How do you heal a BROKEN HEART??
June 8th, 2010 by admin | Filed in Getting Over An Ex
I don’t know what to do I feel so alone. My bf of 3years, we just decided to part ways. We have a 4month old daughter to top it off. I feel so sad about this. For the pass few days I’ve been crying and crying. Although I’ve tried to fix things between us it just isn’t working anymore. We fight all the time since the baby has been born and he’s cheated on me twice during our relationship(The never had sex but he cheated, one was while I was pregnant). Has anyone been down this road before? Going from a family to a single parent in just a matter of months. It just hurts so bad. I’ve love this man for so long.
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me!!! lol 9 years later i still cry for him! i am married again but i he was my first love and i really loved him.. my heart will never be the same! we have a 9 yr old and she reminds me so much of him. is hard getting over him because i have to talk to him all the time and i still have to see him every other weekend when i take her to him.. is hard but life goes on! just be strong!
Have you considered counseling. It might help!!!
Well you deal with it day by day and you will fine.
If he’s been cheating on you then YOUR BETTER OFF!
Sure it’s going to be hard but you and the baby with make it. Just be sure you get child support.
I think you need to concentrate on why you are fighting. Why are you fighting? He is cheating becasue he is not getting enough sex. Possibility? Why do you want to be with someone where you fight all the time. I don’t get that part. What is it about him you love. You need to take some time and think
Time, Friends, New Activities, Laughter, Family, Friends….
Yes been there done that and I have 2 children.. All i can say is time will heel you heart and try to stay strong for your baby… Keep up with friends and family its always good to have people to talk to. Maybe join a few groups like play groups for your child and for u to socialize with other people… And some day u will look back and be like y did let him hurt me like that.. It took me about 4 years to finally see that but i am now married to a wonder full man and wouldn’t go back and change any of it cause it all lead to this great path i live now!!!
finding someone to love
If a man is going to cheat he is going to try to go all the way. I bet he did have sex with her but to lighten the situation up he is telling you he didn’t. The best thing you can do is stay strong. Do not contact him. Be the best Mommy you can be. Get out there and better yourself so you can support you and your kids. Look and dress your best even if you have to get a make over. Don’t call him and tell him you miss him he will think he has won. When you have free time by yourself go out and have some fun with the girls. The more that he can see you are doing fine without him the more regrets he will have. The more you boo hoo I love you mush mush the more he will take advantage of you and he will think he is all that and a bag of chips. Do not let him win be strong. I was in your situation before and now that it has been 12 years divorced it is almost as if I was never married to the man.
Suck it up and get some self-esteem. It doesn’t matter if you were pregnant while he cheated on you, he cheated on you. That’s what matters and he’s not a real man to do that to the woman who was caring his child. You deserve a real man who will treat you right. Yeah, it sucks being a single mom but time will heal your broken heart and a new man will come into your life and take care of you and your baby. Don’t take that looser back no matter what he says!
with time and chocolate
Dear, you are going through postnatal depression after giving birth. And your hubby is lost between you and your new born. He must be feeling that you dont share equal love to him.
Dont be depressed every woman goes through some sort of problems during pregnancy and after giving birth..
Sometimes husbands are the targets to all these happening in the house.
If you still feel that you and your hubby cannot cope up then you have to be brave and stay separate for sometime.
Take care..
time heals all
Time will heal your broken heart. Trust me. xx
The main thing that will help you through this time is that you need to be strong and mature in order to take care of and raise your baby girl. She needs you very much and depends on you for her very existence. A man that disrespected you and walked away from you and his daughter is one that shouldn’t be cried over. You may be doing that now, but eventually you’ll feel he isn’t worth it. There will be another man out there who will treat both you and your daughter like you’re special. Let time pass, and take care of yourself and your baby. That’s what will help you through this difficult time.
Try relationship counseling. Ask for him to try and both of you together can do anything. Apart is just tough.
ummm, yeah.. lots of guys cheat on thier girls when they are pregnant… how did you find out? or r u just asuming.. if u r just assuming…don’t … why throw away your futurre with the father of your child? u obvioulsy still love him… give him anohter chance.. eventually he’ll get it right and be with you and his daughter… now if you let yourself gooo… meaning, you have no intention of getting back to your original weight and letting yourself go..then forget about it.. move on… guys like girls cause of the way they look…. not cuase they give them a baby… get to the gym soon, and take care of yourself first… this will allow you to take care of your baby better than ever and bring happiness to your life.
it’s all in your head baby… can you do it?
Honey, I’m so sorry for the pain you’re feeling! Yes, lots of us have been through this. You will survive, but it will take time.
YOU can’t fix what’s wrong with your relationship. It takes both of you working to repair the damage. If he doesn’t want to work to fix it, you can’t make him. He’s a cheater! He should have to work to regain your trust and forgiveness, and if he’s not willing to put the effort in, let him go. You deserve better.
You have to take care of yourself and your little girl. You have to be a good mom and a good role model for her. You want her to grow up to be a strong, responsible adult woman and a good mother to your grandkids.
Concentrate on your little love and let her heal your broken heart. All the rest will work itself out in it’s own time.
It takes time to heal my cousin when through the same situation. She is happier now that the guy is not on sight, though it took her time to heal from all the hurt he left her with. What helped her is to be close to her family and to get her baby’s unconditional love and God, yes she turned to him for comfort.
when u find out let me know.
ONLY TIME CAN MEND A BROKEN HEART!
O I know exactly how you feel! I was 6 months pregnant when my guy cheated on me. I didn’t leave until I caught him for the third time cheating on me. It hurts so bad I know yu can’t eat or sleep you cry all the time and you feel so many emotions that your about to go crazy! You wonder why, does he have someone else, why me, doesn’t he love me anymore? It hurt I know it hurts so bad you can feel the pain in your chest right! The truth only time will heal, and the truth its going to be awhile before you feel just okay again! Its hard to let someone go espesially if you had a family. Be with you family and friends be around people as much as you can. Find a new job, go back to school, or get a new hobby, do something to better yourself and to keep you busy! I know right now you don’t want to be with some one else yet, in time you will though! Prove to this guy that you can make it with out him! Some day you will find happiness and probably find that you are happier! Sounds to far ahead right now I know, it hurts so bad, I know but keep your head up and don’t turn your friends away or family, they are the ones who will get you through this. When somthing comes up for you to go have fun don’t turn it down, find a way to go and do it. you’ll be fine! What don’t kill you makes you stronger!!
Dear Bossy,Healing a broken heart is like treating a cold.As uncomfortable as it is it will take time to heal.then and only then will you build immunity.So cry if you want to stump around if that is what you feel like doing pull out your hair if you need to.Relief will come soon just hold on a while longer.
Aww sweety time is the only healer for this im afraid!
You need your friends and family around you too to help make you smile and laugh again.
My heart goes out to you it really does and if you ever want to chat or anything just give me a wee shout ok xx
God Bless you x
You poor thing!! You have got to be feeling so much right now….you just had a baby so your hormones aren’t settled yet….you’ve been fighting with a man who didn’t take the time to realize the beauty of your pregnancy and instead commited the ultimate betrayal while his child was growing inside you. He sounds like a very selfish man who cannot appreciate the wonderful woman that you are. Your baby needs you to be strong right now. I know it hurts but you have got to get through this for yourself and your baby. This man will eventually grow up and realize what a mess he made of things with you and by then you will have moved on and be happy and healthy. Spend time with your friends and family the people who love you no matter what and one day you will wake up and it won’t hurt as much. Until then you may want to also go see someone about possibly having postpardom depression just to help you cope.
Yes I’ve been where you have. I left my Ex 10 yrs. ago when our baby was 6 months old. (I already had a 5 yr. old too) My Ex had cheated on me during my pregnancy & after. After I caught him, he was strutting around town with the tramp he cheated on me with, & after Court & visitations were said & done, the tramp would take my baby to town & everyone thought she was the Mother!
He said that I wasn’t the same person. I was pregnant & had bad post-pardum, duh of course I’m not going to be the same.
How I got thru it was with time , alot of couseling, & tears. Try to surround yourself with people that have gone thru similiar situations, positive people, family,& friends.
I’m not going to lie it will be hard, especially that you two share a child & you will have to see him. In time after your heart heals, you’ll start loathe him & wonder to yourself "What did I ever see in him?". If I can do it you can do it, just take it day by day. Remember that little baby needs you. I know how you feel,& I feel for you. But hey, your Ex just lost out on the best thing he’ll ever have.
IM SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN, BUT IF YOU REALLY WANT SOME KIND RELIEF LIKE RIGHT AWAY, GIVE YOUR PLOBLEM TO GOD AND MAKE JESUS CHRIST YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR. THEN BE STILL AND KNOW THAT THEY ARE ON IT, AND GET READY FOR YOUR ANSWERS.
It is true that you are in a bad situation, which you already know.
The father of your child is now not in the household, and your lover is not in your bed.
If he has ever asked you to marry him, you might tell him that you are now ready.
However, if you are finished with this guy, due to his cheating on you, then you need to call this your past, and attempt to move on.
There are many good men out here who would be willing to marry a single woman who has a child. It happens everyday.
He is not the only man who is available.
Listen.
The way to engage him in conversation is not with crying and accusations.
Wait until you have calmed down some. Try your best to avoid contact with this man for a month or two.
If you love this man truly, and if you believe deep down in your soul that you want to spend the rest of your life with this man, then there are quite a few issues that have to be dealt with once he comes back around.
If after 2 months, he does contact you, realizing that he does love you; AND if you have calmed down, to the point that you can talk to him without anger, and without crying, THEN you may be able to arrange a meeting for him and you to talk.
Get someone to babysit for you, and arrange to meet him outside of the place you live, away from the needs of your baby, away from the crying baby, and in a place where you can give him your undivided attention.
At home, make a written list of the things you want to say to him.
Ask him if he loves you.
Ask him if he wants to see his daughter.
Ask him if there is any hope that you and he might have a future together.
Ask him what he thinks about you and he making a home for your daughter, and the possibility of marriage.
You may have other questions, but write them down, and try to put them into an order of importance, as you see them.
Tell him that you have forgiven him for any contact that he may have had with other women. This is important for any discussion. He must feel that you love him enough to forgive him without question, and that you TRUST him.
You might not trust him now, of course, but you will have to trust him in order to have a family, a home.
If you are of the opiniion that you can NEVER TRUST this man, then I suggest that you realize that this is not the man to spend the rest of your life with, and begin the healing process.
Women who have experienced divorce and separation and the death of a husband, all experience similar issues. They suffer the lonliness due to the absence of a man in their lives.
The first thought that comes to mind is to get another man.
Don’t!
You need to get your mind around the idea that you can make it alone with your daughter, if you have to.
You can live without a man, if you have to. Many others do, and have.
You will have your time occupied for the near future with caring for your new baby. This will help some.
But, you still will need to meditate upon the fact that a woman can be lonely and still survive.
It might not sound like any fun, and it won’t be at first. You can find things to do that will fill your time during the day. Maybe you will get a part-time job. There are various things you may try, such as joining a club, or a church group, or reaching out to your family members. Do anything that will keep your mind busy. Reading is one way to spend the late hours, and it may be books that deal with the problems you are experiencing, or leisure books.
This is going to be a long process, and one day at a time thing.
Hopefully, however, you can arrange to meet with your man, and arrange to marry.
Hopefully, after not making any contact with him for a couple of months that he will realize what he has lost, and contact you himself, apologetic, and asking your forgiveness.
I believe that, above all else, that my relationship with God has helped me deal with my family problems, more than anything else. Of course, not all people are ready or willing to look for Divine help, but this is a good option as well.
You may also find self-help groups online, or locally.
Well you simply move forward and leave the past in the past.
Pick your chin up and start living your life HAPPY & POSITIVE. Go out and socialize even if you don’t feel like it. Start going to the gym. Once you feel good about yourself everything will come into place.
A positive attitude will move you in the right direction. Trust me, it works.
The power of attitude;
DREAMS….a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step
PURPOSE… your vision becomes clear when you look inside your heart
PASSION….. belief fules passion…and passion rarely fails
PEOPLE are like sticks of dynomite. The power is on the inside, but nothing happens until it gets lit
COURAGE…. does not always roar. Sometimes it’s the quiet voice, at the end of the day, saying; "I will try again tomorrow"
GOALS… take the long view, one day at a time
STAY POSITIVE….. you become what you think about
ATTITUDES…… truly are contagious ask youself one question. Am i worth catching?
SIMPLIFY…… things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things the matter least
EXPECT the best. Funny thing, if you refuse to accept anything but the best.. you often get it
SUCCESS…..Its not the thing you get, but the hearts you touch, that will determine your success
LOVE doesn’t make the world go round….. love is what makes the ride worthwile
ALWAYS STRIVE…….In many ways we are all alike, one difference, always makes a big difference…
the little difference is ………
ATTITUDE