i have a problem with letting go of a relationship, help ?
so i’ve been with this guy for about 5 years on and off, i cheated on him, he’d cheat on me, then we stayed together without the pressure of being bf and gf. for the past year and a half we really got along real well and would be intimate, and two weeks ago he confessed how much he cares about me and wanted to let me know he’s been faithful(since we never really talked about it)
and then the next week he started getting distant so i knew what was up. he confessed that he hooked up while drunk at a party and that he he "thinks about other girls." then he goes on to say that he doesnt want to be two faced with me so thats why he never called, then says i want us to have a "meaningful relationship" im thinking, whats that sopposed to mean?? i’m scared that eventually he’ll come back to me AGAIN and that ill let him. I really care about him, he really cares about me, we were our first sweethearts i guess.. but our lives are so different and i know it cant really work. how can i prevent myself from falling back into this relationship again, when i know i have nothing to gain.
im also scared that i’m pretty much waiting for him to come back like always, but what if he doesn’t ??? ill be so crushed, any advice for me : / thanks for any of your time !
Tags: bf, gf, girls, meaningful relationship, sopposed, sweethearts
It sounds like yr heart has been on an emotional roller-coaster for a while. I really think that you both mean a lot to each other, but i have a little spec of doubt that you will be separated for long. It is true that if it happened once, it can happen again… I think you guys need to sit down and talk about this because you can only go two ways. Either you end up together and live happily ever after or you separate and this conversation will bring closure. I can tell that you don’t want to let him go! I think if you do get back you should base yr relationship on trust because no relationship lasts without it!
Closing Quote "Don’t make someone yr everything…because when they’re gone you’ll have nothing"
Hope this Answers yr Question and Good Luck
Doesn’t sound like you want to let go…
It sounds like you want it to work out and I think it can with some hard work… I believe since he is willing to tell you truthfully about how he has cheated on you he really cares about you. What I think is that you both need to find a way to communicate better and hopefully settle down.
"It’s funny how someone can break your heart and yet you will love them with all the little pieces."
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