Can I make my wife love me again!?
Married 8years.Everything was great in our marriage untill about 4 yrs ago when i cheated on her. Stayed together.(she says the only reason she stayed with me was because of our then 6 month old baby).I quit my job, sold my new vehicle, and did all of the things required to change my life.There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t feel guilty for what i did.I’m different now..everything I do is to preserve our family(cook, clean,active with our child). Also I do romantic things, flowers,etc..I’ve been starting a new business for the last year and money has been tight. She is bitter because we used up a small saving account to survive the last year. We are not in debt except for some money we borrowed from her mother and my father. My business is really taking off and I ‘ve told her she can quit her job and take the job she really wants! Now that things are getting better she tells me she doesn’t love me anymore and wants a divorce.We tried seperation and counseling???? Is there hope?
I really am a good man … I made a horribly mistake 4 years ago and I will do anything to preserve our family!! I would appreciated anyones constructive advise!
sorry about the spelling!
I guess one thing I need to add is that during and after counseling she said she loved me and wanted to work on marriage… then a few weeks later she stopped working on our marriage…when I asked her why …she just said I don’t love you anymore. I’m little concern she might have some degree of depression…due to the fact that her mood changes quickly…and she never seems to be able to look at most situations in a positive manner!! I do love her dearly and would do anything to make her and my daughter happy!
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Completely your fault, I would of left a long time ago.
The only thing you can do is show your love for her. Hopefuly at the end she will see that you are good for her. Maybe she has never forgived you for cheating on her? My Ex wife cheated on me and I through her out to the curb.
If you have tried counseling and that didn’t work it doesn’t look good. It takes two people working together to make the marriage work and it one person doesn’t try its bound to fail. Looks like you are going to learn your lesson the hard way by losing what you treasure the most. If you get divorced I would remember how you feel right now the next time you are in a committed relationship and feel the urge to cheat. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side and there is no sex in the world good enough worth losing the ones you love.
Seems as if you loosing that battle I hate to say. I am thinking the love between you both wasn’t that strong from the start. Cheating is bad, no matter who does it, but when there are problems in the marriage and the love is deep and strong, people seem to be able to work things out in time. but if not the hearts be true, infidelity is a good reason to let all go.
Unfortunately you can’t make someone love you that is why love hurts. The only advice I can give you is to ask her what made her stop loving you and if it is something you two can work on but it seems to me that she felt betrayed by you when she needed you the most and then due to your needs and selfishness you had to change your life to fix your inappropriate behavior. I can see that over this time her losing interest in you and waking up one day not meaning to but just not in love with you. And word to the wise: Real love has nothing to do with money or lack of it. It can make life easier or harder but is never a reason someone doesn’t love someone cause then it wasn’t true love in the first place. It appears you keep trying to make her happy with getting her what she wants…..so if she wants out and you truely love her let her go. Good luck
this may be your fault for when it happened but if you are truley sorry and wont ever do it to her again then by all means seek counseling and show her love in all ways that you can…. If you still really love her go for it and be patient… You will have to earn her trust and love again because she is VERY hurt! There is hope if she is open to reconciling the marriage but if she is not then let her go and move on … YOu will find a women someday that will love and accept you for you but remember dont ever cheat on some one again…. Learn from your mistake and forgive yourself and move on! Hope this helps and encourages you some today!