So worried and stressed over relationship?
Story goes, I got to know a girl that I was highly attracted to, and she also was attracted to me. Started dating, for a while, begin to fall in love with her, she fell in love with me. Well, I am in a hard spot right now. I have been like this for months and I don’t know what to do anymore. Everything through summer went fine, loved each other, had fun and I was always thinking of her. Well, one day, I woke up and felt completely different, like anxious/scared/worried for no reason that I know of. And, it has felt to me that I have just lost all my interest in my girl. I lost everything. It was like the love that was in my heart just flipped the switch and shut it off.
Detail-Over the summer, all we did was want to talk to each other, texting, calls, in person, myspace, everything, and I could never get her off my mind, it was so fun and exciting. I loved thinking about her all the time. And, everything we do is planned, we plan our calls, we plan us meeting, we plan our dates, everything. My school counselor told me that I am getting really bored and tired of the relationship because all of the spontanious part of the relationship is gone. Well, then I talked to my youth pastor at church, and since me and my girl have been doing "things", not sex, but sexual acts, it is because I am not ready for them, I noticed that when we would hang out, that was like the "goal" for us at that time. Is this the consequence? I still can’t get her off my mind, am I being overwhelmed of our relationship? I don’t understand why I am still wanting to be with her all the time, and when I do, I feel better, we have quit sexual acts, now they only happen once in a while, and now we are taking more time apart at school and seeing each other, I feel better. But, why do I feel like shit when I am home and thats all I can think about, me losing interest in her?
Can this be fixed?
I would like to add. It confuses me when I still enjoy making her happy, by gifts, jokes, being myself? ANd she also enjoys it?
Tags: consequence, heart, Heart 106, jokes, love, relationship, Relationship Story, school counselor, sexual acts, texting, youth pastor
you’re at the point where your relatoinship will make it or it’ll break.
probably right now, you’ve just hit a plateau in your relatoinship.
good thing on the sexual acts, i know what you mean.
honestly, just, take a step back and take a breather.
think about what makes her your love, think about what she does that makes you feel like you’re the luckiest guy in the world. just take a breather and appreciate who you have. don’t rush things.
things don’t always have to be exciting and spontaneous.
sometimes, quiet, go with the flow thing is really comfortable too.
Maybe your just scared your gonna get hurt or your just so happy with her that you dont want to lose her so your getting stressed or worried.
You may also just be bored, hanging out alot I mean after awhile you lose things to talk about, and you really just lose interest in the relationship overall. Maybe just take a little break and see how things go. I mean you two aren’t having sex so that’s good I mean I dont know why you’d be bored with her.
Another thing is maybe you don’t like her anymore who knows, I mean listen to your gut feeling, maybe your just not in a happy place right now and you have other things to worry about.
Take things slow and figure it out with her..
as bad as this sounds, yes you are indeed losing interest in her. Being with the same person for a really long time is actually something quite hard to do, which is why so many marriages fail. Good thing is your not married, so theres no guilt trip here. Maybe it’s time to go looking for other fish