How to Heal a Broken Heart? (Please Help)?
My girlfriend broke up with me on Monday, she gave me no real concrete reason. She said that we were fighting a lot, and she was really stressed.
Background: She has a baby, we just started back to college, she wants to get a job, and move out of her mother’s house. There’s another guy, but she told her mom she doesn’t like him "like that," which may be a lie. I love her and the baby more than life itself (although the child is not mine).
She asked me for space and time, but she won’t let me give her any; she says she still enjoys talking to me. I want her back, and I want to be around her, but I don’t want to be her doormat, and I just want her back in my life.
I promised her that if she would take me back, things would be different. She was my first girlfriend, and, also the one that took my virginity. I waited almost three years to date her, and then it seems as if once she gets stressed she just dumped me. I’ve been a mess all week, throwing up blood (from my ulcer that I’ve developed) and I’ve had an upset stomach. I’m basically suffering from classic "broken heart syndrome," which is just a lot of bad feelings and stuff.
How can I get her back without smothering her, and without getting myself hurt again in the process? Or actually, any advice whatsoever would be greatly appreciated.
Also, Her mom and I still talk, because her mom really likes me and wants her to come and date me again. But her mom is using me to keep tabs on her, and I’m using her mom to keep tabs on her. Through the last few days, she’s been having it kinda rough (or so I’ve heard), and I don’t know when a good time to ask her to date me again would be. She still has my shirt (she gave the rest of them back), and I found a shirt she left at my house once. But overall it’s like I want to date her again so badly, and I want things to change, that I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get it better. All I really want is to stop the pain in my heart, and I want her to love me again, regardless of whether or not it will "last," I just want a real second chance with her.
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Don’t know if you can do this but she wants space but won’t let you give it to her; make it happen. Be busy when she calls and tell her that you are not her door mat, that you love her but you are hurting yourself by waiting for her to take her space. Sometimes we want what we can’t seem to have.
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I’m really sorry you’re going through a rough time. The problem doesn’t seem to be you, though. Your girl is obviously going through a rough time and needs some space. So talk to her when she wants to talk, but otherwise try to distance yourself from her. If she really loves you, she’ll come back on her own. Be there for her as a friend right now. If she doesn’t come back…then as much as it hurts move on. You could find someone else you love even more.
And go see a doctor about the ulcer, it’s not normal to vomit blood, even for an ulcer.
Woow, that is one hell of a complex situation you are in. Honestly I do not think I can tell you exactly what to do because I can only imagine how you are feeling right now and what you are going through but I am not really feeling it.
I know you said really love her but are you loving the right person? If it happens that you start seeing each other dont you see any other of this happening again? Look at what is happening to your health and all the pain you are going through, are you really worth that? Don’t you see yourself going out with with someone who will love you for who you are and will give you joy and happiness that you deserve? If you happen to get back together, do see yourself being able to express yourself freely in that relationship or you are going to be pretender for the rest of the relationship? if you are pretending, is that what you call happiness?
In other words, Im just saying, there are a lot of things that we seem to overlook when when we fall in in love. Right now you might convince yourself that this is what you want for now, but there are such moments in life when we need to look way beyond the problems at hand. My person opinion in this is please try your best to move on. Every person deserves better in life and being happy is not an option, its mandatory. If it is so difficult to move on, try getting geeting professional help. I believe this is the best for you.