http://howtogetmyexbacktips.com/3813/how-do-i-get-rid-of-my-gfs-ex-boyfriend/ Your trusted and independent reviews of the most effective "Getting Your Ex Back" guides online Sat, 28 Jan 2012 13:41:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://howtogetmyexbacktips.com/3813/how-do-i-get-rid-of-my-gfs-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-19120 abbeycoolit Sat, 29 May 2010 20:33:54 +0000 http://howtogetmyexbacktips.com/3813/how-do-i-get-rid-of-my-gfs-ex-boyfriend/#comment-19120 As sad and as painful and confusing as this situation is for you,it is actually very easy to resolve. First of all you have to understand and accept the fact that you can not force anybody to love you or return the feelings you might have for them no matter how deeply felt or pure they may be. With that in mind,only this gal can resolve the three way dilemma you have now.No matter what all of her family and friends might say about this guy,no matter how much they may consider you the best thing that ever happened to her, no matter how much you love her, and no matter how much sense you all make about this guy,until and unless she comes to the same conclusion and decides that he is no good for her and she cuts him out of her life for good,there is absolute nothing you can do . Plus you can not build any type of a romantic relationship if you feel insecure and afraid of the person you love and their commitment to you and the romance.As long as she is still influenced by this guy and can not let go,she can not fully commit to you and you guys have nothing. If she feels as you indicate that you guys have the makings of a great romance ,she would not be confused and would know that her future is with you irrespective of her past with him .Yes they had three years together but if she no longer has any feelings for him and loves only you,then it would not matter if they were together for donkey years. Hence,as difficult as it may be for you,I suggest that you :1 ) Tell her that you love her and want to be with her. 2)Tell her that if she feels the same way about you then the issue is an easy one. You have to force her hand even if you run the risk of losing her. Tell her that she has to decide whom she wants to be with and choose .Give her some time to decide (like 2 to 4 weeks) and no more .If she has not made up her mind by then ,as much as you love her and want a life with her,that you would get out of her life. Yes ,she may choose to stay with him or may even tell you to take a hike. At least it would force her to make a decision one way or the other. That finality to the situation will be much preferrable to the slow death that you are now going through. Think long and hard about it and I wish you well. As sad and as painful and confusing as this situation is for you,it is actually very easy to resolve. First of all you have to understand and accept the fact that you can not force anybody to love you or return the feelings you might have for them no matter how deeply felt or pure they may be. With that in mind,only this gal can resolve the three way dilemma you have now.No matter what all of her family and friends might say about this guy,no matter how much they may consider you the best thing that ever happened to her, no matter how much you love her, and no matter how much sense you all make about this guy,until and unless she comes to the same conclusion and decides that he is no good for her and she cuts him out of her life for good,there is absolute nothing you can do . Plus you can not build any type of a romantic relationship if you feel insecure and afraid of the person you love and their commitment to you and the romance.As long as she is still influenced by this guy and can not let go,she can not fully commit to you and you guys have nothing. If she feels as you indicate that you guys have the makings of a great romance ,she would not be confused and would know that her future is with you irrespective of her past with him .Yes they had three years together but if she no longer has any feelings for him and loves only you,then it would not matter if they were together for donkey years. Hence,as difficult as it may be for you,I suggest that you :1 ) Tell her that you love her and want to be with her. 2)Tell her that if she feels the same way about you then the issue is an easy one. You have to force her hand even if you run the risk of losing her. Tell her that she has to decide whom she wants to be with and choose .Give her some time to decide (like 2 to 4 weeks) and no more .If she has not made up her mind by then ,as much as you love her and want a life with her,that you would get out of her life. Yes ,she may choose to stay with him or may even tell you to take a hike. At least it would force her to make a decision one way or the other. That finality to the situation will be much preferrable to the slow death that you are now going through. Think long and hard about it and I wish you well.

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