Why do women have a problem with the "if we cant be lovers we cant be friends" attitude?
I really don’t get why women who reject men or women who dump men then turn around and say "but we can still be friends" or in the case of the horrible friend zone "i don’t see you that way; but we can still be friends" why don’t women understand that to many men, who ask women out a friendship is nothing more than a consolation prize…i mean why the hell would you be friends with a woman if theres no chance of getting sex? They don’t share the same interests as men, they nag, they whine, etc…so whats in it for the guy? The girl uses him for emotional support and to whine about the bad boy thug she is screwing….is it no surprise men don’t want to settle for just friends…and whats with the break ups? You dump a guy romantically and have the NERVE to think he should still want to be your friend? You don’t often see men telling a girl "i don’t want to have sex with you; but lets be friends" or "i don’t see you that way; but id like to use you as an emotional tampon" it only seems to be a WOMAN thing…So why is it women cant understand that if a guy is interested in you he DOESN’T want the consolation prize??
PS NO IM NOT BITTER—I just dont understand this clearly illogical aspect of women.
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"PS NO IM NOT BITTER”.
LMAO
You said "They don’t share the same interests as men, they nag, they whine, etc…so whats in it for the guy? The girl uses him for emotional support and to whine about the bad boy thug she is screwing….i"-
I feel really sorry for you that all t women you met are like this…. But if they are – then you better not be friends with them, yes sure.
And what’s there to be offended about if SHE was the one to reject you?
I can only see why anyone would be offended if YOU rejected her AND said you don’t even want to be friends.
That’s like saying "you aren’t good for anything and i don’t want to associate with you at all"- OBVIOUSLY AN OFFENSIVE thing to say to ANYONE- would you agree?
women have never understood that relationships with them are all about sex, they just don’t get it, no sex =no relationship, even the catholic church gets it, no sex is grounds for an annulment of marriage. every guy has heard " you only want me for my body" or similar well it’s true because that’s all there is we can’t see her mind or her character or her spirit so we settle for the body
What’s so illogical about it? If a guy only wants a girl for one thing and refuses to interact with her when he doesn’t get it, he was never much of a friend, anyway. The lack of logic lies with him.
"That’s like saying "you aren’t good for anything and i don’t want to associate with you at all"- OBVIOUSLY AN OFFENSIVE thing to say to ANYONE- would you agree?"
At first glance, this argument seems logical. No one wants to be thought of as worthless. But this poster forgets what the asker originally pointed out: For the man, it’s like having to take the 2nd place prize. Almost as if the woman is saying, "hey, I don’t want you in my bed anymore, but can we still be friends so I can hang around, prolong the pain, and remind you of what you can no longer have?"
Men may be foolish for thinking this way, but many women are just as foolish for not heeding the advice of most experts: Break-ups are never fun, and trying to remain friends is to instill false hope in one party or the other that they’ll be lovers again, or it just causes the pain to last longer. It’s best to make a clean break and stay away from each other. That way, both the man and the woman can do what will have to be done eventually anyway…get on with their lives.
I broke up with a guy once, and he said he wanted to just be friends. So I let him, and treated him like a friend. He acted like a dumbass, whining and pouting and just being a child. I finally told him to knock it off or we couldn’t even be friends. He said that he never wanted to be friends, he had enough friends, he wanted us to have a relationship again.
And of course I said, "And that’s why I broke up with you in the first place."
Many, many couples are friends as well as lovers. Don’t insult the entire male gender by suggesting they’re all hormone driven pigs – I know too many decent men to let you get away with that kind of misandry.
If a woman says she doesn’t think about you that way, you either accept it an act like a friend, or accept it and move on. What you don’t do is whine and cry about it. You aren’t going to suddenly become MORE attractive by being a baby.
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