I think my ex should work for my love again but she doesn't. What should I do?
I love my ex girlfriend and before we broke up we was together for two years. I was the best boyfriend she ever had. I treated her so good and I spent every dollar I had on her. I bought her roses all the time. I spent the night with her all the time when she was alone. I do anything to make her happy. We broke up because she was having problems with our relationship. We didn’t trust each other nor did we respect for each other. She got a new boyfriend afterward and they lasted for about a month. She said she left him because it didn’t feel right and she wanted to feel the love again when we was together. I love her but she has hurt me in the past. She can be very bossy and controlling sometimes. Plus she has a lot of friends that flirt with her and she lets them but I don’t think she flirts back. We haven’t talked for nearly two weeks, then she comes to me wanting to be my friend and tells me she wants to hang out with me. I told her that if we hang out we’re both just going to fall back in love with each other. She said she know and she wants my love back and she wants to make love and get married to me one day and everything. I told her that she needs to work for my love back because all the pain she have put me through. Shes a very beautiful girl so all the guys always come to her and she never had to come to a guy but I don’t love her because of her looks I love her because of her mind and soul and love. She doesn’t think she need to work for my love back and that I should just come back to her. But all the good things I did for her and she hurt me I think she needs to prove herself that’s she worth my love but she doesn’t feel that way. I don’t want to bail on her because I love her and I don’t want to quit on her but I don’t know what to do.
Tags: Beautiful Girl, Dollar, ex girlfriend, love, new boyfriend, relationship, roses
The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. ok so she obviously already noticed what she lost. If she said all that.. she meant it. trust me. i was in her shoes and my exboyfriend thought the same as you. it bothered me because he wouldn’t let me in. I know i hurt him and i was bossy and my friends would flirt with me, but in the end the only guy i really wanted was him. he was so afraid of letting me back in but i reassured him i had learned my lesson. He gave me a chance to show him, not to work for his love but to show him i had changed… but unfortunately he was extremely jealous and any guy that would text me for help in homework or something he thought i was cheating. I stopped talking to all my guy friends for him but by the time he noticed we had broken up again. but really my heart, body and soul was all his. i didn’t worship him nor anything but i loved him. I wanted a family with him and marry him. I was ready to devote my life to him becuase he was the one that made me happy. and as you read i hope that maybe this is what your girl is thinking because i see both point of views.
yeah it hurt a lot, and stuff but everyone deserves another chance. im sure you’d want one.
Its not about working for your love because love comes when you least expect it.
If you all fall in love again, then let it happen.
If it happens then obviously you were meant to be in love.
whatever happens happens right?? so let it be.
If she can make you happy, let her. she seems like she reeeally wants to.
that about not talking for a while is really good! because give both of you time to think and ventilate.
Good luck and remember, All you need is love…
she should not have to work for anything, but if you love her you will forgive her and see where your relationship goes from there. sounds to me like you want her to worship you and thats wrong and stupid.
you should ask her out talk nice to her and then get close to her ( physicaly )and start making out with her thats wat my boy friend did
I understand where you’re coming from. She hurt you and you don’t want to be hurt again.
But here’s the thing.
If you love her, forgive her. See where it goes. If it doesn’t work out so be it, but neither of you should have to work for love.
ive been put in positions like this before dude.. what will happen is shes going to end up getting bored and then decide to give up.. and if she is really as attractive as you say she is, some other guy will come a long sooner than you think.. I think you should just give it a shot and hope for the best.. you have a lot of experience being with her, so do all you can to improve the aspects of your relationship that were once weak.. Good luck, matt.
I think it was a mistake to verbally tell her she had to work for your love; aside from that, I understand the situation you’re in. If she doesn’t want to be with you as a girlfriend you shouldn’t be there for her as a friend, youre still in love with her and all this will do is bring you hurt. Stop talking to her. If she calls you saying she misses you, tell her you need some space. Meet other women. You’re still in love with her, and unfortunately she isn’t. As Harsh as it sounds she is only using you as emotional back up; until she finds someone else. Move on, meet other women, date other people, when she realizes what shes lost, shell come back on her knees saying shes sorry.