well i completely ended it with my boyfriend about a week ago. He just has been kind of distant and hes cheated on me before and it really got to me. I regret it because i feel like i need him and im absolutely miserable not talking or seeing him. Also im pregnant with this child but im getting an abortion next week because thats what he wants. Im so hurt and my self esteem is just so low. any advice how to get over this or what to do?

Tags: abortion, Ex Boyfriend, hes, self esteem

Im 16 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years. His name is charlie and he is 17. When we first starting going out it was amazing and we fell in love so quickly. We was like inseperable and it got to a stage where i had him wrapped round my little finger and he’d do anything for me and he was the most nicest person ever. He was always very over protective and didnt like me going out but i still did anyway. He also got me pregnant the first 5 months of us being together but i had an abortion so it made us a lot closer. Then it all soon changed after the first year and a half. He cheated on me, and cause it was all a shock to me i was devastated and i took him back. Our relationship kind of ended then but we just wanted to make things work. He then got me pregnant again on the second year and at the time he was seeing some other girl and i was just in bits. Each month he would just make me feel more insecure about myself. By this stage he was calling me fat and ugly. He then asked me back again and i took him back. He made me feel worthless. In february this year we split up and it was a joint decision because we was just arguing all the time. I really don’t understand him. Its like one minute he loves me the next he hates me. he just takes advantage of me all the time. In the past 2 months ive been constantly ringing him and hes been saying were going to get back together but then always changes his mind. I would walk up to his house because i physically cant sit at my house i will just be pulling my hair out knowing im not with him. When he looks at me now its like inside he’s dying and he loves me but horrible words just come out of his mouth. Its like hes trying to make himself hate me. I went round his house last week and he was saying to me he missed me so much and he loved me so much. Its like when im crying being all soppy and desperate he’ll walk away perfectly fine. But when im strong and being horible back to him he’ll want me back. So at his house we ended up having sex and it was really emotional. then straight after he was like meg go home. And i was just devasated. i dont understand him. i dont know what he wants. He just looked at me and you could tell he didnt wanna be horrible but he just said to me im so sorry my heads so fucked up. its been about 6 days since then, and hes got a new phone and a new number so i havent been able to contact him. Ive spoken to him on facebook but he just swore at me and then deleted me. I know he lloves me just atm he thinks he hates me because i wind him up all the time. It just hurts so much to see what he used to be, the boy who would do anything for me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, to this monster who calls me fat and ugly and doesnt care if im crying. i dont know what to do to make him realise that hes made a big mistake. Because i know what charlies like, i reckon if i do just fuck off like im doing now, and i havent spoken to him in about 2 weeks he’ll panick and want me back and ring me or something. I just dont know what to do. please help me

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I was with my ex for nearly a year. However towards the end, we made a stupid mistake and she became pregnant. Due to our age and other circumstances, i knew that it would not have been possible to raise the child. She wanted to keep it though. However for fear of losing me, she went through with the abortion. This made her hate me. She lost all feelings for me and although we tried working through it… she said she couldnt do it anymore. This killed me as we were really in love and already knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
For comfort, she went to her colleagues house most nights. And one thing led to another and 3 weeks later they were in a relationship. This killed me as i was trying to get her back. However just before they started their relationship we shared an extremely passionate kiss and she said she missed me and if it wasnt for what happened, she would still be with me. She told me she is over what happened and doesnt blame me anymore.

Recently we have become very close friends. She stops over at my house on the way home from her boyfriends for a chat. We are on the same course at university and have lunch together or go out shopping together when uni is finished. She is always wanting to chill with me and everyone says things are looking good for me. However she is still with her boyfriend and i found out they booked to go on holiday in june 2009… they booked this 2 weeks after being together!!

just wondering if anyone has any tips on how i can win her back. She calls me all the time and we seem to do everything together that we are allowed to do without cheating… (lots of hugging and kissing on the cheek)… her boyfriend doesnt know she even talks to me let alone meeting up cos he wont allow her to.. She is a girl that needs lots of attention and i have heard from her friends that she is having problems with him cos he wont give her any attention.

Does she really like this guy or is it just a rebound.. and is it looking good for me???

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