I came home from work and my wife of 19 years was gone. She didn’t take much except some clothes and a few things. She left a lengthy note which was dated a few weeks ago telling me that she’s in love with someone else and is pregnant with his child. She says she’s sorry but she hasn’t loved me for years and it’s all been a show until the girls grew up. She says she’s not coming back and I’ll get divorce papers in the mail. I called her work and her boss said she gave her notice a couple of weeks ago and she’s been gone for a week.

I feel like I’m going to throw up. Our twin 18 year old girls are away at college and don’t know she’s gone yet. I don’t know what to say to them.

I feel like just driving off a bridge. I feel like drinking until I pass out. I feel like emptying my bank account and spending it on hookers or just trying to pick up some girl at a bar and screw her. I just want to feel something good. I can barely feel anything except agony.

I did virtually nothing at work today but fight back tears and hope nobody came by my desk or talked to me.

I don’t know why this happened. I loved her to death. She was everything to me. We laughed and spent wonderful time together. We almost never fought, we talked, flirted, went out dancing just like we did 20 years ago and had a wonderful time… all the time. She always had a huge smile, ran to me when I came home, and did everything I thought a loving wife did.

How could I ever love again? I can’t tell the difference between someone who loves me and someone who doesn’t. Can one of you ladies in here explain to me how someone could masquerade as a loving wife for so many years and never give me a clue that she was unhappy? Why wouldn’t she just tell me she wasn’t happy and then maybe I could have fixed whatever was wrong.

Tags: 18 year old girls, 19 years, agony, boss, bridge, clothes, Clue, desk, divorce papers, hookers, love, loving wife, mail, masquerade, Screw, smile, wonderful time

How to make your boyfriend go crazy in love with you again?
We’ve been together for about 4 (SOON 5 ) months and everything went fine until a few weeks ago. I hate it when he talks about girls he liked or girls he finds cute at his workplace/school. Sometimes I feel less worth because of this. Im aware of that every relationship goes thru phases..But still, I want to make my relationship more exciting and I want him to show more compasion towards me. Because I love him to death..Id do anything for him! Even go against myself. He is my first love. He told me, and alll of his friends…That he wants to be my fiance. But sometimes it feels like he doesnt like me, like when he sees me at school, he doesnt give me a hug or anything..or a small kiss on the cheek. I like talking about feelings and so, but sometimes it seems like he ignores it. Hes not the most popular guy in class, but i find him very goodlooking, I hate the fact that he somtimes gets shallow and all.. Anyway! Ive talked to him about these issues and he keeps telling me that he loves me, but I dont honestly feel it.
Also ive dyed my hair brown. I used to be platinum blonde. Do you think that this has to do anything with it? He told me it looks just fine. By the way both of us are 18 ( soon 19 years of age) but we act more mature than most others at our age.

Tags: 19 years, 5 months, cheek, Compasion, crazy in love, Crazy Love, feelings, fiance, first love, girls, hair brown, kiss, platinum blonde, popular guy, relationship

OK this is quite long and complicated! This guy that I work with (now for 3 years), we have always been friends, and done friend things. Back in March I started having a bit of a crush on him. He is 19 years older than me. We kissed for the first time in June, and slowly we have entered a dating relationship (he tells people that we are dating, including our boss). He has only dated 2 other women in his lifetime, the rest have been men (yes he is bisexual). We usually hang out on saturdays and tuesdays outside of work. This last saturday I did the dumb girl thing and told him I really liked him. He kinda laughed, and then said that he liked me too, a lot (although in his voice it sounded like he was nervous saying it). The next day we went to breakfast. He brought me 3 roses into the restaurant, he then wanted to show me the house he was buying, then took me to Lowes to help him pick out paint colors. I am really confused about all of this. He seems hot then cold. The intimacy thing is strange.we have tried to be intimate a few times, but he has a difficult time keeping himself ‘up’ (if you get my drift). This makes me think he is not very sexually attracted to women. He compliments me all the time, says I am beautiful, funny, intellegent, and on and on. But I think he is afraid of anything and everything (he says he has never loved anyone before or been in a serious relationship). He is not a player at all (really he is not). He has a bit of low self esteem about himself, but I care about him and accept him just the way he is. I have no clue if I should just take this with a grain of salt, and just try and not let more of my feelings get in the way, or I don’t know! My friends think I’m turning his straight LOL. They also think he likes me quite a bit. He is very much a loner, but I need perspective on what to do! Should I date other people as well? Give him space? Blow him off a few times? I really value him and his friendship, so I don’t want to scare him away. I know if I asked him about it, he would say he is just taking it day to day. But I don’t want to get too deeply involved if it really has no where to go. HELP!

Tags: 19 years, 3 years, Clue, compliments, drift, dumb girl, feelings, girl thing, grain of salt, intellegent, intimacy, last saturday, lifetime, lol, loner, low self esteem, paint colors, roses, saturdays, serious relationship