Why he let our relationship go, rather than just taking space?
My BF of 1-yr appears to be going thru a rough time right now. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago during an argument over the phone. It was one of those arguments where he just seems to not have any urgency when it comes to our making plans.
Anyway, about a week after breaking up, he told me that the following had happened: 1st, while at work, he received a threatening call from a guy telling him to leave his woman alone; my BF said he thought it was a joke by one of his boys, but that turned out not to be the case. 2nd, supposedly the man who threatened him has been calling his work place so much that his desk phone has been constantly ringing & disturbing his co-workers. He got into hot water with his boss and Security about the phone calls. And lastly, his home was broken into. I cannot believe all this occurred in a week’s time. It seems crazy!!
I went over to see how he was doing today, and it was apparent that he is not sleeping or eating, and just looks like things are taking a toll on him. But, he wanted to discuss our situation. I told him that I am here for him and didn’t want to leave him all alone to deal with all of this. His response to me was that for right now, we needed to end the relationship because it’s all too stressful at the moment. I told him I’d do whatever he needs, but wished we could just take space from one another rather than call it quits. I am very upset and I cannot understand it. We were literally standing there hugging, kissing and saying good-bye all the while saying we love each other. Can anyone tell me why he’d want to just let our relationship go and risk losing it forever, rather than just taking space?
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The best thing to do is to give him space. Despite the hard times that he is going through right now, if you want to get him back you need to give him a chance to miss you. My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I broke up about 7 months ago (he broke up with me). It was honestly the hardest thing I’ve ever had to get over because he really was my best friend. At first I made the mistake of being clingy, trying to talk to him, and stay friends but all of that pushed him farther away. Once I stopped talking to him completely, started dating other people, and embracing my independence he realized what he was missing out on. We ended up getting back together and have been happy ever since. The best way to get a guy back is to show him that you are fine on your own. If he doesn’t respond to that then continue to move on; it’s what’s best for you.
This is probably the toughest out of all the break up problems I’ve ever been through and know of. The best thing you can do is try not to question is as it will make you paranoid. Also, give him some space. That could work, it could not. It’s up to him. And you pushing it will make it worse.
Best of luck!
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