This is how it all started:

About a year or so ago, I read in a magazine where men have lost their touch with how to control the activities inside the home. Fairly, the article I read spoke about how men and women have become equally viable and important financial sources for the family and how the two of them (man and wife) now share equal responsibilities and how they should respect one another equally in terms of financial importance. But the article (and you’ll soon read how it transformed me) did bring up something I interpreted as very key. It said men are losing their importance within the walls of the house, and how this is exacerbating the plight of ignorance in modern children. Basically, men are not ruling the barn like they once did and women, asserting their increasing influence, are starting to make key decisions that are not proving to be successful. This article wasn’t really knocking modern men as much as it was trying to remind us of our historical importance as head of the family. Women, the article tries to convey, birth the children but after that the men are inherently better fit in determining the child’s upbrinding. When I read the article it struck a chord only Beethoven could probably duplicate. It was one of those moments when a human is told about something he or she has felt deep in their bones but had never heard anyone about anyone else feeling the same way. I think you understand now how the article struck me.

The solution, it said, was to set up rules for the house (for the wife) and enforce them through spankings. If the wife gets out of hand she gets a spanking. If the wife tries to direct the child too much without masculine approval she gets a spanking. If the wife gets out of line in any way the husband thinks is inappropriate she gets a spanking . That said, I thought the article was right and that it could maybe spice my marriage up, so I jumped on board wholeheartedly. I wrote a "Constitution" for the house and got her to sign it. I wrote out "laws of the house" she was to not break and if they were broken I wrote down how many spankings she would get for each offense. I said she would have a right to defend herself, but similar to Guantanomo, I would be the ultimate judge and she’d have to accept my verdict.

It has messed our marriage up. I thought it would simultaneously be a way to spice up our marriage and keep control of our house but I’m literally swatting her almost every night. And the more she squirms the harder it causes me to swat her. I know lots of people (women) get turned on by spankings, so I thought she would come to appreciate it. But–and I will admit this much–I’ve gotten a little out of control with how hard I’m hitting her bare bottom. It’s a big turn on for me and it seems to enforce my role in the house, but she’s not taking it like I’d hoped. For instance, she’ll unknowingly say something out of line then look at me and know what’s coming later that night. And, of course, as I believe in the system now, I spank her hard later that night. She doesn’t bleed or anything but her buttucks is reguarly pink and swollen after I get through with it.

Can someone tell me how to stay man of the house with these rules and not have my wife and her love drift away from me? My wife isn’t about to leave me, but she’s not taking these spankings very well.

Am I wrong in trying to control the house entirely? Should I give up my "constitution" and let her have more influence over the kids?

Sometimes she likes the spankings, on good nights, but overall I can tell she doesn’t like getting a spanking every night.

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Anybody know how to?

Why is it that most women are so sensitive & fall for the wrong guys who end up taking advantage of them.

How does she break herself free from this kind of guy?

Why do the good women fall prey to these bad guys?

Is it too much to ask for a real, loving, truthful, genuine guy these days?

Serious answers only, share your experience, what you’ve learned from it & how you managed to move on.

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I visit YaHoo Answers frequently, and time and time again, I respond to a lot of questions that revolve around women who find themselves stuck in bad relationships, but cannot find the courage to leave despite their on-going misery. The topics read like a bad Jerry Springer episode: He cheats on me, but I love him; he has had other children outside the marriage, but I love him; he beats me, humilates me, has no job, he’s a horrible parent and given me VD, but I LOVE HIM!! I don’t understand this. I mean . . I have had my share of bad relationships, but if I even got a hint of something funny going on, I was outta there. I just wasn’t having it!! I don’t know if this is an issue of my self-esteem or because I had a host of strong women in my family that instilled in me in at an early age that I was worthy of being loved. Honestly, I think if there was a piil that allowed women to get over the heartache, I think they would be leaving these types of men in droves. What do you think?
This question is not meant to suggest that bad relationships do not happen to men, but it is mainly directed toward women because through my observations, women seem to feel more emotionally trapped or better yet, financially trapped into staying in bad relationships. Fear is a prime motivator to stay– fear of not finding someone else or fear of being alone, especially if the woman has children or perhaps is not confident about her appearance, weight, or finds dating difficult.

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It’s easy to fall into routines and habits in relationships where we all end up taking what we have for granted. We simply expect the other person to be there until one day the relationship comes crumbling down around you. Fortunately learning how to get love back is easier than most people believe.

The problem with most ‘how to win love back’ tactics is that they don’t take into consideration the primary differences between the way men and women think. Women will try very hard to make their man understand how much they love him and need him, while men view actions as speaking louder than any words you can say.

If you’re serious about learning how to win love back, then you’ll need to spend a bit of time removing the words from your relationship’s memories and taking a look at what your actions were saying.

Most women can think of times when they were trying hard to tell their man that they love him and want him to stay. You know the words you said, but what did your actions say? To a man, you would have been showing him how upset you were and how hurt you were. In his mind, he would have been thinking that he’s the cause of all your misery, so you’d be better off if he just broke up with you.  This means all your reassurances of how much you love him actually pushed him away!

Think about all the times where you both argued and got angry. Your words might have been trying to make him see reason and understand your point of view, but your actions were telling him something very different. Your man wouldn’t have heard the words you shouted at him. He would only have seen a very unhappy woman who really wasn’t happy with the man before her. His mind would instantly have thought he was the cause of your misery and he’s believe it’s easier to break up with you rather than keep making you so unhappy. The same thing is true if you give him the silent treatment.

When you’re learning how to get love back, you have to realize that your actions will speak far louder than any words you can say. Your partner wants you to be happy. He also wants to believe you’re happy when you’re spending time with him. The best possible way to show him that he’s the right man for you is to go out and work on your own self-confidence levels.

When you feel happy within yourself and you’re confident and brimming with life, you’re irresistible to the man who fell in love with you. After all, when the relationship was still new and exciting, you were both bubbly and happy and pleased to spend time with each other. This is the version of you your partner fell in love with.

Spend some time working on things that make you happy. Hang out with friends or take a walk to clear your unhappy thoughts. Watch a fun movie and then suggest that you catch up with your man over a friendly cup of coffee. Your actions will show that you’re a more pleasant person to be with and his feelings will start to re-kindle as though by magic.

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Few things are more painful than having your heart broken. In this article we’ll discuss how to get over a broken heart.

Both men and women experience the pain of breaking up. Sometimes you are the one who called it off and other times your ex did, but in either case, there is pain on both sides. And, sometimes the break up happened for good reasons while other times it seemed to go up in a puff of smoke for no reason at all. These can be the most painful of all.

If you don’t go about getting over the break up though, there can be some serious consequences. Don’t fall into the trap of lingering over a lost love. The worst trap of all is to start to write a “victim story” that makes you the protagonist in a tale of love gone bad.

First of all, you should realize that if you don’t get over your ex, it will be toxic to any future relationship you might have.

Second, realize that you can’t run away from it, medicate it, or suppress it. You have to face the pain head on and deal with it.

There’s no way out of a broken heart. There’s only a way through. Accept that there is going to be pain. Use the time during this period to understand the hurt. Some ways to do this are to write in a journal, get counseling, or pour your heart out in song. Realize there are no quick solutions to getting over break up.

Next, you need to examine whether there is anything in your past that would have lead to this break up. For instance, did the abuse in your childhood cause you to be an abuser in this relationship? Take note of those things because they will help you foster healthier relationships in the future.

Don’t paint yourself as the victim of the relationship either. Take responsibility for your actions. While your ex may have been the one whose “fault” was the immediate cause of the break up, the truth is that the underlying circumstances were caused by both of you.

By getting rid of your “victim story” you become a healthier, more attractive partner for a future boyfriend or girlfriend. You’ll begin to see that your “victim story” was composed of beliefs, attitudes and thoughts that color your perceptions about everything. It becomes a self fulfilling prophesy.

When you handle your broken heart badly, you perpetuate your pain. You’ll never go about getting over break up.

But, when you can handle your emotions with the ultimate goal of letting them go, you enable healing.

Getting over a broken heart takes work. It also takes time. Don’t underestimate the factors which go into curing your heartbreak.

You’ve just lost a person who was extremely important to your life. But, use this time for growth and you will become a stronger person and have better relationships in the future. That is how you really go about getting over break up.

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