I really have a situation here. I have never cheated on my husband and he has never cheated on me. But we have been separated for almost 2 months now. We have been married almost 10 years. But somehow over the years we just took each other for granted. Apparently he was feeling neglected and I was too. He was the one who left and now he want even talk to me. He says he hates me and he wants a divorce. We both were married previously. I have no children from my marriage, but he has 2 boys. The oldest one is of age and has baby #3 on the way. He will not work and he only talks to his dad if he wants something. Son #2 is not biologically his child. His first wife had an affair and now they have a son from it. I wanted to adopt, we couldn’t have children. My husband didn’t. So this bothered me alot. He says I hate his kids, but I don’t. I don’t like the way they use him. What do I do, to show him I love him & need him? That our marriage will work if we both try. Help?

Tags: 10 years, amp, dad, divorce, first wife, How To Save Your Marriage, Man Love, marriage

I am in a happy, stable (semi open) marriage with my man. He allows me to date women. We have been together 10 years. He and I recently met/got to slightly know a woman who is SPECTACULAR! Since the minute we both met her (and each separately the first time) we conected with her on many levels, and she was very flirty with us sep and then together when we met up together. We both got an immediate bi or lesbian vibe from her. But then we found out she was married but yet she continues to exude a flirtatiousness with mostly me the woman. (less with him now) Soon we will be meeting HER husband as well and will be hanging out as a couple. I don’t think they are swingers but I can almost bet SHE is at least bi (or closeted). I am SOOOO attracted to her that I burst out of my skin when I think of her!!! And when she was in my presence those few times, I got the same kind of energy from her that she also loves being in my presence! I am almost certain I am not mistaken with these vibes, I am also pretty sure she knows I am bi bc its openly on my myspace profile as such and we are friends on there. We are going to start hanging out as 2 couples soon, and though I am happy to be ‘just friends’ with the couple, my crush will always shine thru I fear. How, if, or when should I tell or show her I am attracted to her? At some point I don’t mind risking rejection if I do make a move and she declines. Because I know we and I could still be friends even with the humiliation of being rejected lol, but she is SO worth the chance to find out! Last time we hung out with her, she was excited about drinking wine together. If we have wine again, and she continues to be flirty, and I continue to be attracted, should I use the wine to my advantage lol…! And how do I make a move? Ask first or try to be a little affectionate and see what happens? In the meantime, I can’t stop thinking about her. My husband thinks its so cute… I am lucky to have the relationship I have with him and I will never leave my man. But this woman is literally ONE in a million and I would love to nurture whatever special relationship/friendship I can with her. And, where does her hubby fit in all this? Also, I am in my 30s the woman in her late 40s thanks!
Not everyone views marriage as YOU people do. 65% of people cheat on their spouses. I really hoped that someone with an OPEN mind could have answered my question properly instead of judge me. And for the first 2 responders, for your info, we have brought other people in before with nothing but bliss and fun for all… you should try it sometime!

Tags: 10 years, Bet, Bisexual, couples, Crush, drinking wine, humiliation, just friends, last time, lol, marriage, Met, open marriage, presence, rejection, relationship, vibe, vibes, Woman

we just had a babygirl – our first child. she is from europe and I am from the U.S. The last 4 months of her pregnancy (during which we were fighting and sometimes not even on speaking terms) she spent in her home country and during that time her ex-bf intervened and played the supporting role and now she and he are "together"…I am desperate and am seeking advice as to how to put our marriage back together. she will not go to counciling but has agreed to read some articles I have found on saving marriages. her claim is that she and I are incompatible because we rationalize about things differently and make decisions differently…that our lifestyles are too different but we’ve only been married for two years. she says her ex gives her security but this is the same guy who while they were dating for 10 years, slept with her best friend and her sister. All I want are my wife and daughter back. she is standing her ground and says she doesnt love me anymore but there was a reason she left him for me. I have to believe there is a way and that deep down she still loves me! I don’t want to give up. can someone please lend me some advice? thank you very much,

james

Tags: 10 years, 4 months, best friend, bf, Decisions, europe, lifestyles, marriage, pregnancy, quot, speaking terms

Hello everyone….

I’m posting this question because I’ve reached
a real low point in my life.

I’ll be 42 in July and…. I am desperate to get
married & have children.

Some background…..

Had a serious relationship from age 23 to 26.
Mutual (and friendly) break-up….. We both just
grew apart.

Dated another guy from 27 to 28. Liked him,
thought he was a nice guy, but was never actually
in love with him. We parted ways, again on friendly
terms.

Dated yet another guy from 29 to 30. He, too, was
nice, but he had been married before, and he told me
he didn’t want to have any more children.

So I broke up with him, too.

And now….

From age 31 to this day (10 years later), I have
NOT been in a romantic relationship….

(My, but the time has gone fast!!)

I’ve tried just about everything….

— asking friends if they know anyone for me

— going hiking with the Sierra Club singles group

— taking golf lessons, sailing lessons, tennis lessons
(mostly other WOMEN there, looking for a man, too!!)

— trying online dating sites (match.com, eharmony, etc.)
(Have had about 18 or 20 blind dates through these, but
not met anyone.)

— trying church groups for singles, and even "all-church"
events just to meet people, in general.

— volunteering with a number of charities, in town.

— getting to know people at work, etc.

NONE of it has "worked" (resulted in being asked
out on a date.)

(Although, I have made an awful lot of nice friends,
in the process.)

About me…. I am 5 foot 7 inches tall, slender, no
stunning beauty, but not bad looking, either…. kind,
funny, nice (enough) personality, etc.

I just don’t know where to turn, now…. All my friends
(and cousins) my age are all married with multiple kids
by now….

Does anybody have any ideas for me??

Thanks so much, in advance, for your help.

Tags: 10 years, amp, blind dates, charities, church groups, cousins, Find A Husband, getting to know people, golf lessons, hello everyone, love, nice guy, Old Maid, online dating sites, personality, Romantic Relationship, sailing lessons, serious relationship, sierra club, stunning beauty, tennis lessons

I caught my husband a couple times cheating and he always pressure me not to leave him, but I do not have any trust anymore. We do not have any children. Now my ex that i was with for 5 years is still in love with me, he has been contacting me for 10 years as he never got over me leaving. I left because i was young and did not know if he was the one, but now I think he is. Don’t you? or should I try to save my marriage?

Tags: 10 years, cheating husband, couple times, love, Love Marriage, marriage