Ex boyfriend won’t leave me alone. Any suggestions on how to make it stop?
My exboyfriend and I broke up the beginning of this year. I had recently just went through a serious operation and he was by my side, but I didn’t feel the same way about him anymore so I left him while I went through recovery.
He was furious, calling me names, threatening to tell my friends and family about the operation (a very big secret I chose to keep to myself.) I stupidly told him we could be friends and we were for a couple of months, but during those months he would call me every day, telling me what to do and what not to do and if i didn’t comply, he threatened to call my house and tell my mom about my surgery. He would leave my voicemails telling me he was going to kill himself unless i talked to him. I finally told him we couldn’t talk anymore and I changed my number.
My mom ended up finding out about my surgery and we got through it together, but my ex still calls my house and asks for me, begging for me to talk to him. My mom doesn’t let him know that I am home when he calls, but she does tell me that he keeps calling. He called last night at midnight and told my mom he was worried about my "financial, mental and phsyical health." My mom asked me about it and I told her I havent talked to him in over a month, which is true.
I plan on moving out next month with one of my good friends, but I want him out of my life for good and I want him to stop calling my home. My mom told me NOT to contact him, no matter what happens, but does anybody have any good advice? He threatened me before that he would just "show up" at my work and "surprise" me, but this was months ago and he hasnt done it yet. If anybody has any suggestions, I could greatly appreciate it.
Has anybody been in this situation? Do you know why he is like this, is there anything I can do?
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I have been in this situation MANY times. All of it is just a threat to get you to talk to him. He is obviously upset because you left him while he was there supporting you and he just wants revenge. There would be no point in calling the police, all they would do is tell you not to respond and ignore him. Eventually it will stop so you will just have to wait. If you are moving out, let your mother be the one to explain that to him so you personally dont have to talk to him. He is all talk and no action so dont worry, it will be all over soon. Just tell your friends and family to call between such and such a time because you will be turning the volume down or turning the house phone off after a certain time at night. Once he realises this, he will get bored and move on. If he keeps calling the house, tell your mother to never hang up on him because that will encourage him to keep doing it.
firstly if he was any kind of friend he woulden’t have told anyone
you should call the police and tell them he is harassing you maybe them having a word with him will prove how serious you are about him leaving you alone.
secondly call your telephone company and get them to block the number / if he calls you from a private number get them to bar all private numbers.
then he cant call you at all
i’ve been in a similar situation with my ex…he had a REALLY bad drinking problem and he terrified me cuz he actually would show up at my apartment at 4 am, he’s now in prison for a few years for some stuff he did but when he was showing up i called the police and got a restraining order against him
bear pepper spray. ya know the ones they use on bears. i hear it has a good stalker/crazy person deterrent
Yeah.. Tell him one more time to stop calling you or contacting you because you dont want anything more to do with him and if he does you will contact the local law enforcement office. If he still continues to do so, you go up to the police DEPT. you file harrasment against him.. Youve already changed ur cell number so if he hasnt figured out ur new number thats good.. if he has figured it out.. YOU CHANGE IT AGAIN!! If he knows ur house number.. u change that too! Change every and any phone number he has of getting ahold of you!
If he decided he wants to visit you at work.. then you go up to the court house and file a restraint order on him.. You see him near you.. you pick up the phone dial 911 the police comes, and takes his a** to jail… BOOM hes gone!!
hope ive helped goodluck!!
you should call the police and tell them he is harassing you
This is basically the same situation that I am currently going through right now, but sadly I also said we can be friends, so I am trying to get out of it. I believe you’re handling this as best you could. If he really wanted to kill himself he probably would have done something by now. Also, my mom went through the whole threats and stalking… it all eventually goes away. I think the best advice I can give is to keep on ignoring him and over time hopefully it’ll all just go away.