Hi, I am bisexual and I have a crush on a woman, how to proceed….?
I am in a happy, stable (semi open) marriage with my man. He allows me to date women. We have been together 10 years. He and I recently met/got to slightly know a woman who is SPECTACULAR! Since the minute we both met her (and each separately the first time) we conected with her on many levels, and she was very flirty with us sep and then together when we met up together. We both got an immediate bi or lesbian vibe from her. But then we found out she was married but yet she continues to exude a flirtatiousness with mostly me the woman. (less with him now) Soon we will be meeting HER husband as well and will be hanging out as a couple. I don’t think they are swingers but I can almost bet SHE is at least bi (or closeted). I am SOOOO attracted to her that I burst out of my skin when I think of her!!! And when she was in my presence those few times, I got the same kind of energy from her that she also loves being in my presence! I am almost certain I am not mistaken with these vibes, I am also pretty sure she knows I am bi bc its openly on my myspace profile as such and we are friends on there. We are going to start hanging out as 2 couples soon, and though I am happy to be ‘just friends’ with the couple, my crush will always shine thru I fear. How, if, or when should I tell or show her I am attracted to her? At some point I don’t mind risking rejection if I do make a move and she declines. Because I know we and I could still be friends even with the humiliation of being rejected lol, but she is SO worth the chance to find out! Last time we hung out with her, she was excited about drinking wine together. If we have wine again, and she continues to be flirty, and I continue to be attracted, should I use the wine to my advantage lol…! And how do I make a move? Ask first or try to be a little affectionate and see what happens? In the meantime, I can’t stop thinking about her. My husband thinks its so cute… I am lucky to have the relationship I have with him and I will never leave my man. But this woman is literally ONE in a million and I would love to nurture whatever special relationship/friendship I can with her. And, where does her hubby fit in all this? Also, I am in my 30s the woman in her late 40s thanks!
Not everyone views marriage as YOU people do. 65% of people cheat on their spouses. I really hoped that someone with an OPEN mind could have answered my question properly instead of judge me. And for the first 2 responders, for your info, we have brought other people in before with nothing but bliss and fun for all… you should try it sometime! 
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Dark & light:
There are so many things in your question & details that i would want to address but i will try to keep it short for both our sakes.
First off why would you come here to Yahoo Answers to ask your question instead of going on to one of the many Bisexual websites or chat rooms, if you didn’t want people to judge your lifestyle or your question.
The second thing is if you are Bisexual & you have already had other women in your "semi open" relationship you should already be an expert in the art of seduction of other women. So I am confused again why you would come here to ask for help. What did you do with these other women you were attracted to. what make this situation any different from the others? did you not feel attracted to them like you feel attracted to this woman? Why not just do what you did with, to them.
Third is if your husband has allowed you to date other women I get the feeling that you can only have a sexual relationship & not an emotional one because that would then jeopardize your stable 10 year semi open relation. plus you also mention in your additional details that the two of you have brought others into your relationship & they were nothing but "Bliss & fun for all". To me again this says sexually & nothing more. Which is fine if that’s what you all agree to.
What i am picking up is that you feel a "special" attraction to this woman, which is more than just a sexual attraction. Which could lead to trouble with your man. Having sex with someone is one thing but when you add emotion to the mix it complicates the whole situation & could again jeopardize current relationship.
Fourth is what is your real intention with this other woman? Is it just a sexual one Or are you wanting something more with her? Are you willing to share her with your husband? Then there is the issue of her husband, is he also in a "open relationship"? See there are just way to many question that you give no details to. Is he willing to have his wife have a female relationship out side their relationship? Are you going to be willing to have a 4 way where you swap partners? What are the men suppose to do when it is just the two of you(females) if you get together sexually? Are you in any way attracted to her husband? It sounds like already your husband likes her but what about her, does she like him in return?
Fifth, it seems to me what needs to happen is that all 4 of you need to sit down together & discuss what it is your interested in. Are the husbands wiling to let the two of you to have a separate sexual relationship or do they want to get in on the action also? Are the men attracted to each other, which makes them Bisexual also? If so then you all could have a grand old time together & switch partners at anytime when have sex with each other. Is that a possibility? So again I suggest the 4 of you sit down over a bottle of wine & figure out what is going to happen then proceed from there. That way everyone knows what the situation is & is expected of each other. didn’t you do this with the other people you asked to enter your "semi open" relationship? again you give no info or details how that comes about.
Now lastly I have to counter your comment in your additional details where you say that 65% of people cheat. Yes that could be very true of people in monogamous straight or Gay couples. But your situation is different because your in a "semi open" relationship. are you saying that you or your husband is also just as likely to cheat on each other? What was the purpose of your saying that? It does not give credence to you argument, I’m sorry to say. Just remember that when ever you allow others into your intimate relationship you run the risk of certain consequences. Are you & your husband willing to handle them, when they get out of hand?
OK, now lastly if you are all mature consenting adults & you are aware of all the consequences of your actions. Then like I said sit down over a bottle of wine & put your cards on the table & tell each other what your desires & expectations are in going further. The question of what you do or say to this woman will then be answered & you would be so confused as to what should happen next in letting her know what your feelings are towards her. Then she will let you know how she feels towards you.
Does this help at all?
Usually I don’t say stuff like this, but you being married and wanting to bring a 3rd person in the picture is just plain wrong, not to mention disgusting. Why do people even get married if they want to mess around?
What’s with these ‘open relationships’? Why is infidelity such a growing trend? Liberalism?
Yes I agree, the above answerers should have just opted to answer somewhere else if this was against their "morals." I am also bi and poly so I TOTALLY get what you are sayin here… sounds like she is also feeling out the vibe. Perhaps she is just as nervous as you, but you might as well try right? I would do this. Next time you hang out and have some wine, lol, and you get a second alone with her, go in for a random hug and as you pull away, kind of brush her cheek with a light kiss and see what she does. How she reacts. If you aren’t quite bold enough to do that, I would at some point as you get to know her just ask her about her life, sexuality, etc. As people get closer, they reveal more…
But life is short, so I would also jump on the opprunity if you get one! GOOD LUCK! 
if 65% cheat on their spouses, I’m finding the 15%. Im very loyal and if the woman is a freak, i get rid of her.