how do you get over relationship anxiety?
been with my bf for 3and a half years. great reltionship. broke up for a few months – he did the breakin up. we got back together. after 4 months of being back, i started experiencing anxiety when i was around him. i love him so much and i’ve been trying to push through these feelings b.c i know i don’t want to not be with him. sometimes i’m fine and wonder why i worry. other times i get physically ill…most of the time it is anticipatory anxiety….anxiety about anxiety. will i get it today? will i feel anxious when i see him? we are moving in together, and i am freaking out that i’ll be in a constant state of anxiety once i move in. i know i wnat to do i though b.c i want to ove our relationship on to the next step. i want to conquer my fear…how can i move past this anxiety and cherish and value what i have and stop worrying about- what if’s? help.
Tags: 4 months, anticipatory anxiety, bf, fear, feelings, half years, love, relationship, worry
I wonder if your anxiety is actually anxiety of losing him, rather than having him? It’s normal that when you have something you love, losing it is worse than anything else. So perhaps on some level you don’t trust him to not break up with you again. I think that, if this is the case, you should learn to be self sufficient. Learn to love yourself first, and be able to function without anyone in your life. Then you two can grow together, rather than you being with him, living in fear that one day he will break up with you again.
Hope this helps
You’re like me. And that tells me that you’re screwed.
He burned you once and you think as I do, that being, if he burned you once, he’ll burn you again. The only question in your mind is "when?"
sex sex sex… simple as that……
this is not a good feeling to be with somebody, when I first had my first GF, I really liked her, and I was afraid to lose her, I always had anxiety being around her, but after second and third girlfriends, no more. You have to learn its okay if you loose him, that he can always find some other guy. Because this can be really psychologically bad for you. Or you can always tell yourself that your too good for him, this way you won’t have anxiety of him leaving, and if he does leave you won’t care as much
I used to know a girl like this, her bf would break up with her every six months and they would get back together after a few months apart. When they were together she was always in high anxiety, if her boyfriend didn’t talk to her in a week or she felt something wrong with him, she would trip over it, because she would think that he would break up with her again. She really loves him, that’s why she was afraid.to make matters worse he would actually threatened her with breaking up if things didn’t go the way he liked it, which made her anxiety even more.
by the way this was a very dysfunctional relationship the girl was bipolar, and the guy was a alcoholic and sex addict.