How to make my boyfriend believe I won't leave him?
I was with my boyfriend from the time I was 17 til I was 20 and then he decided that things weren’t working for him anymore and he broke up with me. About 8 months later he got with someone else and they were together for about a year and then they got married. They were only married about 6 months before the girl decided she wanted someone else and they got a divorce and she moved to another state. About 7 months after that he got back with me and we have been together 4 months now. Ok so at first he was being real sweet all the time, he was there for me when I needed him and he would send me little texts all day long saying how much he loved and missed me. Well about 2 months into it he totally changed and started being really mean and I didn’t understand why. So we finally talked about it and he pretty much made it sound like if his ex wife would leave him for someone else then so would I. I haven’t been able to make him see that in the whole time we were broken up hes the one I wanted and I stayed with him for over 3 years and I never wanted to break up. But hes telling me that even if I were to marry him he probably still wouldn’t believe that I loved him and that I was going to stay. So what am I supposed to do? Why do I have to pay for the things other people have done to him when I’ve never hurt him?
Tags: 3 years, 4 months, 7 months, divorce, texts, whole time
time tells all stories.
He is carrying around too much baggage. Throw it in his face that he is the one that let the first time, NOT you! If anything, YOU shouldn’t trust him!
we all end up taking things out on the other. My husband and I sometimes push each other away by accident. We were together in high school and I broke up with him because he was so sure of what he wanted and I was so unsure of what I wanted. We ended up back together 3 years later. I have abandonment issues due to the fact that my father left me when I was 7 my grandfather left me when I was 13 and my daddy (really my step father but more of a father to me) left constantly because he used to be a drug addict. My husband on the other hand has had girlfriends who have used him plus his dad’s ex girlfriend sexually abused him and her son may be his. We end up taking it out on each other sometimes. Some nights we actually lay in bed and one of us will end up saying "please don’t leave me" or "I am afraid your going to leave me". He is kinda hurt and confused. Just be patient with him.
i think you should tell him an if he doesnt believe you,you should leave it alone…you shouldnt have to explain why and how you love him..apparently you love him alot to take him back after he broke up with you to marry another chikk.——–jasmine marie johnson
Well you can’t blame him much for the failed marriage he had. But he must not expect a lot in any relationship its a matter of believing and enjoying the relationship.
And you don’t have to do anything just to make him believe that you will not leave him. Is your love and loyalty not enough for him to believe.
But if the situation worsen, I guess you both don’t deserve to be together.