How do I get my husband to notice me again?
This may seem daft, but I wish my husband would notice me like he used too. I know that after a few years the passion can subside, but I do miss it.
He just seems utterly blind to me as a sexual woman with needs. We only make love once or twice a month. We have been together 5 years.
Other men notice me, and it gives me a buzz, but I wish my husband would look at me in the same way! A gorgeous guy at work has made it clear he is attracted to me and it makes me feel warm and giddy, like my husband used too. I would not do anything, but I fear that the lack of love and attention from my husband will one day drive me into someone elses arms.
I am open about how I feel, but I dont think he see’s the problem. I am currently loosing weight to regain my self confidence, but have not told him, I want to see if he starts to notice me again.
Ladies, I know alot of you out there have felt this way at some point during your married lives. Do you have any advice for me?
Many Thanks
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Hi: I am in the same boat as you, we have been together five years as well. I consider you lucky I have not had sex in five months and I am considering cheating I am only 49 and still relatively attractive
you need to talk to your husband and tell him exactly what you are feeling he deserves to have a chance to make it right and then after that you may need to go elsewhere if he doesn’t change
Take your clothes off and just run and jump on him. That always works!
well yes it is hurtful when they dont notice you, you get more attention from others than you do from them…KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK WITH THE WEIGHT!!!!!…keep losing it and take care of yourself and appearance I`m sure he`ll notice…did you tell him how you felt…because if he dosent know how you feel someone else will and thats going to make your marriage even worse than it is now, dont make that mistake people make and go to someone else for effection and attention…he needs to do his job, maybe you can see a counseler or pastor someone that can help you two out and give you relationship excersizes to do with eachother to gain that passion back
Sounds like you are stuck in that same old rut. Time to get out and start a date night. Go to dinner by yourselves, rent a room at a nice Hotel for the night. Go somewhere romantic or fun. Get to know each other again. You may have to be the one to work towards this and help him along. He may be so tired and busy from work he has left this romance on the backburner. I think once you get some fun and excitement back in your lives he will feel that spark again.
just start going around naked in the house. How can he resist? I know I can’t !
I think that the first thing you need to do is talk to your husband and tell him how you are feeling and what your needs are. Ask him if there is anything that has changed in your relationship that you don’t know about. Ask him if he loves you the same way that he did when you first married 5 years ago? Depending on how he answers will lead you through the rest of your conversation. Best wishes in your conversation….
go to a salon and pamper yourself…head home stop off and buy something sleazy…greet him at the door and lead him into the bedroom and tie his ass up…f his brains out and let him hit the back door…he’ll notice ya more…oh yeah, have something to eat afterwards with a nice bottle of wine…enjoy…
well there can be lots of reasons for this. First, try to see how your attitute is with him. If you nag one minute about the dumbest thing and the next you want sex. He will NOT be turned on. Second, dont try hard on trying to please him. Just Do LITTLE unexpected favors or surprises. Third, try to do things that he knows you normally hate doing with him. Last, when you want sex. Do things he likes to do first then you do what you want. BUT tell him ahead of time that you will doing his favorite things. These things will work just dont try to hard. GOOD LUCK
Well, perhaps you need to stop needing his attention and start 1. Giving it to yourself and 2. Giving it to him.
Maybe you should start being sexy just for yourself! That’s always sexy to a partner. You’ve been together 5 years. My secret for success with my man is that he always feels like he’s with a different woman (not because I have Multiple Personality Disorder) because I often change my appearance, new hair, new perfume, different clothing styles. Experiment with the "you" he knows and make it somehow unfamiliar! That’s sexy.
Also, what have you done to make him feel sexy lately? Have you done for him what you long for him to do for you?
Write him a sexy letter. Get a new dressing gown. Give him a surprise sexual encounter that’s only for HIM. Use your sex appeal and imagination. If you aren’t a furnace of love, read books that get your mind thinking in that direction. Have fun!
Keep up your fitness! That’s ALWAYS sexy to a man!
I think you’re going to be very successful!
Would you mind hearing from a man who also has this issue?
Perhaps what I "crave" will be stimulating to him, as well.
Congratulations for trying to make it work and good luck with your diet. Your confidence will mean everything to you and to him.
My wife has lost that "spring" in her step when she sees me, I miss that. This is that little hop just before we hug or kiss "hello". She is not often tactile or affectionate and I crave that. If you were to approach him with that little energy and embrace his arm when you kiss him, it just HAS to make him feel better!
Another thing that I miss is when we used to kiss on the sofa or while sitting next to each other. Whenever I feel a gentle hand caress my face or back of my neck during a smooch, I JUST MELT!!!AHHHHHHHH!!! I just can’t get enough of that.
If you want to be more playful, try holding hands while crossing the street or walking into a store/restaurant/ home, then stroke his arm up and down with the other hand gently. That is so soothing and loving that it says, "I absolutely love being with you!"
The last thing that she (still) does to get my attention is when I bend over to tie shoes or pick something up, she pats my butt just once, not too hard. That tells me, "hey you still got it".
Best of luck, never give up on him or yourself.
1st clean the house very well , especially the bed room , clean bed sheet n blanket and pillow and , romance lite and perfumed air , if possible an airconed room , clean toilet n bath room , even bath tub , then cook his favorite dish ,for his dinner , after dinner with a candle lite (romantic ways )then get ready his warm bath , u too , take a bath, a very clean 1 even the teeth and very fragrance breath, then wear ur sexy nite dress , let see if he cannot stand well and straight and have hard hmmmmm, wish u a happy all nite long , always
Keep working on yourself. Whether he notices it or not it will do good for your confidence and self image. Introduce some differences in your life like wearing sexy underwear, high heels a little more make-up and a different hair style. Ask him to take you out more often. Go to a lounge where you’re around other men. Be coy and feminine around him. Flirt with him or any guy in the room. If he doesn’t begin to notice you then start going out on your own a little.