How long does it take to heal a broken heart?
I was with this guy for three months, I really liked him so much. I never felt this connection with anyone before.
I was very distant I admit but it’s because he was the first and this is my personality, it takes me time to get comfrotable with a person. And then I started becoming comfrotable. A few things happened and we decided to break it off, mostly he decided. But he said we should stay friends. I can’t stay friends, I tried but I can’t – I like him way too much to think of him as a friend only.
I tried getting back together, I thought we were going in the right direction but then he insisted it was only friendship.I decided to stop calling him, but it is so hard. It’s been two days and I cannot stop crying.
I really thought we clicked, and I think I had started to fall in love. Now I have to live with the idea that he’s probably going after some other girl and that he moved on while here I am constantly thinking about him. IT IS HARD. Especially when it is not easy to find a good guy where I come from, they’re all immature players.
For anyone who has gone through this, how long will it take for me to forget, I can’t stand this feeling anymore!!
and BTW, I can’t even make myself go out at night or anything. I know I will be in a bad mood only thinking about him, and it won’t be fair for my friends to endure with me.
And every place remind me of something about him. I would just rather be home being sad, than going out and thinking about him constantly.
How can I get over this??
Tags: bad mood, broken heart, friendship, going in the right direction, love, personality, Stay Friends, three months
Time…theres honestly no telling on WHEN you will get over this, but there are ways to ALLOW yourself to get over it rather than just waiting.
I know it’s hard to let go of something that could have possibly been love; trust me I went through the same thing. What you MUST do to get over this quickly is to realize that what is IN THE PAST IS IN THE PAST! Theres no changing; especially now seeing how you have tried. The only way to change it back to the way you want it is if he comes back, but he most likely wont.
So be confident in who you are and be confident that another man who is MUCH better than this kid. Theres too much love out there for there not to be anymore for you. And when you find it you it will absolutely intoxicate you, and when that happens you will come to find that it was worth the wait.
So look forward to these future things that WILL come, and dont dwell on the past because there is no way for them to be changed; unless if you have a time machine in which case hook a brotha up!!! lol
Good Luck.
Like you said, this is your personality. So this means that your heart has its own phase, but you can control it. Move on, REMEMBER.. " There are other fishes in the Sea." Talk to other guys, get out, flirt with other guys, and slowly you will forget about him. If anything, just keep thinking about the negative things of him. Staying friends is a good idea.Its not as awkward as seeing each other around but not acknowleding each other
I’m sorry to tell you this, but sitting at home and thinking about him, isn’t helping either. At least you’ll be out, and having a chance to meet another great guy.
To answer your question though, it’s not easy. I’ve just had my heart broken a few months ago, but I got over it quite quickly by staying busy, and realizing that there are more fish in the sea. I’m sorry, but just move on. Like I said, you will find another great guy, just be patient.
i don’t have a great answer, but im going through same thing. it happens to everyone at some point. eventually you will want to go out again and you won’t think about it as much. try to focus on moving forward and not thinking about the past. i know how hard it is, but you’ll get over it someday.