Does anyone know where an "Old Maid' like me can find a husband?
Hello everyone….
I’m posting this question because I’ve reached
a real low point in my life.
I’ll be 42 in July and…. I am desperate to get
married & have children.
Some background…..
Had a serious relationship from age 23 to 26.
Mutual (and friendly) break-up….. We both just
grew apart.
Dated another guy from 27 to 28. Liked him,
thought he was a nice guy, but was never actually
in love with him. We parted ways, again on friendly
terms.
Dated yet another guy from 29 to 30. He, too, was
nice, but he had been married before, and he told me
he didn’t want to have any more children.
So I broke up with him, too.
And now….
From age 31 to this day (10 years later), I have
NOT been in a romantic relationship….
(My, but the time has gone fast!!)
I’ve tried just about everything….
— asking friends if they know anyone for me
— going hiking with the Sierra Club singles group
— taking golf lessons, sailing lessons, tennis lessons
(mostly other WOMEN there, looking for a man, too!!)
— trying online dating sites (match.com, eharmony, etc.)
(Have had about 18 or 20 blind dates through these, but
not met anyone.)
— trying church groups for singles, and even "all-church"
events just to meet people, in general.
— volunteering with a number of charities, in town.
— getting to know people at work, etc.
NONE of it has "worked" (resulted in being asked
out on a date.)
(Although, I have made an awful lot of nice friends,
in the process.)
About me…. I am 5 foot 7 inches tall, slender, no
stunning beauty, but not bad looking, either…. kind,
funny, nice (enough) personality, etc.
I just don’t know where to turn, now…. All my friends
(and cousins) my age are all married with multiple kids
by now….
Does anybody have any ideas for me??
Thanks so much, in advance, for your help.
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Hummm.
Must be more to this sad story. What happened? Did you fall asleep watching TV for uh, like, ten-whole-years, and woke up all covered with Dust and Spider webs? Eweee. No. I’m kidding. It’s just so improbable that you didn’t have even one birthday party in, like, your previous decade, you know, like, your thirties?
Since a woman’s odds of marrying go down, sharply down with every year past thirty. And, you have to compete with hordes of twenty-somethings who have an ever lower-moral-threshold. Sss bad. One woman out of twenty—will marry at your age. Sorry. Very Sorry. You sound so nice, too.
I don’t think any decent man wants a desperate woman.
Go to a sperm bank and artificially inseminated tick tock time is ticking. where are you from? email me the answer.
Im, 28, divorced with 2 kids, i know how u feel. Ignore the bad comments. Its a tough market out there and its hard to get a decent guy. Internet relationship rarely works cuz people usually lie and act differently when u actually meet them. I would suggest you try 2 other methods. Go back to varsity, take up a short course or a certificate program, just a few months, perhaps u can meet someone on campus. secondly, try a dating agency which is offline. u ll have to pay some fees but the results are better than online dating sites because they screen the people and match those suitable with ur criteria. gd luck, dont give up. god bless us women searching for good husbands.
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Relax. You sound so desperate that it must be reeking off of you and that will send men running faster than skunk spray. Forget about finding a man and concentrate on making your life the best that it can be. Many people who are married and/or who have children are not happy. Look at the divorce rate. Married with children is not in the cards for some people. IF you are one of them are you going to waste you life searching or are you going to go ahead and live your life? What if you do not get married? Don’t waste your life in the search. Find out what will make you happy and do it. You can look at is like you have the freedom so many many wives and mothers pray for, it can be a blessing or a curse depending on how you choose to look at it
I say this to you for three reasons. First, as long as you are sending out such waves of desperation you will be defeating your own purpose. Once you make the search unimportant you will feel less desperate and stop sending out those unconscious signals. Second, if you concentrate on making a good life, concentrate on being good to yourself and doing things that enrich your life, you will have a wonderful life if you find a husband or not , if you have children or not. These things are nice additions but they do not and should not be the entirety of your life anyway.
Third, I was younger but I remember the time I felt like you. I came to the point where I gave up. I decided I was just not going to find anyone and I started to work on me and my life. When I stopped doing things in the hopes of meeting someone and just did things that I liked I found I felt much happier about my self and about my life. I liked kids so I did things that let me be around them. When I figured I had worked out a very nice single life for myself, I met the man that was to become my husband. I did not find him until I stopped looking and when I honestly stopped looking, there he was. Try it, it could work for you too.
Why do you want to get married so bad? Sure, you can find a guy–get married, have a kid and be divorced… Being single is fine– enjoy yourself and the time you have. Nothing says you have to be married and nothing says that marriage is for everyone. I know a couple girls (different states) in their upper 40′s who are quite happy with themselves. They work, hike, work-out, enjoy friends and whatever else they do. They also date here and there (I hear the stories-lol) but neither one wants to me married and have kids. If it’s meant to be it will be… but in the meantime stop worrying and do the things you truly enjoy!!