Any post-breakup activities I can do to ease the pain?
May 18th, 2010 by admin | Filed in Getting Over An Ex
I just got out of a serious 5-year relationship. I broke up with him, but there was no big incident or drama that led to it. He’s a good guy, and I still love him, but he’s just not the right guy for me.
Anyway, after 5 years, I’m used to talking to him every day, and sharing everything with him. Without that now, I’m feeling lonely and I miss him very much and can’t stop thinking about him. I know that breakups are painful and I’m not looking for a way to avoid that; I just want to know what I’m supposed to do to help me cope. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Tags: Advice, breakups, good guy, love, relationship, right guy
Sorry to hear about the break up
I’ve been through similar and to be honest the best things for me were definitely keeping myself as busy as possible, doing things that you can do on your own without thinking of him automatically, doing things you enjoyed before you were with him as well.
You’ll probably have good days and bad days and you know it won’t be easy but the idea is to make it as easy for yourself as possible.
Watching stand ups etc of my favourite comedians is always a nice distraction, cooking, sleeping, TV, computer games, going out and seeing friends (very important!), curling up with a good book, a nice bath… just things that make you smile regardless of who is in your life.
I hope this helps at least a little bit. Feel free to message me if you’re struggling or anything x
Masturbation, lots of it.
Girl, just keep busy! I promise you if you stay busy for the first few days – it’ll get better. you don’t have to go all out on staying busy, but you know, hang out with people. Go out at night even just for a movie. Hang out with your family. Read a book. Sleep. Wash your car. But it def helps if you have people around to distract you
you’ll find the right one, keep that in mind 
good luck girl!
Go out! Have fun, go shopping!
Dont stress of him.
Get physically busy with anything. Stop talking about him – keep him out of your mind.
breaking up with guys or girls no matter how long is had but 5 years is long you need to fill your time up with things you did before you got with him start going out with friends and just keep him as a friend and in time you will start to heal.
time is a good healer but it is all about being strong and getting out and about do the things you always wonted to do take a trip or hoilday and start to find yourself again take care your be fine trust me im a women
Sweetie, I just got out of a relationship too, and to be honest, I know how you feel. Just keep busy – Go out, have fun with the girls, focus on other things. Good luck! Love, Jessica
I know you’re hurting… it will take some time to get used to being a "single" again and you do need that time. Please don’t start another relationship with a guy for a while.
One of the best things i did was to adopt a pup from the pound. When you have a wild, wiggly, sweet breathed pup licking your chops, you don’t have time to rehash as many things. Talk to and share your lonliness with your pup, tell him all your troubles and then go for a good walk. Remember to train after exercise, and then lots of love!!!!!!!
Remember to smile and start a thankfulness journal. Writing things down can help a lot!! Good luck!!