How do I help my Wife get out of Love Triangle?
March 9th, 2010 by admin | Filed in Save My Marriage
My wife of over 20 years has renewed her Love interest in a guy from her past. She told him that she would return to him, but she never did, when she married me. We have 2 kids. She went back, and made the mistake of seeing the guy 6 months ago, and now she is deeply in Love with him again. Webcams, emails, and phonecalls back & forth every day, and if I mention it to her I am an intruding security guard! What can I do to get her back to me as her only love again? She is already planning the rest of her life and for them to be together and it terrifies me! I Love her today as much as the day we first married! PLEASE HELP ME before it’s too late!!
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I would start off by praying about it and asking that it be GOD’s will to take place; and whatever happens is because it meant to be that way.
You can’t make somebody love you or stay in love with you, makes you wonder if they even loved you to begin with or if she settled for you and now she’s discovered that her true feelings were always there for him.
As it seems that she’s being selfish about the whole situation, time to move on with your life and your family. Make sure that regardless of your marital status, that you’re still a good father to your children so that they can become mature adults. You just can’t sit there and let her do whatever she wants, talk to her and let her know what you’re allowing and not allowing. She may have butterflies in her stomach right now but 6 months down the road it may not be that way and she may want to return to the marriage, or maybe not. But that’s the stuff you need to be ready for, what if she tries to come back, should you take her back? What if she tries to take kids, will you allow it? What if she wants to take everything with her and expects you get out the house, will you let her?
You can only give YOUR 100% to the marriage, you can’t force her or expect her to give the same if she’s not willing to… you can go to counseling but seriously doubt it will make a difference. Bottom line, make her VERY aware of the consequences (not threats though) of would could occur if she walks out on the marriage and if she still decides to do it, then don’t give it too much thought and progress with your life, stay active and healthy and go from there… good luck…
I know you’ve heard this before, but it seems so appropriate: If you love something/aomeone you must set it free, if it comes back it is yours forever, if not, it was never meant to be.
i think all you can do is let her know how you feel. but it sound
like she already made her choice to be with this man, if she
really want to stay in this marriage she would have not
had any contact with this man. but get counseling but dont
get your hope up it sound like she planning to be with him\.
Dr. Phil?
P-Rich,
If this is your wife,why is she not being faithful and sticking to her vowls of marriage?You need to work this out with him and her…talk to him,and tell him "TO LEAVE YOUR WIFE ALONE!" Get a warrent or something on this guy! Bring it to her attention tell her how you feel about the situation. Good luck man,and may God bless you.
I would let that other guy know that she is your wife and the mother of your children and if he doesn’t go away you will sue his a$$ like there is no tomorrow. Tell him you will make his life a living hell and you will tell everyone what he is doing…..
Sorry, but if she’s made up her mind to leave, there isn’t anything you can do. Have you asked her why she is so in love with this other guy? What he has that she feels the two of you lack in your marriage? If so, were they fixable things, like you need to pick up your dirty socks or help with the kids more? Or was it something not fixable like she doesnt love you anymore? If she is planning on leaving, I’d find a lawyer and get custody of your kids. The last thing you want is for them to think what she is doing is okay.
forget it Ive been in this situation even if she comes back to you shell go back to him soon trust me end it now
Sir, I have two things to say.
First, you must confront her but not in a threatning way.
Second, If you want her then LOVE her. Remember that Love is NOT a feeling it is a verb. Love is what you DO not what you feel.
Once you do this you guys are going to need counceling as well. Except it and just do it.