My ex boyfriend, makes it appear as though he doesn’t really care about me. This is by his actions. But my close friend was talking with him last night and he openeded up to him, he told him how he felt and that he misses me not being around, due to the fact i’ve left college and i no longer see him as much and that he loves me and wants me back but he believes that i don’t want him. But his actions prove differently he acts as though he doesn’t care what happens in the relationship, regards with me and him. How do i find out what he really wants, without straight forward asking him?

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me and my husband have been together for 9 years now and he told me the other day he wants to be with someone else that is 9 yearsw younger than him we do have 5 kids total i am only 25 and he is 29 we are staying in the same house still and he stays over at her parents house until 5am every morning and he says it is not about sex he cames home to me every day and that is how he wants it he still wants sex with me every day also i give it to him cause i think he will fall back in love with me he says its not you its me i love you but i am not in love with you i dont want a divorce cause that is 200 per child theses are just the things he says to me he is willing to go to marriage counseling just 1 time and i am willing to go to make my marriage work but is it really worth it if this is how it is going to be i love him so much and it is hurting me so bad cause he comes home and holds me and tells me he loves me and still makes me feel good and i allow that please help i need advice

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We’re both in highschool. We dated for about 8 months, but had a thing for a long time before that, and he’s my first love. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 1 and a half months ago because he said he didn’t feel the same way about me and just wanted to be single, and also because at that time we were arguing a lot. He started drinking a lot now, and using drugs. He used to act like a complete dick to me after the breakup, saying that I was a waste of his time, and that he never loved me, so I told him that until he changed and started acting nice to me, we couldn’t be friends. So now he is nicer to me. Anyway, long story cut short, he phones me sometimes late at night now for no reason.. They’re reaaally long phonecalls sometimes, like 4 hours if they’re late at night. He always sounds sad, but he just says he’s really tired because it’s like 12/1 am when he phones. He usually talks about girls he’s met and stuff, but not really as much anymore, and always questions if I’ve done shit with guys. He always says he’s confused and doesn’t know what makes him happy anymore, and says that he misses being truly happy with someone he cares about. I asked if he missed me then, and he said ‘I do, but you only made me feel like that sometimes because of the arguing (we only started arguing a month before we broke up). We’ve only had one emotional talk about why we broke up, and it just led to apologies, and us telling eachother how much we care about eachother and such. He used to say he was over me, but now he says things like "I still have feelings for you, I havent moved on", and when he said it I responded with "I still love you", but he always tells me I don’t. He also says things like "Maybe in the future we’ll date again, but not now", or he’ll say "I bet you don’t even think or talk about me.." I don’t know, it just seems weird.. And I’ve become kind of interested in his friend, and he’s noticed I’ve started talking to him a lot, and that we gave eachother nicknames, so when I’m on the phone with my ex he bad mouths his friend, saying that his friend says bad things about me, and all the shit he’s done with girls recently. And he commented on the nicknames, and I said "Ahaha, are you jeaaalous?", and all he responded with was "Don’t even flatter yourself."
Like all of these things comming from his mouth, like all the feelings and stuff started from 2 weeks ago. I know this sounds like he just wants to have his cake, but not be monogomous, but do you think he’s sincere and wants me back? I’m so confused..

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I just found out that I’m pregnant and my boyfriend wants me to get the abortion pill and terminate the pregnancy. His reasoning is good, he knows we’re not ready, I’m not finished with college and he is about to go back to school next semester. He also doesn’t want to damage our relationship, he says that’s what happened with his ex wife, their relationship was torn apart because of the baby and she ultimately cheated on him. I know that I’m different though and we’re different, i know we can make it work if we try and stay honest with each other about how we’re feeling.

As you may have figured out, he already has a 7 month old son with his ex wife and is currently in and out of court trying to get full custody. He is a very good father and very responsible. He has a steady job and makes more money than most people several years older than himself. I know we could do it.

I’m not sure I could live with myself after getting an abortion. I’m 5 weeks along, did you know the baby already has a heartbeat at 5 weeks!? I’m generally pro choice but I’m not sure I could personally make that decision. I’m worried about medical complications, which I know are rare with the pill, but knowing my luck with medical procedures…

I’m also concerned with the emotional effects. He doesn’t want a baby to ruin our relationship but I know if I abort the pregnancy it’s going to ruin everything even faster. I know myself and I know I’m going to blame him and begin to resent him. I know this because it’s already happening. I’m already beginning to feel hostile towards him because I’m feeling like I have no choice in the matter, he decided what was best and that was it, I’m feeling forced and it’s making me pull away from him and distance myself emotionally which is the last thing I need to be doing at a time like this.

I hate that I feel this way about him right now because I love him more than anyone in the world and more than I’ve ever loved anyone. I know he’s trying to be supportive and I know he’s not purposfully trying to force me to do anything but what with the hormones raging, that’s how I’m feeling.

I can’t just get rid of the baby. We knew this could happen and I don’t feel like we can just take the easy way out and move on with our lives like nothing happened. Now I just need to get him on board. If worst comes to worst I can be a single mom, I’m not gonna let him force me to get an abortion if I don’t want it, but I really want him to want this baby and stay with me and be a family. So my question is, how do I convince him that this is the best decision for me?
By the way, adoption is NOT an option

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i belong to orthodox Christian family.. i was 15 yr old when i met this guy.. he was a SMS frnd.. we met just once and exchanged our love for each other.. a month later, i learnt tat he was cheating on me.. i stopped calling him and i was surprised he never called me back.. fr another month..! i was going crazy..! i sent an angry e mail to the girl with whom he had a secret relationship.. that made him really wild and he yelled at me horribly and we never spoke fr 2 years.

he came in again.. this tym thro a social networking site..! i was so stupid i fell fr him again.. now, i would lik to tell yu sumtin abt him before yu can judge anything,
he lied to me that he was actually in frndshp wid tat girl and i insulted him by yelling at her.. so tat is y he had let me go fr 2 yrs..!
from then, we whr in stable relationship for 3.5 yrs.! all these yrs, he told me his father demanded him to stop dating a christian girl(he is a telugu brahmin.. who smokes, drinks, eats non veg.. yet his father calls him self a typical orthodox brahmin.!! how awesome.!!) or else he would stop him from going to college.. and he chose to stop college than to stop loving me.. how swt!( that was a big fat lie ppl..! only now i found out he hasnt even cleared his +2 exams..!

i feel so bad coz he used to blame me and literally cry at times whn i fight wid him saying he gave up his education fr mysake and i wouldnt understand his love…

i had fought wid him a 1000 tyms.. all because of his lies… stupid lies.. he says he lies to make me feel better… that doesnt make me feel better., whn i find out it was a lie, it makes me feel awkward..!

he was so possessive and i had to end up having no frnds as he always kept complaining abt them.. i love to hang out.. he hates going out..! i gave up that too..! i love to go on a lng ride by bus.. he hates bus..! he hates going to de beach.. i loved beach.. abv all, i stopped reading bible because it kept waring me not to get yolked with a unbeliever.. i stopped praying coz i wanted to hide frm god.. i stopped taking communion because i was with him as how man and wife would be.. i spent all my pocket money on this lavish jerk..!

i believed him so much.. he used to do anything fr me… he even cut his veins and took mouthful of dirty mud to make me talk to him(whn i was mad at him)

recently, he says he has lost his love fr me.. and tat he feels i am nothing more than headache to him.. he yells at me almost all the tym.. its lik im talkin to a possessed man.. this is how his SMS are exactly lik.."honey, i love you tons"… and the nxt SMS if it takes a few mins to reply, "but yu know wot? yu are a bitch.. i dont trust yu anymore.. who are yu sleeping with now??"

one day, i was tired of a week long fight which got me really really depressed.. to get myslf distracted, i went to visit a old high skl frnd of mine whom i had met fr the last time during our farewell.. he walked in straigt gave him one big blow on his face and dragged me by throat..! i was so humiliated..

he lies, he hurts… he cheats.. and calls me unfaithful..! i cant stand him..! at the same time, i cant get this one out of my mind.. he is such a disease..!!

guys., pl give me sum nice adivce to throw this junk out of my lyf..! i dont wanna get married to a looser..!

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