This is a VERY hard question. Experts only, please.

I have a wife who suffers from depression. She has been on anti-depressants and they worked, but left her feeling neutral while on them, rather than happy and sad.

She is now off the medications (and has been for a couple years). Lately, she has been having depression strike in place of emotions like happiness or love. Instead of feeling the good stuff, she feels that feeling we get when we break up with someone.

My theory is that we could find a substance for her to take when she improperly dips into that pain (the breakup pain), and that alleviates it just like an aspirin alleviates a headache, then it might free her mind to feel happiness again.

Does anyone know of a substance that works fairly quickly that she doesn’t have to stay on, but can take more like an aspirin? Something that alleviates the symptoms, but isn’t an "anti-depressant" like Celexa or something?

Natural substances, illegal substances, medications
A little addition, in response to some of the first answers (and thank you VERY much for these first answers!):

Yes, ideally we would like something that isn’t addictive. That’s a bad problem. Also, won’t being on anti-depressants her whole life kill her? What about the liver damage?

Thanks.

Tags: anti depressant, anti depressants, aspirin, celexa, depression, dips, emotions, Feel Happiness, good stuff, happiness, headache, illegal substances, liver damage, love, medications, natural substances, Symptoms Of Depression, Whole Life

i am so in love with this girl..i feel like she is the girl i am ganna spend the rest of my life with…im 25 years old..ive never met anybody who makes me feel the way she does..i saw her out wed night at the bar..and she was talking to all kinds of guys…my friends bailed on me so i asked her for a ride home because i live 20 mins away..in her direction…she told me she didnt drive her friend did and walked away from me..i walked up to her and told her sh emade her point..than bailed..later she text me with f.ck you..i ended up having to take a taxi home..we talked the next day she said she was in a fight with her friend thats why she would ask to get a ride home 4 me..i told her i would have never left her hanging like that when she was stranded..anyway…i dont know if things are working out or not….but i feel i could never love agirl like i love her..will this happen again?does this happen to alot of people?how do i get over this.i feel like my life would be empty without her

Tags: broken heart, love, rest of my life, taxi

My boyfriend and I of 2.5 years just broke up, and we’ve been through hell together, divorces, deaths, hospital visits, everything. He started liking another girl, and my brain is ready to move on, but my heart cant seem to let go. I did the breaking, since he had started rumors around school that he was breaking up with me the day after; when i asked him about it, he said it was happening and that i should enjoy my last day with him, so i broke up with him sooner rather than later. The truth is, though, i never wanted to break up with him and i still like him a lot, but i dont trust him. He appeared to have cheated on me, but didnt so i dont fully trust him, and now, hes going after a really easy girl and flaunting it at me!! I’m annoyed at it and wish it would stop! What does this mean? What’s he trying to say? Should I do anything in return to stop the annoying behavior or now? And if so, what should I do?

Tags: annoying behavior, brain, deaths, easy girl, Getting Over An Ex, heart, hell, hes, Move On 98, truth

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. I need advice on where to go from here. Problem is, we jointly own a home together, all our bank accounts, etc are in both our names, etc. etc. (We were on the way to getting married… ) How can I get over him and not walk away from OUR stuff that I have worked so hard to get too… Also, any tips to keep me busy so I can quit thinking about it!! Must be CHEAP things to do and perferably something my wonderful dog can join me in, as I don’t want to leave her home everyday so I can go sit at the bar or whatever… Thanks for your help.

Tags: 6 years, bank accounts, Getting Over A Relationship, thanks for your help

I was with this guy for three months, I really liked him so much. I never felt this connection with anyone before.

I was very distant I admit but it’s because he was the first and this is my personality, it takes me time to get comfrotable with a person. And then I started becoming comfrotable. A few things happened and we decided to break it off, mostly he decided. But he said we should stay friends. I can’t stay friends, I tried but I can’t – I like him way too much to think of him as a friend only.

I tried getting back together, I thought we were going in the right direction but then he insisted it was only friendship.I decided to stop calling him, but it is so hard. It’s been two days and I cannot stop crying.

I really thought we clicked, and I think I had started to fall in love. Now I have to live with the idea that he’s probably going after some other girl and that he moved on while here I am constantly thinking about him. IT IS HARD. Especially when it is not easy to find a good guy where I come from, they’re all immature players.

For anyone who has gone through this, how long will it take for me to forget, I can’t stand this feeling anymore!!
and BTW, I can’t even make myself go out at night or anything. I know I will be in a bad mood only thinking about him, and it won’t be fair for my friends to endure with me.

And every place remind me of something about him. I would just rather be home being sad, than going out and thinking about him constantly.

How can I get over this??

Tags: bad mood, broken heart, friendship, going in the right direction, love, personality, Stay Friends, three months

Even if you know he;s probably never going to call again anyway. Or is it just feeding my ego?

I mean if he calls me in a couple months and i end up giving him my new number, then the whole excercise would have been a waste of time.

I just want to get over my pain since he clearly has gotten over it.

Tags: excercise, feeding my ego, Waste Of Time

I don’t know what to do I feel so alone. My bf of 3years, we just decided to part ways. We have a 4month old daughter to top it off. I feel so sad about this. For the pass few days I’ve been crying and crying. Although I’ve tried to fix things between us it just isn’t working anymore. We fight all the time since the baby has been born and he’s cheated on me twice during our relationship(The never had sex but he cheated, one was while I was pregnant). Has anyone been down this road before? Going from a family to a single parent in just a matter of months. It just hurts so bad. I’ve love this man for so long.

Tags: bf, few days, how do you heal a broken heart, relationship, single parent

Does anyone know of some sort of spell or ritual i can do that will actually work and help heal a broken heart?

Tags: broken heart

Recently, after many months of trying to reconsile our relatinship, me and the woman I really love parted. We talk to each other still, but she pushes me away when she feels like I am trying to suggest the reconsoliation. We had a great relationship but at some point we just started having problems. Nothing works, and I am really frustrated because I love her so much. The idea of her being with someone else just doesn’t fit in my head. If anyone ever been in my shoes, please help. how to get over something like this. I see no way out of my misery.
Thank you for all the answers

Tags: great relationship, love, misery, nothing works, Pushes, shoes

i wanna become heartless but nice i wanna still have the nice sweetness about me and the way i am but i just dont wanna fall in love and i dont want to feel really really bad and sad after a breakup dont matter who i date how do i do this ?

Tags: breakups, broken heart, love, sweetness

I am so hurt right now, and I just need to figure out how to feel better.

My ex boyfriend is from missouri, his entire family lives there but he moved out to maryland and stayed with his aunt and uncle for a year where i live. I met him when he first moved out here and we fell in love and were together a year and a half.

but about a month or two ago he broke up with me through a text message and moved back to missouri without even saying goodbye.

I am so hurt, I cry every single day and no matter what I do or how active I stay I cant ever feel better about it at all.

He wont even talk to me, he wont tell me why he left me at all and never even said sorry once,

He was the only person that I have ever loved and the only person that I ever felt like I fit in with. I still dont know what I did wrong and i ask my self why every day,
why I wasnt good enough for him,

I feel like I will never ever meet anyone like him, he was my bestfriend in the entire world, we did everything together,

we even took a trip in the summer to missouri just me and him to see his family, I had the best time of my life just riding through mountains and sight seeing with him,

I just want him to come back, but hes not,

someone PLEASE tell me how to feel better,

I dont want to cry myself to slee anymore.

Tags: best time of my life, bestfriend, broken heart, entire world, Ex Boyfriend, love, Met, mountains, Saying Goodbye, single day, text message, time of my life

My girl and I were just fine. Well, we took a short break a month ago, but Thursday she acted like she truly loved me. Then I see she is talking to this guy on myspace, I ask her about it, and eventually (on Friday) she tells me that he is interested in her and vice versa. She brought up the fact that I hadn’t dated many girls and she was nervous about us moving in together because of that. So, she broke up with me. We were together for 2 freaking years and she truly acted like she loved me. Now we are exchanging email and she keeps telling me things like "I find him amusing because he is more outgoing", etc. She say’s while I was close to perfect, she can’t pass up this opportunity with him because the chemistry is amazing. I don’t get it, she hasn’t even met him yet. She hasn’t even met this guy and he is nothing like her. How can she just do this a day after being completely in love with me? I don;t know what to do because I’m so shy and it’s hard for me to meet people. I feel very alone right now. I wasn’t shy with her though, I could be myself with her for some reason and I think I’ll never find anyone like that again.

Tags: Breakup Girl, chemistry, girls, love, myspace, quot, short break

OK..I’ll admit I’m not completley over my ex-girlfriend like I said I was..does anyone have any tips/advice on how to get over the loss?

Tags: Completley, ex girlfriend

Whether it is yours or someone else’s? Does it just take time and patience and space? There is a woman who is a good friend of mine, and I have fallen in love with her. I am repairing my heart from being in a toxic relationship, and the last dyke who romanced my friend, broke my friend’s heart also. She has told me she doesn’t want to be sexual with me, and I respect that. I just would like insight as to what I could do to help her heal also… or am I doing all that I can?

Tags: dyke, good friend, heart, How Can You Heal A Broken Heart, insight, love, patience, relationship, time and patience

i friended this girl over myspace and she’s honestly the most beautiful girl i’ve ever seen. i’m normally not into starting a relationship with someone met online, but i’m definitely willing to make an exception. How can i go about doing this tho, especially cuz she’s a freshman at a local college and i’m a junior in high school? How can i get to know her without coming off as a creeper? And do you think she’ll be up for starting a relationship over myspace anyways?

Tags: Beautiful Girl, creeper, freshman, local college, myspace, relationship, tho

I really dont want to die but I feel like that.. Me and my girlfriend officially broke up because her mom doesnt want her dating black guys and she’s accepted it.. i feel so screwed over because i went to the end of the world for her.. I loved her so much.. and she loved me too.. she just feels that if we were meant together so much force wouldnt be on us to split up. She seemed so mean when she told me.. I just dont get it.. before her mom found out she was so into me.. and now its like I cheated on her or something. And Im reaching out for love..and its not there. I cut off all my friends and things I do JUST for her.. and now shes gone.. and I have nothing left. And I see her everyday at school.. she was my world.. I just want to run from it all..
i even lost my virginity to her..

Tags: black guys, girlfriend, love, mom, Nothing Left, Split Up, virginity

I been dating this guy over 6 months online…i used to spend all day with him on msn video calls etc but one day i really got crazy for him and he loved me and i convinced my parents to go to germany (im from romania) so i can meet him in real life … he is 16 and im 15 and i got to met him we spent a month together and i had my … "1st time" with him after i had to go back home … we kept on talking for like 7 months and i was supposed to meet him again this summer but…he started to lie and i …got pissed off once and i messed up everything …. i pushed him away and that was one of the biggest mistakes i think i could ever do cause he was the only one who made me so happy who made me feel great and the only one that understood me … and he was hurt but he got over me so fast and after some days i tried to apologize but …he was already dating someone else and honestly that really got me down and i regretted what i have done so much …i became suicidal he was still my friend…but it was a huge difference …than he changed he became colder and distant and tried to push me away and he started to lie a lot and i just cant forget him even thought its been almost 4 months from that i miss him so much and i still love him even thought he hurt me and lie to me and pushed me away i want him back but now he doesn’t even talk to me he ignores me and made it such so i cant get to him anyway … i deadly miss him im getting in depression again i love him so much still … i didn’t eat for 3 days now and couldn’t sleep again just like the time after i broke up with him….i don’t want to get suicidal again because my family needs me but i cant go on like this and i have tried to replace him but its so impossible to be with someone else when all i do is think of him …please help me =(

Tags: 4 months, 7 months, broken heart, depression, germany, parents, quot, romania, sleep

It seems like after 3 years I’m still not over my ex. I think about him on a daily basis. We have both been through some tragedies together, does that make it more difficult? I think of him all the time. We have not had contact since Oct. of 2006 but I have since moved and gotten a new cell #. Should I move on? This is exteremely difficult for me to do after all this time still.

Tags: 3 years, daily basis, tragedies

i’m 18 years old. i’m a Filipino
I’ve been in a serious relationship w/ my gf but then we broke up. how will i forget her,? how can i able to move-on? it’s very difficult for me to lose her but i have no choice but to stay apart from her. we broke up because she don’t like me anymore. i Don’t know what’s the reason. i did all my best just stay her from me.. i cared for her a lot. i gave all my love .. i gave all my time. i gave all my attention a gave everything!!! she didn’t appreciate it all….. i’m very dissaponted because i promise to myself that whatever happen i won’t give up on her because i love her so much!! i can’t explain why i love her so much. maybe i’m feeling the real love.. i’m so depress, i feel so bad. i can’t eat, i can’t sleep at night . what should i do? what are the things am i going to do to forget her? how much time will i spend to move-on? give me more advice. please help me to become strong.

Tags: 18 years, broken heart, gf, Lot 105, love, serious relationship, sleep

I’m 24 years old and my girlfriend of three years recently dumped me via text message. Her reasoning was she was too busy with school and work to have time for a relationship, which I can understand but it hurts nonetheless. Not sure how best to deal with this loss because I was really starting to have some serious love for this one and now it’s just over. I’m just looking for any helpful advice. Like do I give her time, ignore her, call or not call, delete her number/facebook, wait it out and hope she’s realized it was a mistake?

Tags: 24 years, girlfriend, How To Cope With A Breakup, love, mistake, relationship, text message

I’m going through a bad break up. I’ve been listening to Better in Time by Leona Lewis. When i hear that songs it makes me feel that i can overcome all this pain and be fine by myself. What are some similar songs that i can add to my playlist?

Tags: good songs, leona lewis, playlist

We’re no strangers to love
You know the rules and so do I
A full commitment’s what’s I’m thinking of
You wouldn’t get this from any other guy

I just wanna tell you how I’m feeling
Gotta make you understand

Never gonna give you up
Never gonna let you down
Never gonna run around and desert you
Never gonna make you cry
Never gonna say goodbye
Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

We’ve know each other for so long
Your heart’s been aching
But you’re too shy to say it
Inside we both know what’s been going on
We know the game and we’re gonna play it
And if you ask me how I’m feeling
Don’t tell me you’re too blind to see

Never gonna give you up
Never gonna let you down
Never gonna run around and desert you
Never gonna make you cry
Never gonna say goodbye
Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you
Give you up
Give you up
Give you up
Give you up
Never gonna give
Never gonna give give you up
Never gonna give
Never gonna give give you up
I just wanna tell you how I’m feeling
Gotta make you understand

Tags: broken heart, Desert, Game, girlfriend, heart, love

I just got out of a two year relationship and find out the guy went around fucking other girls behind my back but im over it and realized i can do better. Just wanted to know some songs about getting over an ex. any rock songs?

Tags: Getting Over An Ex, girls, relationship, Rock Songs

My boyfriend of a year and half and I have decided to break it off. But it wasn’t exactly mutual and it ended pretty badly. I feel so much pain but I really want to do things to keep my mind off of everything thats going on. If theres anyone who can help me out with the names of any good books or great movies to watch during this difficult time, it’d be much appreciated.

Tags: 101 Names, Books To Read, Good Books, Movies To Watch

Me and my girlfriend recently got back together. We broke up a month ago after going out for a year and 3 months. We recently got back together 3 or 4 days ago. I feel as their is no fire in our relationship anymore. I love this girl and I want to recreate that fire in our relationship. I know she loves me. Can anyone give me any tips to get that fire going again?

Tags: girlfriend, love, relationship