Why do women often think men should be willing to be their friends after they dump them?
I will never understand how many women (not all of course) seem to think that it is possible to be friends with your ex, after YOU dump THEM? I know of very few men who when they dump a girl get surprised if the girl doesn’t want to be "just friends", yet when a woman dumps a man, and sometimes even in divorce, they get surprised when they spew out this BS, and the man tells them to take a hike, or go **** themselves? Does it not register that when you dump some one you are A) probably hurting them emotionally, if the break up isn’t mutual, B) destroying their ego, C) rejecting that person’s being, and D) when you break up with some one, the idea is that you don’t want to be with them? How can women be so illogical? How come women then, are so surprised when men don’t want to be friendly to their exes?
because it makes them sleep better at night if they think there is no hard feelings
no normal person wont to stay friends with an ex anything. ex boyfriend, ex husband, none of it
I don’t think you will ever find a suitable answer to that one.
Same reason men think they have a free pass to a woman’s pu55y for life once he’s been there.
Women are emotional creatures and even though you are physically broken up doesn’t mean that she is emotionally broken up with you. She may suggest being friends to keep that emotional bond going.
I know how you feel, though. My husband’s ex wife feels like she is owed a friendship with my husband even though they divorced years ago and have no children she still tries to be in his life.
It’s OK if the guy wants to stay friends, but yeah, it’s really dumb when girls/women expect that. I explain to them straight up that it comes with the territory. You dump him, you’re out. I would NEVER take back a woman that dumped me, and since I’d never take her back, there’s no reason to continue a relationship with her at all.
Well sometimes it goes the other way around. I dumped my x, and I certainly didn’t want to be friends, but he did. He even would show up at my house after I was with someone else and want to hang out and play cards, and he got us a Christmas gift. He used to call me and tell me jokes and I was like……..what??? Ok I don’t want to be your friend geez. So that can work both ways. I don’t believe in being friends with x’s no matter what. You can be civil if you happen to run into them, but no an x should stay in the past where they came from lol
A real good womaniser once told me "always stay friends with your ex’s and you’ll never want for a clean shirt, a hot meal or a warm bed", and that’s from the horses mouth!
This is great seeing all these men on here tonight instead of all women. I guess the ladies are watching the Bachelor Show LOL.
Actually your question is a good one. I do see many not all, but many women who want their EX back. I wish I had a nickel for everytime I say to them "Why? He is your ex for a reason".
I remind the woman of why he became an ex to her. Also, he hasn’t changed. So if they go back together everything is the same. Now the fighting starts up again. Hence the on again off again BS. I never recommend going back to an ex. To me, more than likely, they have worked out whatever it is the issues and once the "ex factor" happens this is usually the breaking point of the relationship so – no you’ve hit the end of the road. Move on.
I wish more men would take birth control more seriously. They really get screwwed (no pun intended) because if the girl lies about being on the pill or patch he did nothing (no rubber nothing) and now she’s pregnant. The man is very vulnerable and must make sure he is covered beforehand. Talk it out what kind of birth control is being used. Even if she says she’s on the pill I would suggest he still use a new rubber he takes out of his pocket. Just in case. I know men hate to wear the sock….but it’s better to wear the sock then pay child support for 18 yrs. I say.
UGH! I had a best friend that tried to stay friends with ALL of her Ex’s after she broke up with them. At first I thought it was cute and nice that they were friends after all that. But then I realized that she only did this to get free stuff from her ex’s. Like when she was "out of money" she would just "borrow" some from her "friend that is an ex". I think that most of her ex’s caught on that she was using them. She is a sorry looser. I think people are ex’s for a reason!
Mature intelligent adults can be friends with their exes. Immature, self centered jerks don’t understand that concept. Now what was your question again?
Yay for being really dramatic. After spending so much time with someone, getting to know them, supporting them, having them support you, sometimes even loving them, why would you want to push them out of your life completely?
A) I’m sorry that they were hurt emotionally but would it have been better for if a girl kept dating you? Leading you on, when she no longer had romantic feelings for you?
B) If your ego is entirely dependent on whether or not some chick wants to continue dating you then you have bigger problems.
I can see a slight blow to the ego, but definitely nothing you can’t recover from.
C) Breaking up with someone isn’t rejecting their being, it’s saying, "we tried but it isn’t working, I’m sorry."
D) The idea is to stop seeing them romantically. You can still care about someone and want them in your life even if your romantic feelings have faded away. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing, and I think it’s illogical to simplify the issue as you have.
My ex and I are still on very good terms. He was my friend before we dated and he’s my friend now. One of my best friends actually. I broke up with him but he would be even more heartbroken if I decided I didn’t want to be friends with him anymore. I guess if you are immature you can’t be friends anymore.
Although, if she dumped you after cheating on you with some douche bag, that’s an entirely different story. Or some other dumb reason…blah.
It is most likely that the female who has broken off a romantic relationship with a man in her life believes the man is not interested in her romantically as the logical reason for that conflict between them. She therefore, does not transfer that thinking over to the platonic portion of the relationship, which is usually necessary to exist or at least perceived to be existent before the female is willing to let down her inhibitions enough to become romantically involved. Frequently, the males in these relationships do not need a platonic relationship to exist to get romantically involved because the physical component of romance is all he is interested in so that when the physical (romantic activities) fall apart, the only thing that he loses is a stroke to his ego and nothing more. Therefore, she does not understand that the part of the relationship she is walking away from is the only one he ever had in the first place.
This definitely goes both ways. My ex-boyfriend dumped me out of the blue with unclear reasons, which confused me because we hadn’t even had a fight and we both cared about each other very much… Anyways after he dumped me I naturally put all my walls back up again and cut contact with him, he kept trying to contact me, desperate to be “friends”, always asking about me to my friends… When I told him I didn’t want to be friends he seemed legitimately shocked, hurt, and confused… So men do it too.