I’ve been with my husband for 6 years (inlcuding dating). I’m in my early 20’s and so is my husband. I love him deeply but don’t know if I want to be here anymore. I met someone else last week and spent most of the week with them, hanging out all day and getting to know each other and eventually sleeping together.

I convinced myself to leave my husband (so I tried) and then I slept with him, came home and admitted it. Now my husband is considering taking me back.

But I don’t know if I want to work things out. I’ve developed feelings for this other person and can see myself living a good life with him. But I’m afraid to hurt my husband again. I don’t deserve my husband after doing this to him and if I could do this to him, I mustn’t be "in love" with him. People tell me you can cheat and still love your partner, but how can you. How can you hurt that person so much? I don’t understand and I don’t want to stuff him around. What do I do?
I don’t want to continue on with this guy if I decide to stay and I’m not seeing him right now. I know I need to work out my shit, but what I guess I’m asking is does a cheater deserve another chance. My view is he deserves better than this, but on the other hand I don’t want to be a quitter (even though I did quit the second I decided to cheat).

Tags: 6 years, cheater, Dating, feelings, love quot, M 105, Met, quitter

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. I need advice on where to go from here. Problem is, we jointly own a home together, all our bank accounts, etc are in both our names, etc. etc. (We were on the way to getting married… ) How can I get over him and not walk away from OUR stuff that I have worked so hard to get too… Also, any tips to keep me busy so I can quit thinking about it!! Must be CHEAP things to do and perferably something my wonderful dog can join me in, as I don’t want to leave her home everyday so I can go sit at the bar or whatever… Thanks for your help.

Tags: 6 years, bank accounts, Getting Over A Relationship, thanks for your help

I have been dating this guy for 6 years now. We have a 2 year old daughter together. I decided that I wanted to leave the relationship when I was about 7 months pregnant because I was really unhappy. At that time he was finishing grad school 2 hours away from the home that we shared, so even though we "weren’t together" I continued to live in the home that we had together. When he finished school. I was in my Junior year of Undergrad and decided that it was not financially possible to leave while finishing school with my little girl. So in order to stay on track with school we now lived in the same house but in separate rooms. We called ourselves dating other people and like most girls while he was actually out dating other women I simply lied about seeing other men for about a year so I didn’t seem like I could’ t move on. I was so hurt that the mother of his child could be less than 20 feet away from him and he could actually carry on a romantic conversation in the next room. He had been completely unthoughtful of my feeling and what he had at home. So one day I started to see this really great guy. He treated me like a princess and understood my position on things in my life. He never pushed me to do anything that I wasn’t ready to do including meet my daughter! This guy took a job 5 hours away because I wasn’t ready to fully commit to him though. After my little girls dad realized that I had really moved on and might really like someone, he decided that I was the one that he wanted in his life. I can most definitely see his efforts in trying to turn things around. He still doesn’t cater to the romance that I need from him, but he does make an extra effort to give me all the simple things that I used to ask of him. We have been trying to make it work for about 3 months now and I am really having a hard time trusting him. I am constantly having to tell myself that it is okay to let my guard down but the simple thought of going through what I have been through with him again makes me want to cry. A simple hug from him almost makes me cringe. I am so emotionally disconnected from him. However a small part of me says if he is sincerely trying I should give him the benefit of the doubt. Could I ever fall in love with him again?

Tags: 6 years, 7 months, dad, Fall In Love, Finished School, finishing school, girls, grad school, hard time, job, little girl, little girls, Live 105, princess, relationship, romance, separate rooms, simple thought, undergrad

Hi, I was very close to my boss for 6 years. Then due to stress, she decided to lay all of the problems on me.

1) I was well trusted in my team and she even made me second-in-command. Sometimes she was too intimate in her details of personal and work information.
2) After we had an argument, I got a bad review and a false account of my performance.
3) I talked to her boss and am now in a new team. Yet my record is messed up.
4) I still see her walking around my office and she sometimes give me a mean look.

Any good advice?

Tags: 6 years, boss, good advice, Office 97, stress, Toxic Boss

i broke up with my ex girlfriend a year and ahalf ago.. we were together for 6 years. we have a son thats going to be 4 in may. i keep having dreams that we get back together. i need to know why i am having these dreams. she is married now and i dont think she wants me back. can anyone tell me why im dreaming this

Tags: 6 years, ex girlfriend, having dreams, these dreams

I met this guy & we’re teammates in the call center we’re working for.He’s cute, charming,witty,funny,was a High School teacher,Computer Science grad,a musician(he’s a bass player)& a hopeless romantic.The prettiest girl in our team even had a crush on him(she told me that since we’re close friends).But then,i never expected that someone like him would show interest to a shy & simple girl like me.He was so friendly to me that he always wants to talk to me,very caring & sweet to me.I was even amazed that when we exchanged seats, he sat next to me.He’s great to talk to & he talks to me about his fave music,asked my birthdate,where i live,other basic info,my cell number & even asked me to be the lead vocalist for the band that he will be forming.He said that he was sure i was the right person since they heard me sang in our training class(we’re still on the 2nd week of our training) Now,i just couldn’t imagine that this guy would adore me! He made me feel like the most beautiful, interesting & admirable girl in the world. His friends would subtlety tease me whether i have a date & i said no and his friends would look at him. My other female friend whom i told bout this told me that this guy would steal glances at me.I felt that this is what i have been waiting for bec. i never had a boyfriend ever(I’m still 21; he’s 23 & single).
But there’s a big problem: He smokes & drinks. You may raise your eyebrows & say "So What?" well, it’s bec. i have had enough domestic abuse in my family bec. my dad had a smoking & drinking problem. I even live separately now from my dad after i graduated College coz i just couldn’t take all the garbage & wastedness that my dad becomes whenever he was drunk.He just can’t quit. The guilt,anger & shame over our situation was too much.Bec. of my dad’s alcoholism, my mom left us even when i was still 6 years old.But i still love my dad,he’s the sweetest guy when sober but very emotional & argumentative when drunk. So now, i am so so afraid that my history would repeat itself & this time i’m afraid it’s going to be my own family that someday i will have. I don’t want to be judgmental, i just can’t help being careful & wise before making any stupid decision that i would regret for the rest of my life. It really confuses me bec. i am starting to fall for this guy & would actually want to go out with him. But the relationship i want to build with him if ever he asks me out will be a serious one & that someone i would consider marrying. But now i am struggling with so much fear in my heart, it’s so hard trying to deny that i am starting to fall for him bec. i don’t want to get hurt & find out what if he is just like my father who cares about his drinking more than his family,wife & kids. Now, i can’t help imagining about my fears and future regrets in my mind & i picture myself ten years from now:a battered wife,haggardly taking care of her little kids & here’s this guy whom i fell in love comes home drunk every night & fights with me alot & that he’s jobless or couldn’t find a decent job & he had no money but has money for his drinking sprees. I know i am a bit overboard but for me love is a choice not just a feeling or else i would end up being the victim stuck in a dysfunctional family line the rest of my life.I prayed to God about this that He will lead me the right way. I badly need some good advice from you guys…i don’t want to make the same mistakes all over again that my parents did that they ended up separated,it really is not a happy thing…I want to love but i don’t want to risk if it’s not worth it in the first place…Your opinion is very much appreciated & will help me realize many things before its too late…tnx
pardon if my question is bit long.Btw,i will still observe and know how often he smokes and drinks and figure out if he’s addicted to it or not.:)

Tags: 6 years, alcoholism, amp, bass player, call center, close friends, computer science, domestic abuse, Drinker, eyebrows, Fall In Love, fave music, female friend, girl in the world, guilt, high school teacher, Met, Musician, prettiest girl, simple girl, Smoker, subtlety, teacher computer, teammates, vocalist

Me n my GF are in love from last 6 years. It was one of the best thing ever happened in my life. It is an Long distance love. We have met couple of times. But its a year now we havent met. Now all of sudden she says that she does not feels the same for me. She sayd it just happened all of sudden tat theres no feeling for me and wants to quit our relationship. I am still under shock that how this can happen>? She has taken few months now to decide her final verdict. But this has brought a total distress in my life. Everything seems like stopped moving. My question is y after 6 years of strong relationship, such sudden end has to happen..?

Tags: 6 years, final verdict, gf, long distance, love, Moving, relationship, shock

Please HELP. I’ve been married for nearly 6 years and my husband has lost interest. In fact, I think it started maybe the year I married him.

He says he’ll never cheat on me…but I want to know if he’s all talk or if he’s for real.

I mean, just look at me…..how can he want anything else!!!

Tags: 6 years, marriage, Marriage Help

My story is long, cut to the chase I have been with a guy for 6 years. 3 years of it was long distance relationship. I loved him and he was my first love as I was his.
about a month and half ago we broke up in agreement. and Here I am. I can not cried,it been 6 month since I last cried ( not really a crying type).I always put everything in me , hold every pressure and problem inside.and I am afraid of shattering , I am afraid of thinking about what has happened. I think It hasn’t sank yet in me ( or may be it has and I am jut holding it down) and I am afraid of ending up in pieces when starting dealing with it. its like carrying a giant hole in me and it hurts. It hurts so bad that I want to puke my guts out. the problem is I am not emotional type. I am so cold and heartless all the time. ( or maybe I just don’t know and don’t like to show emotion)
Please if anyone can come up with something tell me. I really need help. I need to start grieving and move on some how, I think.

Thanks,
G

Tags: 3 years, 6 years, Chase, Distance Relationship, emotion, first love, giant hole, guts, hasn, long distance relationship, love, puke

I am so confused. I am 24 and I was with my ex for 6 years, since I was 17 and we broke up a year ago abruptly and very painfully, he cheated on me, lied to me for no reason, turned into a different person over night I don’t know what was ever wrong with him, he just was very angry all the time and not like himself, that whole issue was shrouded in mystery but anywayz, I just wonder why I don’t have another boyfriend by now. I’m a pretty girl, thin, nice body, I am a sweet girl and for some reason I just don’t get it. I don’t feel that I NEED a boyfriend, maybe I’m just used to it because I’ve had one for so long. Maybe I’m too old for a boyfriend now and he used up all my years I don’t know. I hate having the horrible feeling like in my mind it’s impossible for me to even imagine loving another man because I’ve been with him for so long. I don’t know how to put my feelings into words. I just hope to someday find love again before I’m too old and become a 45 year old virgin.

Tags: 6 years, angry all the time, feelings, Impo, love, mystery, nice body, pretty girl, Reason, sweet girl, year old virgin

I am in an odd relationship. I cannot deal with it. But I love my husband and he loves me. We cannot be apart for more than 3 hours. Basically, the situation is if he stays with me, he loses his kids. We have been arguing for weeks and weeks, but neither one of us can leave. Can this be fixed? How can true, honest, soulmates ever really leave eachother. Is it possible to give your heart to someone and they hold it forever, unwilling, unable to give it back.
Kids are 7 and 9. They live in another country with their mother, she could refuse to send them for summer visit. He hasn’t seen kids in 6 years because of this. They are coming in June this year though

Tags: 6 years, eachother, Healing A Broken Heart, heart, Impossible Tasks, Live 105, odd relationship, soulmates

I married my husband 16 years ago, we have been separated for 6 years now we live 2 blocks away from each other, we have a 12 year old beautiful girl and we are both good parents. 6 years ago I asked him to leave because he had a drinking problem and I couldnt take it anymore. I asked him to leave but loved him still. He has now been sober for 6 years since that day, I would love to have him in my arms again but he is happy on his own, doing what he wants & also a great dad. When I see him I still get a ping in my heart. How can I get him to look my way, how can I get him to fall in love with me all over again??? I got the courage up one day and asked about us, but he wasnt interested in getting back. I cant move on when he is the one I really want. What can i do??

Tags: 6 years, amp, Beautiful Girl, dad, love, parents

I just started seeing someone new. This new guy is really sweet, but I don’t feel a physical connection with him. I’ve been hanging out with him trying to get myself to like him. My ex dumped me 7 months ago and we were together for 6 years. I’m still in love with him. Do you think dating this new guy will make him come back to me? What do I do?

Tags: 6 years, 7 months, Dating, love

I’ve been in a relationship with my sons father for almost 6 years. Six months into our relationship we broke up and I had a relationship with another man for about 2 months. Well me and my son’s father got back together after that, but my heart has always been with the other guy. I found out I was pregnant about 3 years into our relationship, and although I still craved the other guy, I figured I’d stick it out with my son’s father and have a family. Now I haven’t been happy with our realtionship for a while now and the other dude and I are in touch with each other here and there. Should I leave my son’s father and see where a relationship will go with this other guy, or should I keep my family together?

Tags: 3 years, 6 years, heart, realtionship, relationship, six months

Ok me and this girl have been best freinds for about 6 years. We started dating and loving eachother for about a month, everything was perfect. but then she surprised me today and said she still has feelings for her ex and just wants to be friends. Her and her ex stoped going out about 2 years ago. She loved me and always told me i was the perfect guy every girl wants. Now i dont rly tlk 2 her and avoid her and she started crying over me and but still doesnt know what to do because she doesnt want to lose me. What should i do to make her choose to come back to me?

Tags: 6 years, eachother, feelings, freinds, Friends, love

I’ve been with my girlfriend for close to 9 years and know she says she feels trapped. I don’t want to lose her, how can I save our relationship?

Let me start with some background info:
For the first 6 years of our relationship everything was great but the last 3 have been weird. Let me tell you when the problems started. It all started in 2007 when she started acting funny and being real secretive. She would come up with some weird stories when I would ask her stuff and I noticed she started taking her phone every she went. One time I took a look at her phone because I would always see her textn’ and then start acting funny. When I looked at the text messages, it was empty. She erased all the messages and when I asked her why, she replied "to make space". That sounded like bull to me but I love and trust her so I let it go. A couple months down the line it continued so I once again took a look at her phone and this time I saw all these flirtatious texts with another guy. Nothing bad but real flirty. The guy new me, which made it worse but I saw in the texts that he said "if anything happened and me and my girl would break up then he would make his move but that he wished us the best". When I confronted her she got scared and said that she was just messing with his feeling and that nothing happened. I believed it due to the content of sum of the messages and left it alone. Later down the line she was still acting the same and so I start thinking that she is cheating on me. A few weeks later I run into a girl I use to mess with before me and my girl started dating and we started talking in a friendly way. The girl knew I had a a girlfriend but one day the girl wanted to take it one step further. I thought to myself, "my girl is probably doing something with some other guy and I’m here being faithful like a dummy". So I let the girl give me oral sex…It only happened a few times but I did let it happened. Me and this girl messed around from 2007 to January 2008, but in that time we only fooled around once every couple of months and usually it would be around the time my girl and I would stop talking because she was being weird.

Now it gets bad…….

My girlfriend ends up finding out that me and this girl were messing around. She ends up talking to the girl I messed with but the girl makes up this story and tells my girl that we did more then ever really happened and acted like she didn’t know I had a girlfriend. This girl lied to my girl and was trying to sabotage the relationship between me and my girl. My girl confronts me and when Im about to tell her the truth she says something and I start thinking of all the times I would ask her things and she would just say NO and probably be lying. So I denied it and we ended up breaking up. I later find out that she wasn’t cheating on me and now I felt stupid. So around May I call her and confess. That’s when we started talking and hanging out as friends again. We are both college students, so while we were still not boyfriend and girlfriend but just friends, we enrolled in most of the same classes which let us see more of each other and get closer. In August 2008 we ended up getting back together. It was weird at at first but around October 2008 everything got better and we were in love all over again. We went on two trips towards the end of 2008 and once we came back things were fine. Then in February 2009 she started getting distant and not holding my hand as much and not cuddling as much as we usually do(Yes we still cuddled) .She even started kissing me less. It just got worse and worse everyday. I tried to find out what was wrong but could never get anything out of her. I tried to make things right and fix things but it wasn’t working. Finally at the end of March 2009 we had got into a discussion on the phone(not a fight nor argument) and she told me that she felt trapped in our relationship and that the only reason she was still with me was because I wanted to be with and she loved me to much to hurt me. She told me that she didn’t know why she felt that way but that she read something online and she said she needs to grow and find herself without me in her life. I asked her what difference does it make if I’m not there? She said she didn’t know. I told her that I can help her and that if she wanted we could go to counseling but she just said forget it, lets just stay together so I can be happy. I didn’t like that response but I took it for the time being because I didn’t want to lose her. Later when I saw her in person that day I wanted to talk but she didn’t want to talk at all. Every time I tried to talk to her about it later down the line she would just ignore me. Things started to calm down about two weeks after but then it took a turn for the worse. On April 4th 2009 I went out clubbing with her on sum friends. I let her do her thing and let her hang out with her friends while I chilled with mine at the club. You know, I didn’t want to rui

Tags: 6 years, Acting, background info, Funny, girlfriend, oral sex, Phone 101, quot, relationship, text messages, texts

About a year ago we broke up because i wanted to see what it was like to be single. I loved him so much 6 years together. I started dating somebody else for 1 year but talked to my ex the whole time. He tried getting back with me i wanted to but didnt. He move accross the state because i wouldnt take him back. Im single now and realize i love him more than ever. How do i get him to believe me that i really want to be with him?

Tags: 6 years, Dating, Ex Boyfriend, love, whole time

I had an affair over a year ago when I was out of state working for a month and a half (the affair lasted about 3 weeks), we broke up after that for a couple months, then got back together.

He has cheated on me twice (that I know of) about 3 years ago, I let it go and forgave him, however he said he never had s*x with anyone else, just kissed so what he did was way different.

We have been married for 6 years, together for 8, I am 23 and he is 27. I still love him but he is not the same, I can tell he doesn’t really love me, he won’t talk about it, what are some things I can do to help make him love me again? I want this marriage to work, we have a 5 year old daughter together.

I do not work anymore, I stay at home with our daughter. I already do all the "wife" things like make his lunch for work, have him supper ready when he gets home, keep the house clean, I rub his back when he’s going to sleep. I do alot for him and still I get nothing.

I have put up with a lot from this man and I mess up one time and he can’t seem to get over it. He has done much worse if we add up everything. So how can I get him to realize that it was a mistake, it’s over, I love him and I only want to be with him? I want him to forgive me and try to find the love he use to have for me again, how can I work on doing that? He doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling. Any suggestions? No critisisim please.
Thank you
THANK YOU for all the great advice.
I do pray every night and I will continue to.
We are intimate, so that is still there with no problems.
I never go out with friends or anything like that, and we do go out together about once a month.
THANK YOU for all the great advice.
I do pray every night and I will continue to.
We are intimate, so that is still there with no problems.
I never go out with friends or anything like that, and we do go out together about once a month.
I will up the compliments, thank you for that.
I came clean with him about it when he asked, I could of EASILY lied and gotten away with it but I didn’t want to lie anymore.

Tags: 3 years, 6 years, Advice, compliments, Find Love, Love Affair, Love Marriage, lunch, marriage, marriage counseling, mistake, month and a half, sleep

She was with a guy for about 6 years. They broke up because he was cheating on her when she went away for college. After a about 8 months me and her started to getting feelings for one another. But throughout those months her ex still been trying to get at her. What should I do?

Tags: 6 years, Cheating, Ex Boyfriend, feelings

We are still together and going for 6 years now, but he seems like he’s no longer interested in me. He treats me like if I dont exist, but he treats his female friends like they’re everything to him. What should I do?

Tags: 6 years, female friends

I’ve been recently diagnosed with very very nasty and contagious Oral Herpes and I have given it to my mom. My step-dad died 6 years ago, it was the best love of my mom’s life, now how will she find love with disgusting looking lips and old age? I am going off to college and so will my sister, we will be living seperate lives, I don’t want my mom to live alone!!

Tags: 6 years, herpes, lips, love, mom, oral herpes, seperate lives, step dad