how can i save my marriage?
My husband and I have been together for 9 years and married for three. I’m aware that my husband abuse alcohol. Recently He was arrested for drinking in public. I was the one he called collect every single day. I was even the one who done all the running around for him while he was incarcerated. He came home and started drinking more and he even tried to cheat on me. I threatened to leave him. He begged me to stay he he would change. I gave him another chance. Now another problem came up today,His pay check didn’t come in the mail and we are behind on our rent so now hes pissed off. He left the house and won’t answer his cell phone. Can my marriage be saved or should i just let it go?
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Maybe just try separating from him for a while to see if that’s what you really want. Maybe that will make him realize he needs to change. Try as many alternatives you can before you consider divorcing. America is too infamous for divorce rates. You weren’t married 9 years for nothing.
Well its not up to you to save it, thats his job. Tell him that.
Darling, you can do bad by yourself. Why are you hanging onto something that isn’t there? What exactly are you trying to save? Try your self respect, pack your stuff and leave HIM!
You can do it. You deserve MUCH better. Good luck!
work it out patience
Your hubby need professional help.
You need to stop enabling him and not put up with his BS.
It is not fair to you at all.
No one can MAKE him change,….he has to WANT to do it.
I would take a breather from him….move out, no contact for at least 6 weks. Will it be easy? Nope…but it may be the best thing that you can do for not only your hubby, but also yourself.
OMG…leave him, maybe then he’ll know you’re serious and get help.
Speaking as a guy who dated a girl with the same problem.
(only for 9 months though)
RUN. . . not only for you but for him.
My ex would get drunk, mad, and abusive.
Then the next day sweetest girl in the world.
We both tried to make it work . . . but it just didn’t. I left her.
((IT GAVE HER A REASON TO GET CLEAN))
We never got back together, but she thanks me all the time.
Oh who cares about a marriage on the rocks.
He does not.
He will choose the bottle everytime.
You are just a source.
You should not care about it.
You are going to have to something or this is not going to change, Try calling AA. to see what they tell you. If he is willing to get help, then you have some hope . If not, l don’t think I could live with this.
just let him go hes not your type and besides should not be asking us .you should be asking your yourself that question. from the bottom of your heart do you or do you not break up with him. do you want better man or do you love him soo much that you want say with him. its all to up to you. u slould not being asking yahoo answers for help ask yourself.
You can’t stay married to him, at least while he’s drinking. But the time for talking is over. Alcoholics are known for 2 things: apologies and promises. You’ve been living your your life as his co-dependent and you never want your future tied to someone else’s addiction. You’ve also been enabling him by taking his collect calls and doing his running around.
Don’t engage in any more discussion. Get out, find a temporary place to live or stay, and file for a legal separation. Leave him a note and tell him he needs a rehab and a support group and proven sobriety before you’ll come back. Anything less than this and you’re just feeding into his addiction, which is always a big mistake. And if you’ve got kids, this environment is damaging them every day. Good luck to you.