How long did it take you to heal from a broken heart?
I know it can very depending on the circumstances so here is a brief overview of mine:
-I knew him 7 years (we broke up 4 of those years and tried again 2 years ago)
-We have a 5 year old
-I love him dearly… we were planning to get married
-He began smoking pot everyday and he lied about a lot which caused A LOT of arguments
-He supposedly quit but continued hanging out with his old drug buddies
We broke up 2 months ago and while Im trying to focus on being the best mommy I can… I am completely torn up on the inside. Sometimes I’ll feel okay but the heartbreak will hit me like a ton of bricks again. When will this pain go away when I have to see him every other week for visitation? My heart literally aches. How long did it take you to heal?
You are telling me to support something that is illegal. How about last fall when he got arrested and sat his butt in jail for 2 days for possession?
IT IS ILLEGAL!!! If you think getting high to escape the reality you screwed up your life is worth leaving your child without a father then maybe its best you keep gettin blazed and spend the rest of your life in jail before you have the opportunity to have kids to screw up.
Grow up, kiddo. Life isnt about making you happy. Its about doing for others. You’re just a selfish excuse for a human being.
It has nothing to do with weed making you unintelligent (thats a whole ‘nother argument in itself). My issue lies with the fact that it is illegal. Whether you think it should be legalized or not is irrelevant… it just is. Its easy for you to justify your actions based on your own personal circumstances. But you arent me. I had to watch my child beg her father to wake up off the couch every day when he was too blazed to notice her. I had to deal with his mood swings when he couldnt afford to buy weed for a week and put me in a choke hold… something he never once did in the years before he even tried smoking.
He became lazy. We went from being a loving couple to people who sat at home all day because he "just didnt feel like doing anything" he was so high. He used to be active before he depended on a substance just to get him through another day of dealing with people.
Im the one who listened to my daughter cry when daddy forgot to come get her after we broke up. Not you.
I was the one struggling financially when he couldnt pay he didnt pay child support only to find out later he blew it on pot and K2 "spice".
I was the one holding our family together and standing by his side for 2 years. He used to be loving and selfless. Since he started smoking he started to lie about everything.
You dont know HOW it feels to be told getting high is better than being sober with your family. So before you go defending your addiction, take a look at how it hurts those around you. My mom smoked all through my childhood and I was totally neglected emotionally. Smoking weed or doing any drug for that matter hurt those around you whether you choose to see it or not. Chances are you wont because its like you guys are blinded. And its people like me and my innocent little 5 year old girl who are hurt and neglected as a result.
My mind is molded? Sure you could say that. But not by the textbooks. My experiences alone showed me how drugs of any kind suck the life out of you and those around you. I have first hand experience… I was the daughter of a pot head. And I chose not to do this to my own child which is why its unfortunate her father is making the choices he is. It has nothing to do with "opening my mind" to try new things. I have had more than my fair share of experiences with it through the people I know. I hope for your sake and the sake of any children you have in the future you quit or seek help. No one needs a life of depending on a substance to make you feel happy. Its artificial.
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Its hard 2 say. Everybody is different. Its going 2 be much harder 4 u because u have 2 see him because u have a child 2gether. When I broke up with my kids father I made up in my mind that I was tired and ready 2 move on. You are goin 2 cry and its goin 2 hurt. So cry when u feel da need and what your going to have 2 do is start hanging out going places and meeting new people so that u can start the moving on process its going to be very hard because you have 2 see him for the rest of your life and i haven’t been with mine in 9 years but sometimes the hurt comes back. But all it has done is made me stronger.
Usually after 3 weeks.
79 years, 6 months, twelve days, 6 hours and 32 seconds.
You broke up with him over smoking weed?
That is completely ridiculous.
It is a PLANT.
Smoking cigarettes is the equivalent of smoking weed.
Do you realize it was illegalized because of black people and mexicans?
http://www.drugwarrant.com/articles/why-is-marijuana-illegal/
Take a look at this and stop judging him.
You probably haven’t even tried it yourself, and i’m not saying you should, i’m just saying you should support anything he thinks is best for his life.
I don’t like how ignorant people put others through this sort of pain because of smoking.
Think of your kid, they need a father and a mother figure.
If you’re absolutely against weed for the sole purpose of, "smoking and smoking weed are the same and bad to you", then I suggest finding someone else to heal your wounds.
My girlfriend has been leaving me in the dark and ditching me for her "friends". I’m not going to accuse her of anything but it’s getting a little ridiculous. I broke up with her because she’s done this more than three times. We’ve also been fighting alot, and she has this quest to control me or something. I hate how girls can’t manage to be equals with men. Anyway, we’ve broken up once before this and didn’t see eachother for almost a year. It was the most painful experience of my life. No one seemed as good as her, I gained some weight, became extremely isolated, and was just a complete mess. It was all because she was out partying with guys and girls, would never invite me, and saved me for sundays. Every day her time was occupied, except for boring… sunday. It pissed me off and I felt unimportant to her. She disrespected me so many times that I got fed up with it. She practically begged me back the next year which was completely unlike her, but I did really enjoy it. It showed she cared, which she lacks sometimes. So right now we’re bumpy and I don’t know if i’ll forgive her. Time will tell.
Edit: Am I now? I know plenty of intelligent OLDER people who smoke weed and live great lives. For example, my mom’s boyfriend. He pulls in a chunk of money every year, has his masters in english and in psychology, and is a good down to earth guy. Sometimes laws aren’t always the best. Like the law where we have to give banks our money and homes. Sort of like the mafia. And how our country is lead by money hungry souless beings. Weed is useless being illegal. Alot of people do it anyway and it will soon be legal. I understand you have a strong opinion about this and it probably stems from your parents or friends. Lucky for me I was given supporting parents who encouraged that I develope my own opinions. Maybe you should try that. If you honestly think about it and do some research, your "opinions" are merely just lame "opinions." You have nothing to back it up that it’s horrible for you. It’s just as bad as anything else, what makes it worse than alcohol and smoking? And junk food? Everything gives you cancer. Think outside the box once in a while and become a free thinker and believer. It’s probably a little late for that now, your mind is molded.
a broken heart never forgets, but it does heal. i was in love with this guy for 6 years, i got over him this year o be honest. however, i still turn when i hear his voice or even his name. we imagine what we would’ve been rather what we were. focus on your kids, they are your heart and soul right now. if this guy will influence your kid negatively then let him go.
“To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.”
best of wishes.