After loosing my boyfriend in a motocycle accident i though i would never love again. I think i was wrong!?
Im 23 years old and I just went thru the toughest stage of my life, after been with the most amaizin man for 31/2 years he got killed in a motocycle accident. I took it very hard, since he was and still is the love of my life.. 4 months after his accident i decided to go out and try to smile.. I met someone that almost automatically called my attention, he was unique and very goofy, maybe thats what i needed all this time someone to make me smile.. we met at a bar and we danced all night long, towards the end he asked me for my phone numbers and even though to everyone alse i would say no.. To him i just had to.. After that we kept seen each other and getting to know each other, he had been thru a very bad brake up and i had lost my boyfriend. so in part we were helping eachother out.. after a couple of weeks of us been hanging around, i felt like i was catching feelings and i backed away – i was scared and plus i felt wrong because in my heart i felt like i had to be faithful to my boyfriend. he was catchin feelings for me to but since i backed off, he felt like he had to as well to not get hurt..
9 months have been since i last seen him – and i cant stop thinkin about him! i feel like we left somethin that could of been special, and at the same time i feel much better now and i understand that i have to move on and be happy.. the problem is i dnt know how to get to him.. i dont want to scare him off. since he problaly thinks i will reject him again. we have friends in common but we never hang around. Lately i cant have him off my mind and i dnt knw if the power of the mind is great but last week.. he called my best friend and after a long conversation with her. he finally asked her about me.. "tell her i said hi" to alot of people thats nothin but to me is.. "he is thinkin about me, he didnt have to ask"
Now the question is, what should i do?
Tags: 23 years, 4 months, 9 months, best friend, catching feelings, heart, love, Love Of My Life, Met, phone numbers, power of the mind, smile, somethin
Well, you deserve to be happy. Sometimes, tough things happen and we are not ready to move on and I’m sure he can understand that, especially given the hardship you had to go through. But it looks like you are ready now and you should take your chance. Nine months ago, you apparently still felt committed to your boyfriend who died because you needed to finish the grieving process. Now, your life is your own. You can take things slow. You don’t need to jump into a relationship but you can be happy with someone else. Even though the break up with your boyfriend was not chosen, we are not made to be with just ONE person.
You should contact him. I don’t think you’ll scare him off.
I didn’t read all that, but of course you were wrong. You’re only 23. Did you seriously think you could go the rest of your life without loving even one person? That’s just crazy. It sucks that he died but that doesn’t mean your life is over.
You do need to move on with your life. Jesus can help with this, trust me. He has helped me through a bad situation, from which I moved on, and married the most beautiful girl in the world, whom I love like I have never loved any girl before.
What you are feeling is normal sorry about your loss. You have to continue to live your life because it is not healthy to be miserable. You may feel like you’re cheating but you are not. You still have the memories of your boyfriend to cherish. You have to live again your boyfriend that passed would not want you to be miserable he would want you to be happy…He Can continue to be #1 in your heart…Give this guy a chance God works in mysterious ways and God is GOOD
You should straight up call him and say long time no see. And start a nice eassy convo with him. Make is fun and light hearted, and recommend you two meet up and have some fun. Say maybe you would like to hang more often and get aquainted like you guys were before. So just try talking again, and maybe ur right, maybe u have something?
be selfish care for yourself
one i am very sorry for your loss i can only imagine how that must feel like. two your old boyfriend wouldnt want you to be afraid of going out and being happy if this new man makes you feel good about yourself go for it, live your life you have nothing to feel ashamed for. your always going to be thinking bout your loss but its better to be happy instead of miserable
Hun u have been though so much so young.
What should you do? Go get him! You deserve some happiness and it sounds like you know that now. I think you have fallen for the guy big time and he has fallen for you two. His asking after you after a long 9 months. Wow sounds like it’s meant to be.
I’m sure your boyfriend in heaven is thinking the exact same thing!
Good luck;)xx