I met some one else & Don't know what to do?
I’ve been with my husband for 6 years (inlcuding dating). I’m in my early 20′s and so is my husband. I love him deeply but don’t know if I want to be here anymore. I met someone else last week and spent most of the week with them, hanging out all day and getting to know each other and eventually sleeping together.
I convinced myself to leave my husband (so I tried) and then I slept with him, came home and admitted it. Now my husband is considering taking me back.
But I don’t know if I want to work things out. I’ve developed feelings for this other person and can see myself living a good life with him. But I’m afraid to hurt my husband again. I don’t deserve my husband after doing this to him and if I could do this to him, I mustn’t be "in love" with him. People tell me you can cheat and still love your partner, but how can you. How can you hurt that person so much? I don’t understand and I don’t want to stuff him around. What do I do?
I don’t want to continue on with this guy if I decide to stay and I’m not seeing him right now. I know I need to work out my shit, but what I guess I’m asking is does a cheater deserve another chance. My view is he deserves better than this, but on the other hand I don’t want to be a quitter (even though I did quit the second I decided to cheat).
Tags: 6 years, cheater, Dating, feelings, love quot, M 105, Met, quitter
Haley trust is gone in this relationship with your husband. Your not ready for marriage, obviously, and in your early 20′s is not a good time to marry ANYONE because your just finding out about you in life. Make sure your on birth control so you don’t bring an innocent child into this drama you have developed. I say cool it with the new one and get your life straighten out with hubby. I say go ahead and divorce now. Hopefully your working a job and have family to help you out until things start to straighten out. Then and only then go into another relationship. It will complicate your life to no end if you try to juggle both men at once. You could loose both if you do. But it would be a good lesson for you!
Get the divorce. Then move on with being happy. Good luck
tell him it’s over and get it over with….If you go back you will be miserable thinking about what could have been with this guy. If your marriage was good, you never would have gotten to this point with this guy right?….I know you feel guilty but he will be fine…people change..life changes….do what ever you have to do to be happy…
WHY do you have to be monogamous? why not have 2 lovers? We are all animals, why go against ur instincts. It is society that has put these one on one rules on us. Why not ask hubby if you two can have an open relationship?
The grass is not always greener on the other side, I suggest you have a talk with your husband about this, even though it is painful, but you have to get it out in the open, if you do not, then it will build up inside of you, and he will see it in you that something is wrong, so talk to him, and work it out. Do not give up so easily, if you love him, then do not let some "fantasy" cloud your mind.
Communication is the key in any relationship.
Well first of all you should leave your husband, and then meet other guys. That’s why your a bi.ch and hes a pussy, and those dont go well together. You should do what benefits your future, but stop cheating in the process. Its not ok to cheat, thats like me giving you aids when i said to you i had none… just dont do it
You are going to regret ever having such a lack of discretion for the rest of your life. You should pack your bags and never look back. Your poor husband is willing to forgive you for the worst and most horrific pain anyone could bestow on their Spouse. Do him a favor and for once, try and be honest with him as you are walking out of his life with only the possessions you came into it with. You have broken a good man by your cowardly act of passion with another man while you are married. I hope you can live with your self.
You already broke up with him by sleeping with someone else, so make it official and divorce so that your husband can go on with his life and hopefully meet someone better than you.
One week is too short a period to come to that decision. How do you know you will be happy with the other person? Why not try another chance with your husband and talk it out with him to make you happier and vice versa as he appears to be willing.
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"can see myself living a good life with him"
Except he will never fully trust you, as you cheated on your husband.
" how can you cheat and still love the person" ..
Its all about physical or emotional attraction and has nothing to do with love. Thats how you cheat..its lust, not love. Theyre hard to tell apart at first..but time peels back the layers and you finally see the real person.
You already see your husband’s realness. He wants you back even.
He loves you.
This new guy slept with a married woman. Doesnt say a lot for him..when you get to his core being someday….and the fantasy fades and real life kicks in.
Youre seeing a future with a guy you met one week ago.
Youre in a dream.
Quitter! Fickle, unreliable and pathetic!
What you do is stick with your husband.
You might as well leave. You’ve been with your husband for *SIX* years, you met another man last week, and are sleeping with him already.
Your poor husband. Give the poor sod a break, and let him find someone that deserves him.
And a note to your new boyfriend: *Read the second sentence of my reply.* And think about it.