As suggested, to heal from a heart break, I wrote a fake letter to my ex, what do you think of it?
Of course I won’t send it to him, but I just wanted to see what you thought of it and if you think telling him this stuff will help get him back (??)
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Dear ex,
I hope all is well. I am writing this letter as part of my healing process, to be able to feel the feeling.
I am mostly angry with myself for having let you run away from me. I am angry that I was so distant and that I did not let you get close, I am angry that I was not myself fully, I am angry that I expected so much from you without giving you anything in return. I am angry that you could not see through me and understand that I was scared to feel and scared to let go, and I am angry you did not try harder. I am angry that you did not like me (though it is my fault). I am angry that I have yet another reason to hate myself. I am angry that I could not give you what you deserved and love you to the fullest. I am sad, baby, because I lost you and there is no way back.
I fear this break up means going back to my old depressive me, the me that hated herself and that did not believe anyone could love her. I fear that really, there will be no one else and that it will just leave one big whole that will mess up the rest of my life, namely my professional life. I fear that I will live out my life being single, never having been kissed. I fear that I will continue my boring old life.
I am always going to love your kindness and honesty, purity, good heart, and above all the fact that you tried liking me for me. I am scared I won’t find a person like you out there. I love the fact that you are so confident while being so humble. I will miss you like hell.
I love you, I just wish you were not my first experience, I wish I knew better. However, unfortunately, there is no time machine, this is why I will just let go and move on. But you know, even if I do move on, I know I will never ever find anyone like you and somewhere in my heart, I will always have a little remorse.
well, i wrote this letter as suggested on this website, if anyone is interested to read more about the healing process (I am just trying it out, don’t know if it will even work 
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http://www.therelationshipgym.com/how_to_get_over_a_break_up.htm
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This is really impressive. It totally express how you feel. But there is one little thing I might comment on which is this letter seems a little desperate. I know heartbreaks are really hard and it is not that easy to move on and forget – been there, done that of course – but I am telling you from my experience that you will get over it. My first love ditched me too and I don’t know the reason why, and everytime I wanted to confront him he kept avoiding me, deleting my from his messenger, etc. But oh well. I tried to write things myself and express my feelings. I used to write a private e-diary on Xanga site. It eventually worked.
Don’t say to yourself that you will never find a guy like him. You will find a better guy. Even if this guy was honest and pure with you, things didn’t work out at the end, so it is okay. I am pretty sure and positive that you will find another guy, specially that this is your first experience. You do not have to succeed from the beginning. People fail in order to appreciate their success. No worries. Just cheer up and be yourself. Don’t say you will get back to your depressive phase, don’t ever do that. Busy yourself with going out with friends – going to the gym – taking a walk etc. You’ve got plenty of things to do and you are young I must say, so you have a lot ahead of you.
Trust me on this one – good luck and keep your head up gorgeous. Your prince charming is going to find you. Just keep holding on.
Cheers.
It’s really therapeutic to write a letter to an ex as a means to let out your anger and frustration, but I worry that from your words you blame yourself for the breakup and constantly put yourself down. Healing means getting up, dusting the dirt off your shoulder and walking forward with your head held high. I’m not saying that you need to brush this off as an insignificant realtionship but consider it as a growing experience for yourself. Realizing this and knowing that you are a much better person coming out of this than before will be the ultimate step in your healing process. In the end, all that matters is you- as an individual, a unique personality and a gift to the world. Good luck.!
if your wondering if that will help get him back it doesnt sound like you wrote it to get over your relationship lol it might help though guys are definately not mind readers its got to be right there in their faces. id send it to him give it a try, the worst that could happen is you dont get back together and its better than wondering if maybe you had told him that you might have. even if you dont get back together with him now that you see all the mistakes he and you made youll be smarter and know better with your next boyfriend and relationships will just keep getting better because youll learn from your mistakes. good luck!
You can send him this letter and most likely it will get him to come back but you are putting yourself down. If he reads this, he might just get back with you because of pity…. I apologize sweety but, you shouldn’t put all the blame on you.. I bet you are a beautiful gurl (no homo) but seriously… you need to think about what you just wrote to him and see how you see yourself and if this ain’t you then don’t make him feel sorry for you and go with you again for that… It’s pathetic…
Good, I know this is just for therapeutic reasons but why don’t you try telling him some of this. it will help him understand better.
I love your letter! You are being so honest and sincere with him, that I can relate to many of the issues you talk about. If I were him, after reading this letter, I would think about it 2 times before letting you go. Trust me, I am going through this now, and I can talk and write about the problems we have had and closure is not there yet. The only thing that has helped is that he is close, still cares about me, and we are "friends". What I have really learned is that we do not notice our mistakes while in the relationship but later on. Hope that helps!