how can i make him love again after he was hurt so much?
this may look long but its easy to understand..i have been seeing this guy for about three weeks.. we went to a party, went to the movies, and he has met my parents. I do not sleep with guys unless they are my boyfriend, and have only slept with 1 person, and he knows this. the problem is, he has a reputation as a player, and about a week before we started meeting up he was still seeing another girl(he isnt anymore). his best friend told me that he says im beautiful..and also he messages me first in the morning and before sleeping. he is also overseas at the moment and still messages me even though its expensive and i said not to.
today, i was like "i think i figured you out..your ex screwed up your trust, thats why you date so many girls, coz deep inside youre scared tht if you stay with them that they will do the same thing your ex did. and you date a girl and then you find a better one, but you still tlk to the other one because they like you so much that you can go back to them whenever you want, which is fun to do. and mainly the reason you do this is coz a. you have trust issues, and b. you love the attention girls give you. i think were very similar, except you havent tried to do anything with me because you have respect for me, coz you know i wont drop my pants for you in a second.. and you know that i can easily stop talking to you, coz i dont have the same obsession with you unlike others. so keep being interesting 
" and he said "Yeah my ex and the trust thing is right, but the reason i struggle to commit to girls is because i dont respect them after what my ex did, and how can you date someone if you dont respect them? before my ex i wasnt like this at all!"
if I told him i only sleep with boyfriends and he is still seeing me, does that mean he likes me? is he just wanting a fling with me? this coming saturday we are going to a party together.. is there anything i should do? Thanks heaps.
Tags: best friend, Boyfriends, Fling, girls, going to a party, heaps, love, obsession, parents, reputation, sleep, Tht, trust issues
he sounds like he has potential to be a great guy, but you’re taking a huge leap of faith with him. you must like to "save" people. you think you can change someones ways, make them a better person, make them realize what love really can be? it could work, but 9 times out of 10, you WILL end up heartbroken. Life’s about taking risk’s though, if you arent livin on the edge, youre takin up too much room! ha
but i think he likes you, it’s just having a guy like this REALLY commit, is a hard thing to do, because his past will always be there, you just have to have faith girl.
follow your heart, it knows the way.
Firstly, yes I am overseas & in some way still very hurt by what my ex did. The part your incorrect with is the player !!!!!!
I have not had a G/F or even been past a second date with the 2 girls I have been out with in the last 33 months..
Yes, I may flirt at times with girls but until I can trust again I’m happy being single……..
time. if your love is true it will happen in time. no quick fixes
Ana, you cannot fix him. He needs lots of therapy. He will never change for you, ever. He as issues that will takes months to fix with the right therapy. I’m sorry but this one is not right for you. Your problem is, you think you can fix/change him. NEVER< NEVER<NEVER If you want to ask me more questions about this, you can contact me. See Ana, the difference between you and him is, you know your problems and what you need to fix them, or you know how to fix yourself real easy. He on the other hand does not know how to fix his problems, he’s blaming his problems on his EX, and that is the wrong person he needs to blame. When someone usually has a problem, sometimes they think the problem they are having is right in front of them, when really, the problem started years ago. I hope that made some sense.