He is has been hurt and now is afraid to love again, does he need time alone or can heal while being with me?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost six months now. We orginally lived in the same town, but when we met he was getting ready to relocate out of state for work. We really hit it off and decided to do the long distance relationship. We see each other often, for atleast 4-14 days every three weeks. We get along great, we talk every day for hours! Were both very happy. The only concern is that I love him and he isn’t there yet. We are both divorced but his divorce was just last year. His ex-wife was hard on him and didn’t treat him good, she cheated on him also. He has some issues he needs to work out and I knew that from the beginning. He doesn’t know when he’ll be able to fully love me because he is to afraid to love again. He loves being with me and my daughter and he is perfect for us. I am just afraid that I might be hoping one day he will be able to love me, when in actuality he won’t. After being together for six months is this something I should be concerned about?
Tags: actuality, Distance Relationship, divorce, long distance relationship, love, Relocate, six months
If my calculations are right, you two got together 6 months after his divorce. I gotta say, that seems a little soon to me. I think that he should have spent atleast a year either on his own or just casually dating. To enter into a serious relationship with you so soon probably didn’t allow him to recover completely, which is why he has a hard time with the "I love you’s".
Other than that, I had a similar experience to this. I was never married, but I had been with a guy who I was in love with, but he broke up heart and cheated on me. It took me about 9 months before I was ok enough to seriously date someone new. The guy I found took me by surprise and I began to care for him faster than I thought, which scared me. Fortunately, I was able to work through my trust issues and fears while I was with him. It took me about 6 months before I trusted him enough to tell him I loved him.
I think your boyfriend should be coming to the end of his issues, but it’s probably necessary to talk to him about how you’re feeling.
i think dat u should let him heal on his own, he just got out a horrible relationship wit a cheatin wife when the tyme is right he will love u like u and give u his all