How can I get my ex back?
My ex left me because I wasn’t able to see him all the time. He lives 30 minutes away from me, and it was always him coming over to my house, but never me coming to his house. He left me about 2 and half weeks ago. Since then, I have been making every attempt to see him. I suprised him with a bouquet of roses at his work which he liked, I attended his award ceremony, and was very pleased to see me. He has an orchestra concert tonight, and I will be attending it. Afterwards, I wanted to talk to him. Before we leave, we always hug each other. he told me that he still has feelings for me, but they arent as strong as they used to be. Whenever he hugs me, can I kiss him on the cheek? I really care about him, and would like to get him back. Please help.
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From what you say here, it sounds like you let him do all the driving AND you didn’t spend as much time with him as he wanted. I am wondering if this is a "gardener and rose" situation, where the gardener does all the work and the rose just sits there being admired.
Now that he’s taken away something you want — which is him — you have predictably reacted by making a lot of effort, and showy effort at that. Roses at work? That’s pretty showy. He probably wanted you to be doing this all along to prove that the affection wasn’t one-way.
I think you guys need to talk. Not after the concert, because he’ll be tired, and he may want to hang out with the people he performed with. Go find him to let him know you came to the concert, but don’t try to have a heavy talk, and don’t force affection on him if he seems resistant.
If he won’t meet you, the phone might be okay. First, tell him that you miss him and you want to be back together with him. Ask him: "Did you leave because I didn’t spend as much time with you as you wanted?"
If the answer is "yes," tell him you’re sorry, and that now you understand how important it is to him, you will try to rearrange your schedule or whatever to spend more time with him. Now ask him: "If I could spend more time with you, would that fix the problem? Would you come back?"
If he can’t give you straight answers to these questions, there’s something else going on. If his answer is complex, or he can’t seem to make up his mind, he may be manipulating you.
Remember that it’s up to him. You cannot force your choices on other people. If he’s done with you, you need to respect that and move on.
This should be in Relationships, not Men’s Health…
It sounds like you’re on the right track, but I’d stop short of kissing him on the cheek. A kiss will give him a rush of emotions that COULD win him back, but also could upset his unsure-ness and drive him further away.
Instead, keep schmoozing him up for about a month. I’m pretty sure he just wants attention and to feel loved, so give him that. It sounds like you both talk about these things, which is good. But don’t force him! He’s like a deer, or something: any sudden move and he might bolt.
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wel ur online asking qations about it, why dontu go call her because asking yahoo answers sure wont get you there