this if you allow yourself to. I heard good advice the other day and that is if you have failed FAIL FAST and that means don’t go on and on in a rut when time is a ticking and you can find someone that really loves you and respects you. I don’t know where to look I am currently alone too and feel the same but I will find it also. You have to think positive. Pray for it to come your way. I garden and play with my dog to fill my time right now.
Well don’t just sit down and do nothing!!! Go out and look for your ture love!
Just forget it, it will come like a pain reliever . don’t be so miserable just go to plentyoffish.com
mail order bride, and grow some balls Mary
Trust me when I say that I know how you feel, because I am in the middle of a divorce myself. But I can also tell you that it gets easier every day. Not to say that there won’t be bad days, but it really does get easier. Of course you’re lonely, you’ve been married for a long time and suddenly you’re by yourself! But enjoy it. Do everything your wife would never let you do, and have some fun. And when you’re healed inside, and ready to completely move on, someone will come into your life and make you happy. (If I didn’t believe that, I’d probably give up.)