How can I feel good about my life?
I’m recently divorced for the 2nd time and in my mid 30s. I’m heartbroken and depressed. I have great kids and they are the reason i live. I spend all of my time with them but I’m sure they have better things to do than hang out with their mom. I have just gotten so down on myself. I look at married couples that are happy like most of my friends and my sisters and I am so envious. I feel like a big loser to be my age and not be married. It’s hard financially and emotionally. All I do is sit home or take the kids places. I grew up in not so stable home, we moved around alot and my mom was married 6 times ( please don’t say anything mean about her b/c she passed away a few years ago) All I have ever wanted out of life is to be a wife and mother. Don’t get me wrong, I am educated and i went to college but I would rather have personal success than financial success. I want to have a family and someone to grow old with that can share life with me. I know that you never find someone when you are looking so I don’t look. I don’t even know if I will ever love again because I loved my ex husband so much and i’m having a hard time forgetting him:( Anyway, what can I do to feel better about myself? and should I just give up on having a family and accept that I will grow old alone?
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Don’t go for the first one who passes by. Know her as a friend before dating.
Buy some LEGO.
Our life begins in Christ.
The bible talks about how many gain riches, yet are poor, and the poor have no riches, yet have great wealth.
Trust in the death, the burial, and the resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ FOR our sins (1 Corinthians 15:1-4) and find a bible believing church locally that can help you feel good about your life.
Not because it is your life you are feeling good about per say, but because of what God did FOR your life on the cross. It is all about him that makes us feel estatic and euphoric every day irregardless to what this world throws at us.
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the answer is alcohol jst joking seriously get some couseling
get out to single groups! don’t think about your love to your exs thats why you’d divorced him! because their was some reason you’d divorced him for and every time you’d think about your ex! think of that feeling and that will help you not to think about your love for him!
It seems to me that you saw the condition your mother was in and never wanted that to be you, taking all the steps possible to avoid that. Life is a miracle and i strongly believe that. You dont need someone to love you in order to be happy, depressing situations often make it seem like you dont have a reason to live. It is good that you have your children though, But if you make them your life is that healthy for them? especially if your depressed. They will look at you like you did at your mother and the cycle will start all over. I am not going to tell you to go to god because god doesnt help those who wait to be helped. You go out there and you look for someone. does food just fall on your plate at the dinner table? NO! you need to go make dinner! go out and find someone dont be afraid and dont hold yourself back. But are you gonna focus on the 1 percent that you cant do without a husband or the 99 percent that you can now!
nick,
I say find something you’ve always wanted to do and have put it off. Take time out for yourself when the kids are at school or with their father. Try to get yourself out there, it’s not a bad thing if you go out and date a little. You don’t have to be obsessed with finding someone but you can’t hide either because you might let that one slip away. You are still in your 30′s so you’re not old. If you were in your mid 40′s and up then it would be a little harder. Many people are still single in their 30′s so there is someone still out there. I hope you find what you are looking for.
Aawww honey i am so sorry to hear about that. Divorces are hard especially on the women and when there are children involved. Hang in there hun, don’t beat up on yourself. i am sure you tried your best. somethings are just not meant to be. Look on the bright side, at least you have been married before. Some women are your age and have never been proposed to no to talk of of getting married. I must tell you that only when you find fulfillment in your life will you be able to truly find love again. Try to focus on doing things to make yourself and your kids happy. Yes you will love again, you got married twice didn’t you? that should be your consolation. It seems hard now but once the pains heal you will find another man to cherish you as the special woman you are and one who will love your kids as well.
But first try to figure out why your marriages didn’t work and address the issues so that you don’t fall into the same plight. Remember if you don’t love yourself, how can you expect someone to show you love and know your worth. Keep your head up, once you get yourself together someday when you least expect it, mr. right will pop back in.
take care hun.
Don’t tell yourself that. You will NOT die alone. Don’t give up. Get back out there because you derve a chance at life like you wanted it to be.
Give yourself time [take things one day at a time & by all means [Dont] be down on yourself. things Happen in Life ive been in relationships that didnt work out you get past things[You Have to] you have those Beautiful children Depending on You [Smile be happy ]Whether you ever find Love again or not Love yourself enough to be happy with or without a man . set some Goals ;you can be Happy .
I know it’s a hard situation for you at the moment, but honestly things will get better. Think of the wonderful things that have came out of your relationships so far; your children. Honestly, you will find a man eventually who will love you as the worthy person you are. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
Start by accepting that your previous relationships are over; you’ll feel better for it. Know that your previous partners will always still be a part of your life; you’ve been sharing your life with them, and think of the wonderful consequence that came out it; you have children.
Try to take everyday as patiently as you can. I assure you, your life will get better soon. Focus on those in your life at the moment, you will become a stronger individual soon.
aww, i’m sorry you are feeling this way. but personally, i think you should never give up hope. don’t conclude you will never be with someone again, but at the same time don’t expect to somehow meet your perfect match either. by this i mean, just have a positive outlook on life. everyday is a new day, new start. anything can happen. don’t fix your expectations. if things happen, they will happen. you just have to keep smiling and think about all the good stuff that is going on for you. i hope you feel better, and remember to keep smiling and being grateful for what you do have! =)
First off, give yourself credit. You are a mom raising her children and that’s a lot right there. It’s not easy doing it yourself. You provide for them, love them, and give them what they need. Try not to put an age number and a time period to when you should be married or what you should have by a certain age. Most important I think you should start with some deep soul searching and research yourself. Why have your previous relationships failed? Do you believe you are worthy and deserve good and healthy things for yourself? Do you respect yourself? What are your boundaries like? Are you assertive? How is your self-esteem? One thing that helps me is seeing a counselor bi-weekly and it is well worth it. When you’ve grown up in a broken home(as I have too), views of normal can get very skewed. I’m still learning what love really is and how to show empathy. As for depression, talk with your friends, get a lot of sun and exercise, and don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help if you need it. It’s a very common struggle. You are not the only one. Try not to judge yourself because others seem to have it all and be happy. They most likely have problems too, but different types of problems, and they may very well hide them. I’ve learned no-one is perfect or has the perfect fairy tale life. You are doing what you can in life and if you believe in yourself and seek knowledge and help in areas that you truly want to change, you can and will have all the things you desire. It’s extremely hard work and may be the hardest thing you’ve ever done, but it will be worth it. Hope this helps you in some way. take care
it sounds like you have a good heart and that counts for a lot, means you have a lot to offer. I think you can find someone and it wouldn’t hurt to look. Get involved in things, even parent functions at your kid’s school, just being around people will give you opportunities and I’ll bet you stand out to a lot of guys.